Thank you for the good wishes.
I know what Dee was saying and I decided to delete my comment because I don't want to be baited into an argument. I only responded the first time because s/he seems to be a bit behind on current STD testing.
I don't think I have ever written anything about my personal sex life on this forum. Dating does not equal sex.
That being said, different things work for different people. I see quite a few people stuck in joyless marriages and it's painful to watch. I also know women who have never had orgasms and who don't enjoy sex the way they should (and care more about their men enjoying themselves because it's their "wifely duty") because they only ever had sex with one or two inept and selfish men.
There are drawbacks to both sides.