Let me know if there is anything I might be able to help you with. I taught a number of courses on introduction to argument, etc.
Let me know if there is anything I might be able to help you with. I taught a number of courses on introduction to argument, etc.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
Thank you!Originally Posted by Kim
Let me know if there is anything I might be able to help you with. I taught a number of courses on introduction to argument, etc.
Johari/Nohari
"Tell someone you love them today, because life is short; shout it at them in German, because life is also terrifying."
Fruit, the fluffy kitty.
Right. Like the 100 times you offered to help me with school related issues, just to then avoid me and turn everything into small talk. You're nothing but nosy and unreliable.Let me know if there is anything I might be able to help you with. I taught a number of courses on introduction to argument, etc.
Which reminds me to share an observation about people who openly offer help to others. They rarely do it, and their motives are often related to self-image, prying, gaining interpersonal/political advantages, etc.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
I get busy and distracted and you are more than welcome to send follow-up messages. I offered to send you my email address (if I haven't already), which is a better way to communicate with me.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
You're pretty quick to respond when you don't have to actually help someone.
Focus has nothing to do with responsibility and integrity of character. If you get busy and distracted and can't keep your word, you shouldn't offer to help. Unless, of course, you don't mind lying and being an unaccountable hypocrite.
Taking my words out of context to make me look silly. Great work.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Your criticism was totally justified and I am sorry about not following through. Lack of follow-through and being easily distracted are among my biggest character flaws, especially when I get overwhelmed with tasks. In my job, I have developed strategies to make it work, but that doesn't always translate into other parts of my life. You can always remind me something and more likely than not, I will get to it right away (I tell my students to send reminders if I don't respond within 24 hours). In fact, shaming me works best ("hey, unreliable flake, what about your promise").
I own being unreliable, easily distracted, and lacking follow-through, but this is just silly.Which reminds me to share an observation about people who openly offer help to others. They rarely do it, and their motives are often related to self-image, prying, gaining interpersonal/political advantages, etc.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
Help Park, Kim, he is, hmm, grasping for air.
It feels weird sometimes. I'll come across something that I perceive as too insensitive, narrow-minded, horribly mistaken, offensively condescending, etc, and my initial reaction is to perform the verbal bitch slap of smiting on the person responsible. Then I see other people who may hold the same view as I but who handle the situation far more diplomatically. They're willing to give that person the benefit of the doubt, to say, "maybe his/her heart is in the right place but he/she misunderstands something", and to patiently work it out, try to find common ground and go from there. Maybe I'm too stuck on stereotypes, but I find myself thinking, "I'm Delta here. Shouldn't I be more willing to look beyond the immediate offense? Shouldn't I be the one oozing diplomacy and gently steering them toward a better understanding/perception?" And I can sometimes, but not so much when I am emotionally involved. When I am emotionally involved, I don't want to make excuses for the offender; they have crossed my values, and I must smite. I get focused on pwning the person and sometimes making them feel bad/ashamed for what they've said, forgetting that unleashing my fiery wrath upon someone feels awesome but is a rather unproductive approach if I want to truly change his/her mind. Maybe it's a maturity thing?
Johari/Nohari
"Tell someone you love them today, because life is short; shout it at them in German, because life is also terrifying."
Fruit, the fluffy kitty.
Death from above.
So I spent last week riding bikes all around a flat, dry, dusty desert and I survived. Thrived a little even.
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
Yay! How exciting! I bet you were sore the next day.
And now you've got more confidence in your bicycling abilities, right? (insert clapping hand emoticon)
IEE 649 sx/sp cp
Haha, yes, I was sore, especially the first few days. But by the end of the week it didn't seem to hurt quite as much. I definitely have more confidence!Yay! How exciting! I bet you were sore the next day.
And now you've got more confidence in your bicycling abilities, right? (insert clapping hand emoticon)
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
Te in action is like a slow motion car crash. It's slow, painful and everyone knows what's going to happen
is like a wet kiss on the cheek and a warm hug by a cute smiling girl.
is the confetti shots on your birthday party with all your friends.
is a way to completely rip apart the face of god and stare directly at the naked universe.
is like over here and then over there and they are all connected and I am on amphetamine.
Actually I didn't know I'm going to have four motorcycle accidents and fall down from the stairs five times but to think a damn hornet that stung me in my head would land in my hospital is hilarious.Te in action is like a slow motion car crash. It's slow, painful and everyone knows what's going to happen
You got fucked by Te pretty good dude. You might want to lie down.
I'm not licked yet.
I'm travel and relaxing this weekend. And, I'm going to eat protein LOL
And, since it's a vacation, I'm not taking my computer with me so there will be no posts from me
But, I may (not sure yet) appear in the tiny chat room.
I'm going to really enjoy it.
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Thanks
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
's because yoursucks.
Johari/Nohari
"Tell someone you love them today, because life is short; shout it at them in German, because life is also terrifying."
Fruit, the fluffy kitty.
That's one way of putting it. I'm sure there's more, like the road was crap, curves were too curvey, it rained, stairs were mightier than before and more steep, gravitational pull after a one too many was noticeable, etc. I'm still pissed at that hornet though.'s because your
I'm going to be an auntie again
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
Why did the previous baby die?I'm going to be an auntie again
No, we're having my sister's second baby.
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
You're having it together? Now that's a family. The family that carries a pregnancy together is the family that stays together. <3
"[Scapegrace,] I don't know how anyone can stand such a sinister and mean individual as you." - Maritsa Darmandzhyan
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Who wants to see a new world? Through the gate!
(my iPhone takes pretty nice photos, if I do say so myself)
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
I could see the first one making a great video game boss.
Johari/Nohari
"Tell someone you love them today, because life is short; shout it at them in German, because life is also terrifying."
Fruit, the fluffy kitty.
Tomorrow morning I begin the process of signing my daughter up for an online high school, then pulling her out of public school at about the end of the week. I'm both excited for her, and terrified for me, lol. I'll be helping her with learning the crafts she wants to learn (I am NOT a craftsy kind of gal!!). And helping her learn the skills needed for her to become more self-directed. At least it won't be like it was when I homeschooled her before. For starters, she's not so linear, rules-based, and concrete like she was, though I'll still have to cut down on how many approaches, options, and views I offer her. Also, this time someone else is covering the academic portions.
I'm excited in that I've finally begun learning in what ways she pushes past her mental-shutdowns, as long as it's in a context she wants to be in. So I'll be encouraging this. I think enough practice in this will eventually carry over into other contexts. As a mother...I can finally see some hope of her living the kind of life she wants, and being happy. It's a huge relief.
Unfortunately, it does mean 2 more years before I can resume my own personal interests and hobbies. *sigh*
And it might mean I won't be able to visit the forum as much as I'd like. It would be too distracting. Though maybe I'll be safer in the social threads...(while avoiding the theory related threads).
On the plus side, I'll be learning completely new stuff, yay for that.
IEE 649 sx/sp cp
@anndelise I got the Gentle Leader.
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
He's gotten so big!
Johari/Nohari
"Tell someone you love them today, because life is short; shout it at them in German, because life is also terrifying."
Fruit, the fluffy kitty.
I spent the weekend RELAXING with Jadea in Oregon. Couldn't fish for those sushi though; he had me under surveillance.
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
How did it work for you?@anndelise I got the Gentle Leader.
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
I know!
He's actually smaller than I expected him to get, though. His mom was a smallish golden retriever, though, and maybe his dad wasn't that big either. He's still pretty thumpable, though, and he's quite a cuddler and very huggable, so I'm ok with how he's turning out.
I used lots of tiny treats putting it on and adjusting it, and while he squirmed and pawed a little at first I think he's already gotten a little used to it. We went on a short walk with it and he pulled like usual for the first two minutes, but using the pull-then-release method I think he's starting to get the hang of it. Near the end I was able to have the lead pretty slack and he stayed by my side, so I think just practicing a bit more will do the trick really well.
My goal is to eventually have him be a relatively reliable off-lead dog (in appropriate places, of course). It might take awhile, but he's smart enough and so sweet that if I take enough time and effort to invest in the training I think it can happen.
Later, when I put it back on him to take the pictures, he seemed comfortable enough with it to sit and stay still while I shot him (he got more treats, of course).
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
I have been thinking of getting one for my female. She has become extremely protective and sometimes lunges at other dogs and men (she doesn't bite, but it's annoying). Off the leash she is just fine, but on the leash she can be a pain (since we got the little one - she is his big protective sister).
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one's courage.”
― Anais Nin
Bunter isn't aggressive, but he does love playing with other dogs so when he sees them he tries to go toward them. Today on our walk there were a couple walking toward us but I crossed to the other side of the street because this was new enough without trying to add in yet another ingredient. But I imagine it would help with that, too. My main concern is that it might interfere with natural doggy language when they are allowed to interact.
I'd say it probably wouldn't hurt to try on your pup. I do think that it involves more than just throwing it on and expecting magical good behavior - it's a tool, not a solution. But you know that already.
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
Lets see what did he and I do. What did he do? LOL
He made me relax, and eat good and healthy food. He wouldn't let me overexert myself and drove me to peaceful, scenic drives and areas where I could eat good foods and he pointed out that I should eat meat.
Next time, fun with this talkative, heart warming, fun loving, conscientious dual.
I came back home and my toes were relaxed. LOL
Dual type
Enneagram 5 (wings either 4 or 6)?
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
http://socionicsstudy.blogspot.com/2...functions.html
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Had to share this.
Johari/Nohari
"Tell someone you love them today, because life is short; shout it at them in German, because life is also terrifying."
Fruit, the fluffy kitty.
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Ye, he can eat few forum people actually. Does he eat humans from other quadras, Minde?
No, he likes pretty much everybody, though perhaps some more than others. He's a very people-friendly dog.
I saw him chase a bee around once and bite at it. Oh, and he tried to chase a squirrel once. I don't think he'd eat it, though.
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
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