I don't understand why I always find it painful being with extraverted thinkers (as in E*T*)... It has gotten to a point where I just don't see how I could ever actually survive frequenting with them for a long time. There is always something they do that doesn't make sense to me, and I find myself trying to understand without really finding anything. What makes this really hard is that I have a soft spot for them, and it appears to me as if this being in pain is one-sided. And it's not that I can't talk to them about what they are doing, it's that it will make me feel really stupid and uncomfortable. Of course, all this doesn't apply to ESTps (nothing personal).

I'm very interested to know this: how can introverted feelers cause pain to extraverted thinkers? Maybe there are also things that I do unconsciously that affects them. I really want to understand what goes inside your/their heads.