Rank who you want relationships with after your dual

[Ezra]

Identical, definitely last. I know INFps here are always raving about the Great Magical INFp + INFp Connection, but as of now I'm over it... at its core it's just a bunch of narcissism ..INFps just falling in love with "themselves" and thinking it's ZOMG GREATEST THING EVAR!!1

lol +1

FTR, I'd hate to get with my identical. Maybe for a bit of really angry fucking, but beyond anything sexual... it would just be nightmarish.

From experience, definitely activity then mirror. I'm interested in why people prefer their identical over their mirror.

[redbaron]

lol +1

FTR, I'd hate to get with my identical. Maybe for a bit of really angry fucking, but beyond anything sexual... it would just be nightmarish.

From experience, definitely activity then mirror. I'm interested in why people prefer their identical over their mirror.

I think mostly it's a temperament issue. EJs can be a bit high-strung. I mean, I love them but to live with them.... I do think I might prefer an identical to live with long-term. Course it really depends on the person.

[Marie84]

Activity, Identical, Mirror

Though outside of duality I would go with Activity->Semi-duality->Mirage

[Subteigh]

I don't see how "covering all bases" is equal to or greater than having the same mood and productivity patterns ("common ground").

But I didn't dispute you prefering your Identical to your Mirror...I disputed why. It seems by sharing "energy levels", you are actually referring to the supposed phenomena of two individuals sharing the same rhythm, which is quite different altogether.

[Joy]

Of the choices, mirror is last. Not only are they irrational, but they also don't give me anything that I can't supply for myself.

[Joy]

I'm interested in why people prefer their identical over their mirror.

irrationality vs. rationality

[stanprollyright]

Identical, Activity, Mirror

I'm interested in why people prefer their identical over their mirror.

I always get along better with irrationals, and have more fun. IJs bore me, especially mirrors because of how similar to me they are.

[Joy]

Mirrors are good friends though. They are interesting and the extroversion/introversion dynamic works well.

[stanprollyright]

From Wikisocion:

EPs perceive IJs as too predictable and boring, too unwilling to do things on the spur of the moment.

EJs see IPs as unpredictable, moody, as well as too passive and unreliable, especially if they are required to show initiative or even reciprocity.

IPs see EJs as annoyingly pushy and insistent in their initiatives; they may respect their energy levels but also wonder if they don't see that a lot of that energy is spent wastefully to no good purpose.

IJs see EPs as unreliable, and too unpredictable in their impulses and initiatives.

[Creepy-male]

I always get along better with irrationals, and have more fun. IJs bore me, especially mirrors because of how similar to me they are.

Interesting. I like how EIIs give me familiarity vibes. There's plenty of other sources of intellectual stimulation, imo. Like internet peeps, workshops, libraries, whatever you want. Anyway, no offence to any who might be reading! You aren't even boring to begin with.

Anyway, I'm more likely to get on a Rational's nerves than they are to get on mine, so...

Anyway, I think two Intuiters is only slightly above two Logicals in terms of Bad Ideas. I could see a mismatch between j/p causing a tension and a loss of cohesion as the relationship progressed.

Basically, this is a tricky question with no neat answers. I'd certainly say semi-dual is vastly preferable to any non-duality quadra member. Though, I'd have to discard Mirage. From the ILIs I know, they're pleasant enough, but I could see the Ne/Ni mismatch as being very uncomfortable for the both of us. Perhaps there would be more cohesion, though, even if it did turn out to be a bit of a strain.

EDIT

Jeez, I'm being pessimistic right now. Even semi-dual seems like a bad option.

[jewels]

Interesting. I like how EIIs give me familiarity vibes. There's plenty of other sources of intellectual stimulation, imo. Like internet peeps, workshops, libraries, whatever you want. Anyway, no offence to any who might be reading! You aren't even boring to begin with.

Anyway, I'm more likely to get on a Rational's nerves than they are to get on mine, so...

Anyway, I think two Intuiters is only slightly above two Logicals in terms of Bad Ideas. I could see a mismatch between j/p causing a tension and a loss of cohesion as the relationship progressed.

Basically, this is a tricky question with no neat answers. I'd certainly say semi-dual is vastly preferable to any non-duality quadra member. Though, I'd have to discard Mirage. From the ILIs I know, they're pleasant enough, but I could see the Ne/Ni mismatch as being very uncomfortable for the both of us. Perhaps there would be more cohesion, though, even if it did turn out to be a bit of a strain.

EDIT

Jeez, I'm being pessimistic right now. Even semi-dual seems like a bad option.

yeah I agree w/ all of this actually. But you know, semi-dual at least has great Si and the Fe is fun, though not necessary. A really quiet LSE can appear a similar to SLI at times too, so really not so bad. But a very gregarious talkative LSE can be a bad match.

And I don't think you're being pessimistic. Just trying to find the best matches. I mean, we all have friends of all types, but why not try to find the most enjoyable relations right?

[Creepy-male]

yeah I agree w/ all of this actually. But you know, semi-dual at least has great Si and the Fe is fun, though not necessary. A really quiet LSE can appear a similar to SLI at times too, so really not so bad. But a very gregarious talkative LSE can be a bad match.

Well, primarily the problems I could see with SEIs are that I find that I almost compete with them on the "fun" front. I don't think it's necessarily a bad thing, but it does make me feel internally tense slightly, and I'm being hyper-picky right now

I think I posted in another thread too that they seem a bit reluctant to connect on Fi's terms sometimes. It could just be that not everybody appreciates you spilling your life story over martinis and coke, though

In terms of enjoyment, SLIs at least are always fun to talk to at. It's more of a passive experience, without that internal state I mentioned that SEIs can give me. I spew out random ideas non-stop, they smile in that "Please don't hurt me " way, I reminisce and laugh to myself. Perfect!

Hmm, I'm thinking SEI would be a good second pick again. But that's unfortunately not in the question!

And I don't think you're being pessimistic. Just trying to find the best matches. I mean, we all have friends of all types, but why not try to find the most enjoyable relations right?

Well, I mean, comparatively pessimistic. I was thinking back to when I was touting SEIs as the best thing since sliced SLIs . Interesting contrast of opinions, there.

But yeah, I agree. It's good to be able to enjoy yourself with minimum tension.

Sorry if I keep referring to abstract non-people here, btw. I'm just mentally going back over recent interactions.

[jewels]

It could just be that not everybody appreciates you spilling your life story over martinis and coke, though

In terms of enjoyment, SLIs at least are always fun to talk to at. It's more of a passive experience, without that internal state I mentioned that SEIs can give me. I spew out random ideas non-stop, they smile in that "Please don't hurt me " way,

I couldn't stop laughing at those two. So true! But I knew an ISFp who actually wanted me to spill my life story and enjoyed my rambling on Fi topics, so I think it depends on the person. Though yeah, they would rather do a goofy dance than connect on an Fi-level .

Good to know others have experienced the "please don't hurt me" smile LOL.

[CheGuevara]

Why only my own quadra?!

Who do I want relationships with?

1.) Benefactor
2.) Supervisee
3.) Look-a-like

Not Identical, not Mirror, not Activity...

[redbaron]

Why only my own quadra?!

Who do I want relationships with?

1.) Benefactor
2.) Supervisee
3.) Look-a-like

Not Identical, not Mirror, not Activity...

Unwise.

[xkj220]

Unwise.

I personally don't see why. There are many marriages who are composed of those inter-type relations, and they get themselves by just fine. The friggin' intertype relations aren't everything.

[munenori2]

Dual>Activity>Glamourama

[Blaze]

Why only my own quadra?!

Who do I want relationships with?

1.) Benefactor
2.) Supervisee
3.) Look-a-like

Not Identical, not Mirror, not Activity...

benefactor prolly the best of these....supervisee take it from red, ALOT of misunderstanding. lookalike works out ok at first but take it from me you grow apart.

[UDP]

Dual>Activity>semi dual