Tiny Dancer did a great job explaining this!! Your sister sounds sooo much fun! That night sounds awesome, with the scrabble and all the different activities.
As for Si, I'll add that I have this thing....where if I'm eating or drinking, I want someone to focus on their own food and drink enough that I can also relax and enjoy just eating/drinking too. The ENFj guy didn't look around, didn't notice the surroundings, didn't even seem to see what he was drinking -- he just kept talking about abstract things right at me. So it distracted me from all Si things and I didn't feel grounded (I felt even less grounded then when alone actually). We were sitting in a hard wooden uncomfortable booth for 2 hours with not tasty drinks that were mostly empty, with blaring music, in dark lighting, with nothing to look at, etc. ick.
An Si type will really experience things physically, I notice that, and it reminds me those things exist. Then I can relax into that. I need some moments of silence to just enjoy chewing my food or enjoy my wine or whatever. There need to be those little pauses to enjoy that, and just to look around and take in the surroundings. I also talk a lot, but when I'm done I can come back down to reality to just "hanging out here, right now."
Si types are very aware of like, just sitting in a chair. They experience that and are fully "there." I forget I'm even sitting down. I sit in ridiculous positions and sometimes notice I've completely cut off circulation to a leg or something, lol.
So when I see them fully grounded sitting in their chair or whatever, and then if they touch my arm or something, I'll totally be sucked into that grounded feeling. nice. I will then want to jump over the table and cuddle with them. (and probably would if there weren't people around haha).
None of that happens w/ non Si types.
I remember going to the movies w/ an ISTp years ago and I was so ridiculously all over him it's kind of embarassing to admit. We'd only gone out a few times, but he put his arm around me or something and then I pretty much was like a dog who just comes over and sits on you and won't leave, lol. I remember him almost laughing at one point, seeming sort of flattered, yet confused.



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