This is interesting feedback against Deltas, and its fair to give it because according to Socionics we are all extremely annoying to some other types. I like how Socionics is very leveling that way. But I must protest passive-aggression because I am completely not that, and neither are the two ENFPs I know well.

However my INFJ friend is that way very cleverly; its very amusing when she tells me what she does, though I would never do what she does. But she is this way with her aggressively hostile Conflictor husband, and he deserves it. She gives back what she gets, but in her own way. [and I don't believe "an eye for an eye", but I returned kindness for hostile manipulations and it got me nothing but disrespect from my ex, and INFJ is holding her own in a bad situation].

I did do thigs her way one parfticular time I remember. My ex, in his hostility (INFJ's husband is my ex's brother; it runs in the family) refused to respond to my requests to give me any clue what time on Sunday he was bringing our son back by, so i could never plan anything, and I shared my helpless frustration (since asking plainly and politely asking is the only thing I knew since I am not passive aggressive) with my INFJ friend. I took her advice to lock the house and just not be home, and when he called my cell phone demanding where I was, I said, "Oh! I am clear across town shopping. Its going to take me awhile to leave the mall and get to my car and drive there." And I took my time. And he had to wait there outside the house with our young son before he left town for his 6 hour drive home. It was the best advice because it only took twice and I have never had to ask again. And since he never knew me to be passive aggressive, he never even suspected I did this on purpose.