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    I can't do a search of this, so if you have any useful links. post them. I'd like to know some perspectives of Fe egos concerning Fi, if you can be anywhat descriptive to why you value Fe over Fi, and your opinion of Fi with stories about Fi types and your relation with them, possibly specifying how certain Fi egos differ in your light, the rational vs irrational types, if there's a distinction that would be wise to make.
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    Since I can't give you an answer on that, I will give you an answer of my perspective of from my view as . I find it to be very grating when it comes from Alphas, mainly . For some reason it gets to be to much and I can't take it anymore. The two irrational egos I know use it at a level that I don't find annoying. However, I can think of one , when she uses it, it doesn't annoy me unless it is on a political topic (she is left-wing, I am conservatarian) and for some reason there it becomes very annoying, whereas I know lefties that Gamma and Delta that don't irritate me on political subjects.
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    Obnoxious maybe?

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    I think Fi makes rules. I think Fi is the source of political correctness and the expectation that we remain within social boundaries that allow everybody to feel "safe" or "happy" or "comfortable" or "not offended." Why would any body want to feel safe, happy, comfortable, or not offended? Furthermore, the four are mutually exclusive!

    Okay, that was a few seconds of ranty-ness. But let's see:

    My mom is NeFi and I find that her understanding of how to make people happy in the world is useful in its place, but not as useful in intimate (not sexual, but "psychologically close"). For instance, I once asked her why she says "will you please do" x when really she means "do x". She provided a good explanation, and now it's just a part of how I think. But in retrospect, I might use socionics to say that I was expecting SeTi bluntness/directness while she was expecting Fi politeness. There's another word I associate Fi with: politeness. Whereas I associate Fe with rawness. I prefer raw to polite is all (although I do see where polite has it's place, and as predicted by the theory, I do somewhat assume a certain kind of politeness as an unintended, unthought-about given), or I might say I prefer interpersonal white-water-rafting to fishing on a placid lake.

    Also, my cousin may or may not be FiSe, and if so I think his kind of Fi is just stupid. Generally harmlessly stupid, but stupid. Like, making decisions based on too little information, or information interpreted way too narrowly, forming opinions about how things should be done ("should" is another word I associate Fi and Te with, whereas I associate Fe and Ti with "is", but that might just be bias).

    One of my mom's best friends is FiNe, and she's nice, but again, some of her rules are just stupid, like caring too much about the vulgarity of a movie her daughter watches. I mean, I guess my censorious (Freudian, not socionics) superego assents to both her right and her justification in that area, but my knee-jerk reaction is: wow, that's stupid, why do you even care?

    Finally, my little brother is SeFi, and the only thing that annoys me is when he tries to protect me, although both the action and the irritation may be unrelated to Fi (the protection seems more Se, maybe, while the irritation is due to my own pleasantly messed-up psyche). Hmm... what else... no, my brother bothers me more with Te kinda stuff, not so much the Fi. That's generally unannoying as far as I can think of right now.
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    Gamma Fi ignores political correctness.

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    the ranty part was more delta-aimed, wasn't it?
    Not a rule, just a trend.

    IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.

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    Quote Originally Posted by silverchris9 View Post
    I think Fi makes rules. I think Fi is the source of political correctness and the expectation that we remain within social boundaries that allow everybody to feel "safe" or "happy" or "comfortable" or "not offended." Why would any body want to feel safe, happy, comfortable, or not offended? Furthermore, the four are mutually exclusive!

    Okay, that was a few seconds of ranty-ness. But let's see:

    My mom is NeFi and I find that her understanding of how to make people happy in the world is useful in its place, but not as useful in intimate (not sexual, but "psychologically close"). For instance, I once asked her why she says "will you please do" x when really she means "do x". She provided a good explanation, and now it's just a part of how I think. But in retrospect, I might use socionics to say that I was expecting SeTi bluntness/directness while she was expecting Fi politeness. There's another word I associate Fi with: politeness. Whereas I associate Fe with rawness. I prefer raw to polite is all (although I do see where polite has it's place, and as predicted by the theory, I do somewhat assume a certain kind of politeness as an unintended, unthought-about given), or I might say I prefer interpersonal white-water-rafting to fishing on a placid lake.

    Also, my cousin may or may not be FiSe, and if so I think his kind of Fi is just stupid. Generally harmlessly stupid, but stupid. Like, making decisions based on too little information, or information interpreted way too narrowly, forming opinions about how things should be done ("should" is another word I associate Fi and Te with, whereas I associate Fe and Ti with "is", but that might just be bias).

    One of my mom's best friends is FiNe, and she's nice, but again, some of her rules are just stupid, like caring too much about the vulgarity of a movie her daughter watches. I mean, I guess my censorious (Freudian, not socionics) superego assents to both her right and her justification in that area, but my knee-jerk reaction is: wow, that's stupid, why do you even care?

    Finally, my little brother is SeFi, and the only thing that annoys me is when he tries to protect me, although both the action and the irritation may be unrelated to Fi (the protection seems more Se, maybe, while the irritation is due to my own pleasantly messed-up psyche). Hmm... what else... no, my brother bothers me more with Te kinda stuff, not so much the Fi. That's generally unannoying as far as I can think of right now.
    I disagree that Fi makes rules. Might be the cause for the rule, but not responsible for its establishment/enforcement. Also, if someone tells me to just "do x" without showing some level of submissiveness, I take it as ordering me around, and reaaallly don't like that. I can tell when someone is bossy, or just wants to be efficient in what needs to be done.

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    You're right; "rule" has certain connotations that don't work here. No, by "rule" I don't mean an expressed demand that is enforced by threat of consequences, but rather an unspoken expectation that causes an unpleasant reaction when violated. I dunno how I feel about "do x" really. I do have the immediate, "I'm not your lackey" reaction. In fact, I might have been unclear about this: I'm pretty sure that I prefer "would you please" to any alternative. It's just that I needed an explanation and examples to understand why that was better; my inexperienced/unsocialized reaction was just "well, if you mean 'do it,' why don't you just freakin' say 'do it'? Why give why give me the illusion of an option, when there is no option present?" But yeah, that turned out to be an Fi social custom that I do appreciate and enjoy, although the occasional "just do it" is nice, if it's from the right person. From the wrong person, it's immediate grounds for fighting (not physically, but psychologically, it puts them in the 'we're fighting' category. But that again, is probably not socionics related). In fact, that phrase "social customs" is a good phrase for Fi, IMO. Fi creates "social customs" or "norms" that are to be followed for the sake of the group getting along. Breaking them labels you as a "bad actor" and makes you socially frowned upon. I find this stupid; one cannot judge a person (well) based on how well or poorly they fit a certain set of social guidelines; maybe they're just amazing in ways that the existing set of customs doesn't yet accommodate or understand or include. To me, this is very much allied to Te "how things are to be done," which is BLECH, even if to Te egos/superids, it really just means "how things are best done".

    Just wants to be efficient counts for 0 with me, unless I'm being especially enlightened that day. Trying to be effective on the other hand (In my mind, efficient = Te, effective = Se. Se is get it done, Te is get it done right/in the best possible way) is legit. If I'm getting in the way of a common goal, push me out of the way! If I believe in the goal too, I might be miffed that you didn't do it in a way that didn't hurt me, but whatever, I'll get over it as long as it wasn't too painful. Eventually I'll forgive.
    Not a rule, just a trend.

    IEI. Probably Fe subtype. Pretty sure I'm E4, sexual instinctual type, fairly confident that I'm a 3 wing now, so: IEI-Fe E4w3 sx/so. Considering 3w4 now, but pretty sure that 4 fits the best.

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