Ok, when I first came across the description of my dual I was like no way! I like these intense thinking type conversations and actually enjoy almost competing in a mentally quick conversation. Its not about ego either, its like ummm playing a game that you really enjoy.
This can energize me so to me its always made sense to be with someone who can feed that energy. Well after my last relationship I realized that there were was something really flawed in the way I was looking for a person. Yes, looking for an equal is good but I was forgetting about some of the things I don't take into consideration that need nurturing.
I'm very sensitive to criticism when its about my behavior or personality. Mostly because I've heard it so much I'm like hyper-sensitive to it now. Plus it also kind of goes against some of my values. To me, to try to change someone's behavior is to control them. Then the person isn't working from their strong side.
I need to be with someone who doesn't want to control me and also who doesn't abuse the fact that I don't like to be controlling. I won't demand my feelings be taken into consideration usually. I might eventually mention it if they are being overlooked enough. Even then though, I won't demand anything....I will leave the choice up to the invidual.
In my experience, quite often selfishness kicks in a lot here. But with my dual the ISFp, they need freedom as much as I do but not in a way that threatens me or would threaten them. I wouldn't have to demand that my feelings be taken into consideration.
We both seem like pretty low-maintenance people too. If someone was meeting my emotional needs and really valuing me, I can actually see me being extremely protective of them and wanting to make them as happy as they were making me.
Thinking at certain times when I've had this even for brief times, I was much more confident in all areas of my life and much more ummm together I guess you could say.
Long story short, the more I think about the more I do feel that the dual relation thing has a lot of merit.
I think I know one ISFp but there are just too many complications in his life and my life is complicated enough. I'm sure though that there are other ISFps who are in less complex situations.
There is definately a certain sweetness too him but there's nothing about him that sticks out at me that would make me think...ah ha!!! an ISFp!
How do yo feel about your dual's description?