just to be clear... what I was talking about is actually Fe, right?Originally Posted by JoyIn the situation with the student, I would probably say or do something to aleviate the situation, subtly put the class in their place by making them realize how immature they're being. If the student being laughed at wasn't totally mortified I might flash him a grin so he knows I'm on his side and he shouldn't take the situation so seriously. I think standing there with a sad expression does more harm than good. No one feels any better. If he's a total outcast, I might eat lunch with him too if it was practical. I wouldn't bring up what happened. It's irrelevant, and he needs to understand that. I've learned the hard way though that this can TOTALLY backfire and it's often best not to get that involved or show him that much attention.
I think Fi is a lot more than empathy. Fi is about what people's best interests, not just their emotions. That's rather shallow. Fi is caring about other people's position. Fi also cares about how other people's needs and wants... where they are in the situation and what will become of them... their overall position.
Anyways... I am quite empathic AND I have Fi. I feel pain when others feel pain, and I am even more aware of other people's best interests, and I think about their positions. Remember what I tell my 6 year old about kids who pick on him? "Honey, tell him it hurts your feelings when he treats you like that and nicely ask him to stop. Remember, when people are mean it's because they're afraid of something. That kid was probably mean to you because he's afraid that people will like you more than him or that you're smarter than he is. If you are mean to him back when he's mean to you, it will only get worse. If you treat him like people like him and he's smart, he may see that there's nothing to be afraid of, and he might stop being mean."