And sx-first gives you crazy people like Gul
Actually, /threadjack. I like Nick's way of looking at sx, but I want to add that I don't think the radar pings are necessarily conscious.
yes I do think this happens.
I would prefer someone who is so/sx or sx/so. The sp would turn me off a bit.
At least, externally, do sx tend to just sort of pop up out of nowhere *really close* to you?
Brill did this, and an ILE from school too (and he's the hyper-focused, not very sociable type too).
Brilliand is no longer sx-first, lol. Never mind.
The question still stands, though.
My intimate/interpersonal relationships are pretty much everything in my life. As long as I have that I am perfectly happy with whatever happens.Intimate relationships never have played a pivotal role in my life. I tend to think the whole marriage thing is overrated.
With sx-lasts, I would say if it's hard to get to that point of deep connection and they are clearly awkward with that, and don't get past guardedness. With sp firsts not showing intense emotions outwardly. Not very good at conversation when it goes into the getting-to-know-you stuff, especially with sp/so. With so/sp, there may be a group orientedness but a pushing away when trying to get to that deeper level.
I actually am an sx last... There was one sx-dom who described sx last in an sp/so sno matter how many times you talk to an sp/so, the feeling of distance never leaves. I personally wasn't entirely conscious of this until it was pointed out, and it may appear that way to an extreme sx-dom. It's hard for us sx-blinds to know what's missing from us variant wise unless someone with an opposite blindspot, or is extreme in our blindspot points it.
9w1 5w4 2w3 sp/so
yea if someone feels like they have no "sex appeal" to them they're usually sx last. its pretty basic. unfortunately everyone's confused about the sexual instinct because of certain enneagram teachers who have tried to remake the sx instinct to "intimacy instinct"