Assuming that Ni is the function that allows for a better understanding of time progression, I wonder if any relationship with dissonant Ni (as in one person makes use of it, while the other doesn't) can cause a sort of "painful" experience to the person who actually thinks about the reality of how things actually unfold. I have seen this play out at times in my own life actually, and I was wondering if this is something that is characteristic of people who are in some way proficient at considering "time."
I have come to a point where I feel like I want to steer away from people who are overly optimistic about the time they have for things, and always seem to squeeze in time for new things rather than trying to maintain what they have, not knowing that they can actually lose what they had with this sense of time greediness. I've noticed this play out with friends from alpha and delta, so I thought that it was related to not valuing Ni. It makes me feel bad when I'm talking to someone and they are so genuinely convinced that "we will be hanging out sometime soon" when you just know that it's not going to happen... Or, how a friend can tell you that they "didn't have the time" to read something important you sent them which can be read in less than a minute, when they end up talking for hours on the phone with someone who they just met, and don't see how these two things have anything to do with each other.
How can someone deal with this type of people without feeling some kind of disappointment from them not being able (or just not seeing the need) to make more time for the "more important things" such as friends and family? The type of person that when you're hanging out and talking you are interrupted by their cellphone going off, and they start texting or accepting a call, as if it cannot wait for a couple of hours... This type of thing is starting to really turn me off. Makes me wonder what is the point in maintaining this type of relationship if they don't have the time.


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