Originally Posted by
Tim
When I was younger, my dad could get aggressive and fight with my mom. There are domestic violence in my family. I have seen my dad beaten up my mom because he doesn't get along with my maternal uncle who he considered a failure and useless in lfie because he drop out of university and thus my dad considered him to be useless. Another time when my dad did domestic violence is when my mom accused my dad of cheating on her and look at my dad's phone. My dad got mad because he is being controlled and then another case of domestic violence ensues. Because there are frequent domestic violence in the family in my childhood, my mom often take my sister and I out of house and stay at a hotel for up to a week.
I did get spanked because I am just doing what I want and not listening to my parent. My dad bring his strict Confucian values into America, which is why some aspects of the East doesn't really appeal to me. He also slapped me for no reason when I was younger (10) especially during a domestic violence dispute with my mom, I think all of these lead to me becoming an enneagram 8. I later became bigger, taller, and stronger than he is, and thus he can't hit me no more. At least, the good part is that most of the time, he goes on business trips to China for months and thus I don't have to deal with him a lot. I called the shots whenever he is gone. When I was younger, I actually feel relieve everytime he goes on a business trip.
I did ended up getting in trouble in high school. I got suspended four times, and I had to transfer to another private school because technically, I was expelled but I was deemed not allowed to return. I only have been to private Christian fundamentalist school since the public school is shitty in the Deep South. This leads to more domestic violence between my mom and my dad. He did try to beat me up but then I did beat the shit out of him because he start getting violent. I did talk with a Bible teacher who have a violent trailer trash redneck dad, and we relate with fighting with our dad. However, since the Deep South is a Beta ST culture, I did get along with most of my classmates but not the administration. I later got away from my parents. My dad initially wanted me to stay and go to college nearby but I got three offers and one partial scholarship to play college soccer. My dad said no but I later frauded my parent's check and my mom gave in to my demands and let me go to college. The good part is that my dad usually go to business trips to China at that time and thus I determined my own destiny in that moment.
After college, I later returned but I ended up working for my dad's business. My dad doesn't hit me no more because I will beat up him up if he do. I think you could call assault charges on them if they did anything to you. I still argue with them because I demand a lot from my dad (authority as well as a higher wage and benefit). I am demanding that my dad paid for my apartment in Buckhead since I worked for him. However, based on this, he have good use of Se but there are lot of things that distingish my dad from me. We are superficially similar since we have the same strength of function (4D Se and Te). However, he tends to give long lectures on how to do things. He emphasized on being useful, educated, and productive and his insult is being useless, uneducated, and stupid. He doesn't understand why I am more reckless and hot-tempered. There are a lot of similarities between my dad and your dad. That's why I think it is very possible that your dad is an LSE because he's similar to my dad. LSE could be violent, toxic parents, and my dad is an example (and I think your dad is an example too).
He also didn't clash with my sister at all. She is goody two shoes who is quiet and not dramatic, and thus it gives him a calm of mind. I think the fact that my EII sister exist prevents him from acting like your dad.