I was thinking what Ishysquishy said about types with strong and his last sentence was about ...bouncing back from another ..., which I interpreted as: why we don't prefer the person with the same base function if we enjoy it that much.. (Hope I understood it right).
I came to understand better the perfect match and how it may work and then I found this:
Posted: Fri Feb 17, 2006 4:43 pm Post subject:
I don't understand what you people are talking about.
I'll tranlate for you: Si, to him, is like an old hag/criminal media creepyladythingy from USA that puts her/its hands down his pants to prepare something warm.
That was actually pretty funny.
Because to me, Fi is like some creepy motherfucking beggar woman from the south of France coming up to me and trying to tell me that she understands everything about how I feel and how I think and that she can see right through me and I'm totally transparent. It honestly makes me physically shudder. Fucking people.
ENTp, Intuitive subtype
The interesting thing is that this is a very good example for my conclusion and I would like to invite you to check it out further.
According to socionics rationality/irrationality dimension is very important (and I agree) in the ideal match but then socionics suggest that
The partners should differ on introversion/extraversion dimension -
this is something I can not agree to be a rule or perfect match. I suggest instead that the key to perfect match (again not as a rule) may be in the first and the last functions which which are the same as regards to introversion/extraversion dimension. I mean that for those types who has got as a base function needs a partner with as a base function
because these two functions are simply perfect for each other. In the same way it will work for other types:
All what is needed now - the exapmnles from our RL (real life) to support or rejects this conclusion. It may be that suggestion is too narrow? However, socionics does make lots of "narrow/exact" predictions not supported by research.
I can imagine that in RL we chose partners which atract our strong functions while what we need (according to socionincs and I partly agree) the support to our weak functions. What I suggest however is not a full support but a selective support. For example, For ISFJ socionincs recommend ENTJ . I argue that INTJ would fit better .
I was fortunate to be married to ENTJ so I have got experiences to compare:
1. He was bored much more from my ideas than INTJ ( versus ).
2. He was not happy with me being most of the time content and quiet:
he said to me: Cheer up, girl! ( versus )
3. We had very different attitude to life in general (morality was different).
I probably could continue analysing...
What is your opinion of perfect match from the point of socionincs? Of course, there is more to it than types and functions but ... it's ok to try!