View Poll Results: 30+ seconds of PDA?

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  • I'm Beta and I like PDA

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Thread: Betas and Public Displays of Affection

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    copying Banana Pancakes' poll!


    Last edited by glam; 04-28-2009 at 08:16 PM.

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    greater than 30 seconds?? How about greater than ONE second! I really dislike it. PDA feels like you either a) have zero self-control which is kinda disgusting b) have the need to flaunt your love for others which is insecure and weird c) have no respect for a public location as such (unless you're in the park and there's no one else around, in which case it doesn't really count as PDA because no one sees you. in that case it's fine)

    When I see other people doing it I think the same thing: they're either disgustingly "in love" and need to get a room, or they have this need to advertise the FACT that they're in love and supremely happy and don't care what anyone else thinks. I dunno. It's just... unnecessary.
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    greater than 30 seconds?? How about greater than ONE second! I really dislike it. PDA feels like you either a) have zero self-control which is kinda disgusting b) have the need to flaunt your love for others which is insecure and weird c) have no respect for a public location as such (unless you're in the park and there's no one else around, in which case it doesn't really count as PDA because no one sees you. in that case it's fine)

    When I see other people doing it I think the same thing: they're either disgustingly "in love" and need to get a room, or they have this need to advertise the FACT that they're in love and supremely happy and don't care what anyone else thinks. I dunno. It's just... unnecessary.
    Well, please don't push what you think upon others. There are plenty of cultures where PDAs are absolutely common, for example. It's extremely arrogant to decide what's fine and what's not in this respect. I mean, okay, 30 seconds of tongue-kiss is a bit too much if made on a bus, let's say, but in my city it would be perfectly fine if done in a park with other people walking.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    Well, please don't push what you think upon others. There are plenty of cultures where PDAs are absolutely common, for example. It's extremely arrogant to decide what's fine and what's not in this respect. I mean, okay, 30 seconds of tongue-kiss is a bit too much if made on a bus, let's say, but in my city it would be perfectly fine if done in a park with other people walking.
    I was just describing how it made me feel and what it made me think. You're free to feel otherwise. I'm not saying it's morally wrong and should be outlawed. lol
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    I voted for don't care for it!

    My boyfriend and I do engage in some slight PDA of course... but the description -- 30 seconds or more?! Ew... I get really uncomfortable with doing anything like that in public because I think people are watching (which they usually are!) - like Akra voiced. I also don't like watching OTHER people's PDA! It's just guh... I mean I agree with redbaron that it looks tacky and ostentatious - why do you need to display it ?

    I read somewhere that the more truly loving couples usually (and this does not always apply obviously!) don't feel the need to express their "love" outwardly in public, among groups... besides the usual closeness, hugs, tiny smooches - this is as far as I'll go, yep.

    I don't wanna gross people out, because I know I get grossed out when I see something that's better left for the privacy of one's own bedroom.

    I can see how this would APPEAR to be appealing to Betas, the whole thing coming in, like bitch I own you, let me show the world *MAKEOUT* ESTps might do? LOL that's a stereotype though... I'm guessing some INFps would enjoy this 'ownership' quality but personally, it can get to be a bit much... though if lead by a super confident ESTp, I wouldn't mind!


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    Quote Originally Posted by Akra View Post
    I think, being a xx year old male, the stereotype applied in FULL force.
    Fixed it for ya.

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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    How about greater than ONE second! I really dislike it. PDA feels like you either a) have zero self-control which is kinda disgusting b) have the need to flaunt your love for others which is insecure and weird c) have no respect for a public location as such (unless you're in the park and there's no one else around, in which case it doesn't really count as PDA because no one sees you. in that case it's fine)

    When I see other people doing it I think the same thing: they're either disgustingly "in love" and need to get a room, or they have this need to advertise the FACT that they're in love and supremely happy and don't care what anyone else thinks. I dunno. It's just... unnecessary.

    Seems like it's done to prove something, suggesting that if you feel it, you must show it and everyone must see it or it doesn't exist.
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    Quote Originally Posted by glamourama View Post
    copying Banana Pancakes' poll! PDA is defined as "greater than 30 seconds of face suckage/fondling".


    what? I thought it was standing less than a meter away from someone
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    I voted "don't care" because I think I don't give a shit on what other people might be thinking... I do what I feel like doing... If others don't like what they see.. they can just look away.

    I remember some "public guardians" (community police) telling me to "behave". I was just lying on a bench with my head resting in my girlfriend's lap. I complied but just because I don't like to put people in trouble (my GF in this case). If she would have been a SLE and minded the public guardians' involvement I would have probably not complied. Ticket or no ticket!
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    Quote Originally Posted by glamourama View Post
    my favorite bag has been accused of being ghetto
    To avoid such sentiments, simply choose something a little less fashionable:



    Within a week, you will notice others around you choosing the same accessory. Then people will be accused of being "glam".

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    the one IEI guy that I could type with some certainty likes letting his hands loose around his girlfriend. she's probably IEE and doesn't mind.

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    depends on what type of PDAs we're talking about haha

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