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    Default Fe and "Mindless Chatter" & Ti and "Blowhardness"

    Do any of the other Fe-types identify with this? A lot of the time, I find myself engaged in mindless conversation with people, without even realizing it. It's like things will come out of my mouth just to keep the conversation going. Stupid things of no real substance, and in which I have no real investment. It's come to the point where I'm afraid I come across as superficial and shallow to most people I know.

    Interestingly, I've seen something similar described by SLEs and LSIs I know. The reason I thought of starting this thread was an LSI told me that he didn't feel like he really was as much of a blowhard as he thought he came across most of the time.
    "How could we forget those ancient myths that stand at the beginning of all races, the myths about dragons that at the last moment are transformed into princesses? Perhaps all the dragons in our lives are princesses who are only waiting to see us act, just once, with beauty and courage. Perhaps everything that frightens us is, in its deepest essence, something helpless that wants our love."
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    Could you define "blowhardness" please?
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    Everything has depth to it, everything. It depends on how far down the rabbit hole you wanna go. So you are judging yourself negatively as being 'too shallow' when really, it's impossible for anything to be shallow. Ni gives you underlyining meaning to whatever you want to focus it's attention to.

    You can't help but have substance, depth. Of course other people will notice this about you, and other people won't- depending on your mutual attraction to each other and how well they pick on subtle nuances.

    Every perception is valid. However the perception you have in relation to others seems a bit muddied. Relax, and stop judging yourself so much.

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    Uh, to contribute to the thread:

    Depends on who with. I know it's a bad idea for me to mix with SEIs, because we wind up just diverging on random anything chattering.

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    I know LSIs who are people-pleasers... I hate that shit (b/c I hate when I do, to be honest, so I tend to condemn the behavior like a hypocrite.) Dualized LSIs, I've found, are less insecure.

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    I don't know but I think the softest ISTj have stacking of So/Sx and people mistaken their Fe dual seeking as people pleasing, they can be tough after the initial period of Fe dual seeking, They are not dominant in a way where they will scream and act tough to intimidate you, I think those people are bullshit.
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    1)
    A girl who I want to date, asks me: well first tell me how tall you are?
    My reply: well I will answer that, if you first tell me how much you weigh!

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    A girl I was dating said she was oh so great at sex etc, but she didn't do blowjobs.
    My reply: Oh I'm really romantic etc, I just will never take you out to dinner.

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