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Oh god! Feels bad for you.
That's the problem though, all this fun and banter, which is really fun, makes it seem like this is working, makes it seem like everything is fine. Which it's not horrible but man it's rough when it is rough. No pun intended. Look what I'm doing here, I am complaining about my ILE friend in public, sort of like your friend.
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Troll Nr 007 idk what any of that means really. I do know Ti gets off saying really nasty things sometimes and Fi-dom just can't deal...and Fi PoLR doesn't understand asking"Why are you so squishy?" And Fi-dom doesn't see their squishyness as squishy but as normal and has to explain that over and over again to Fi-PoLR.
Honestly I think EII supervises ILE through silence. ILE Ne needs to be having an affect on people, needs to be causing reactions out of them, good or bad doesn't matter, it loves shock value. If EII doesn't like ILE behavior and EII recognizes that they like reactions they withdraw their reactions from ILE and become silent, and then ILE is left to ponder the worst in silence, which they usually think the EII absolutely hates them, it's not that severe but this works in favor of the EII. That is the only way I have been able to regulate my ILE friends behavior. 3 different ILE that I know that has worked on.
I agree about bridging the gap through banter, yes that works real well.
This relation from my experience isn't, OMG EVERYDAY SUX I HATE THIS PERSON. Or I wouldn't be friends with ILE.
It's more like, we have alot of fun, but there are so many tiny moments of frustration and hurt that it builds up and creates a history of pain that you think can't really be changed. It's not death by being crushed, but death by 1000 papercuts.