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    One more small rant about deltas before I hit the hay (Jeesh I'm tired)

    At first I was greatly addicted to Deltas' um kind of 'Moralistic healing' card. They claimed to want to heal me to fix me up to be a productive member of society. Hey I'm not mocking the cliche, it's something we all want. Their intentions are pure, like vanilla cane- I could almost smell it. And I wanted it so badly. To just be cleansed by a fire so pure. But it was too pure, too wholesome it would destroy me.

    But then they made me feel so guilty. For realizing my own faults all too clealry and making me feel nervous and uptight and aw shucks about the least little bit self-indulgence I got myself into. It's like, their Fi was too.. too much of a white laser beam thrusting inside my chest. They wouldn't let me be a whore when I needed to be, wouldn't let me slip up and just let me make my own mistakes. I agreed with them in principal but it was like they were so disconnected from real trial and error all their 'wise sayings' and craps began to feel like harsh judgements I couldn't fight. I was whatever they thought I am...

    They were nagging and prodding like nosey busybody moms that want you to do 'the right thing.' At the time it didnt' feel so bad like they could really help but looking back, they were just... overly moralistic and too judgemental with me. Like it's true, they represented everything I wish I could be but I couldn't be that, I am just a regular earthly-driven ol' smelly Beta that likes the smell of feet- they tried to inspire and aspire me to be more. But I just felt left out. I want somebody to appreciate my darkness, what's so hard about understanding that? I need somebody to love my demon, my dark side. No offense but most interaction with deltas in real life feel like they're kind of, like well I'm watching a preachy after school special. I need to learn change and grow but I just ugggaahhghaghghhghgaghaghhgghghghgh.

    Don't take this the wrong way. IT's just. Ugh.

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    Interquadra fights <3

    It's cool. I don't think most Deltas view their interactions this way at all, but it's certainly interesting to note that Aristocratic flavour... "Deltas" over "This one IEE girl". We still love you, B. And also your take. That too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BulletsandDoves
    I want somebody to appreciate my darkness, what's so hard about understanding that?
    Absolutely nothing. I don't give the time of day to people who can't acknowledge the full breadth of human nature or condemn people who do. I think if society was a bit more psychologically accepting of these various facets of our core nature, there would be a lot less strenuous restraint which ultimately hampers our own fulfillment in expression and interaction.
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    Quote Originally Posted by strrrng View Post
    Absolutely nothing. I don't give the time of day to people who can't acknowledge the full breadth of human nature or condemn people who do.
    There's enough irony in this post to equal 16oz of a T bone steak!

    And I really don't see where you guys come up with us being the "moralistic ones". I'd step over a dying bum. Not that I don't give two shits about dying people, it's that I can only care so much and give so much of my care to such a limited amount of people that I've got to reserve it for family and really really close friends, lest I wind up with a boatload of aquaintances and no true friends.

    And Archon... I'm not politically correct. Ask cracka. (that fucking honkey)

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    Yeah... I don't think that this has got much to do with Deltas per se.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gulanzon View Post
    I don't think most Deltas view their interactions this way at all
    Buz-ACK-lee.

    If anything, Betas can come off as the preachy, pushy moralizers to me. And Deltas are more like "take your time with it, make some mistakes - it's OK!"
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    Nah Delta's are more moralistic in the way I think of the word.

    Beta's are more outwardly vicious, rigid, and dogmatic, but its in a way that makes me wanna go,

    "Oh you Beta's you're so silly. With your power plays and mystic bullshit. I can see your selfish motivations and you generally make them clear. Thank you for being so straight up."

    Delta's can kinda be control freaks. Like in that Fi judgemental way and they are a bit stubborn. Like,

    "Oh Delta's and your political correctness, I will say what I want around who I want, and I could give less than a shit if you think its wrong. Please stop being so condenscending. Also I noticed that you are using some outdated tools on your wooden folk art. I'd recommend going on the net and looking around because there is alot of neat stuff out there. Cool stuff you can do on the computer in combination with these tools too. Alright, cya tonight at the parish. Oh is she really? Oh wow. Yeah... well what goes around comes around. Yeah I know. Yep. Uh huh. Yeah, and I'd add that I never really liked her. I remember saying to George, that that kind of single parenting just doesn't cut it. Yep. Yeah. Yeah. Yep. Yes. Yes. No, nah, I'll be too busy working out and beating my wife."
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    Quote Originally Posted by iAnnAu View Post
    Buz-ACK-lee.

    If anything, Betas can come off as the preachy, pushy moralizers to me. And Deltas are more like "take your time with it, make some mistakes - it's OK!"
    This correlates with my experiences as well.

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    Well even if they said take your time and make some mistakes, and believed that- if I didn't do exactly what they said they would give me the hardest time out of any other quadra.

    Alphas didn't give a fuck, other Betas defended me as much as possible, .... Gammas were too busy ignoring everybody and trying to make money or something.

    I didn't mean to start a huge fight but some healthy competition is nice.

    And I wish people would accept my dark side. But not consume or condone it. I don't want that. I just want it to be accepted and loved. Unconditionally. I do not want to fully embrace it. That would freak me out to much. But I don't want it to be purged. I don't want to fight it.

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    What do you mean "the hardest time out of any other quadra"? Sorry to ask you to transmute your Fe into Te, but just try. For me <3

    I suppose that's a thing to want to "cure" people's dark sides. It's seen as something mutable, and subsequently, something that can be improved. Block that with , and I see why that can be construed as bible-bashing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BulletsAndDoves View Post
    And I wish people would accept my dark side. But not consume or condone it. I don't want that. I just want it to be accepted and loved. Unconditionally. I do not want to fully embrace it. That would freak me out to much. But I don't want it to be purged. I don't want to fight it.
    Luke, what dark side, talking about, are you, hmm? Yes, hmmm.

    Are you saying that people should accept and love you when your acting like and ass and screwing people over or is it something different? Heck, I never have talks in real life about the Dark Side, oh the internets. Id imagine the preaching part comes only from NF types.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BulletsAndDoves View Post
    Well even if they said take your time and make some mistakes, and believed that- if I didn't do exactly what they said they would give me the hardest time out of any other quadra.
    We look at it in terms of you wanting us to fix your problem. We want to help, so we try to find a solution for you. If you knock back our advice, we react badly because why else were you bitching and moaning about the problem to us in the first place?

    An actual example of what happened to give you this opinion would probably go a long way in helping us to understand and explain the reaction better.

    Quote Originally Posted by BulletsAndDoves View Post
    And I wish people would accept my dark side. But not consume or condone it. I don't want that. I just want it to be accepted and loved. Unconditionally. I do not want to fully embrace it. That would freak me out to much. But I don't want it to be purged. I don't want to fight it.
    Well that's rather inconsistent.

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    Quote Originally Posted by iAnnAu View Post
    Buz-ACK-lee.

    If anything, Betas can come off as the preachy, pushy moralizers to me. And Deltas are more like "take your time with it, make some mistakes - it's OK!"
    Oh come on... anyone can be pushy, and anyone can be patient. I've seen both in the same types. Heck even my ENTp brother can be a pushy moralizer lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by BulletsAndDoves View Post
    At first I was greatly addicted to Deltas' um kind of 'Moralistic healing' card.
    At first I was addicted to Beta's abusive hysterical-take-all-give-nothing-back kind of social interaction. But in 2006 I went into therapy, kicked all the wining INFp bitches out of my life and in the past three years became a master of keeping Betas at an appropriate distance (which is: out of my life).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Andromeda View Post
    Yeah... I don't think that this has got much to do with Deltas per se.
    I don't know. IME it has been the deltas (ones who are "important parts" of communities) who promulgate these sentiments the most profusely.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BulletsAndDoves View Post
    One more small rant about deltas before I hit the hay (Jeesh I'm tired)


    They were nagging and prodding like nosey busybody moms that want you to do 'the right thing.' At the time it didnt' feel so bad like they could really help but looking back, they were just... overly moralistic and too judgemental with me. Like it's true, they represented everything I wish I could be but I couldn't be that, I am just a regular earthly-driven ol' smelly Beta that likes the smell of feet- they tried to inspire and aspire me to be more. But I just felt left out. I want somebody to appreciate my darkness, what's so hard about understanding that? I need somebody to love my demon, my dark side. No offense but most interaction with deltas in real life feel like they're kind of, like well I'm watching a preachy after school special. I need to learn change and grow but I just ugggaahhghaghghhghgaghaghhgghghghgh.

    Don't take this the wrong way. IT's just. Ugh.
    Hm, I don't relate to this at all. I usually try to understand other people, I even deal with my friend who just cheats on her boyfriend on a regular basis. I do not judge her. I try to help her in a way, that's true. But I understand that there are more colors than black and white.
    I've got my own moral code myself but I am aware of the fact that a day may come in which I break my rules. I happened a few times so that may be the reason why I do not judge. It used to be different though. I think I'm rather patient with people. My ex ESTp boyfriend even used to say that I have this kind of wonderful patience.
    I do not like when people hurt others and that's all. So following this, I'd just make sure that my friend's boyfriend doesn't know that she cheats on him and maybe help her deal with this after some time (she wants it herself). Things can be pretty complicated sometimes. As for the rest, I do not judge too much.

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    what the fuck is this

    Quote Originally Posted by BulletsAndDoves View Post
    One more small rant about deltas before I hit the hay (Jeesh I'm tired)

    At first I was greatly addicted to Deltas' um kind of 'Moralistic healing' card. They claimed to want to heal me to fix me up to be a productive member of society. Hey I'm not mocking the cliche, it's something we all want. Their intentions are pure, like vanilla cane- I could almost smell it. And I wanted it so badly. To just be cleansed by a fire so pure. But it was too pure, too wholesome it would destroy me.

    But then they made me feel so guilty. For realizing my own faults all too clealry and making me feel nervous and uptight and aw shucks about the least little bit self-indulgence I got myself into. It's like, their Fi was too.. too much of a white laser beam thrusting inside my chest. They wouldn't let me be a whore when I needed to be, wouldn't let me slip up and just let me make my own mistakes. I agreed with them in principal but it was like they were so disconnected from real trial and error all their 'wise sayings' and craps began to feel like harsh judgements I couldn't fight. I was whatever they thought I am...

    They were nagging and prodding like nosey busybody moms that want you to do 'the right thing.' At the time it didnt' feel so bad like they could really help but looking back, they were just... overly moralistic and too judgemental with me. Like it's true, they represented everything I wish I could be but I couldn't be that, I am just a regular earthly-driven ol' smelly Beta that likes the smell of feet- they tried to inspire and aspire me to be more. But I just felt left out. I want somebody to appreciate my darkness, what's so hard about understanding that? I need somebody to love my demon, my dark side. No offense but most interaction with deltas in real life feel like they're kind of, like well I'm watching a preachy after school special. I need to learn change and grow but I just ugggaahhghaghghhghgaghaghhgghghghgh.

    Don't take this the wrong way. IT's just. Ugh.

    take some responsibility. So its everyones fault but yours, right? No one did anything to you, you gotdamn victim. You made yourself feel that way.

    Grow up.
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    You totally misunderstood my post.

    I'm glad I pushed a button in you though.

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    To Deltas, Not all Betas think about Delta this way.
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    Quote Originally Posted by BulletsAndDoves View Post
    You totally misunderstood my post.

    I'm glad I pushed a button in you though.
    What do you expect?

    You come into the DELTA forum bitching about DELTAS. Then you have the AUDACITY to talk about how judgemental we are.

    What the fuck do you think that post was?

    GAH.
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    Quote Originally Posted by thePirate View Post
    What do you expect?

    You come into the DELTA forum bitching about DELTAS. Then you have the AUDACITY to talk about how judgemental we are.

    What the fuck do you think that post was?

    GAH.
    I think he's just ranting because he wants someone to give him Se over the forum, put him in his place.

    Guess you might even have done that for him (not saying you are Se btw) but he'd probably need it to be forced into him a few times for him to submit or some shit.

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    I suppose Delta can be harsh, but then you also misunderstand us. : )

    Quote Originally Posted by BulletsAndDoves View Post
    You totally misunderstood my post.

    I'm glad I pushed a button in you though.
    In what way did s/he misunderstand your post? It seemed the Pirate just didn't give the reaction you wanted.
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