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    Default Some conflict pairs have better relations than others?

    I've noticed some conflictor pairs (ISTj-ENFp...) have a "better" relation than others, making cooperation between conflictors somewhat possible. For example, ENFps and ISTjs get along well, as long as they don't spend much time together, but ESTps and INFjs I know can't have a minute of peace.

    Any thoughts on this? Are dynamic conflictors more pragmatic when it comes to make things work and they ignore their conflictor instead of having arguments with him/her?
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    Hm... All the ESTps that I personally know (and have identified) - we get along fine. There is sometimes a natural tension in terms of differing desired directions, and often a sense of complete disconnection (kind of like trying to talk to an alien), but not any animosity or fighting. Up to this point, anyway. It may help that all of those ESTps are quality people and that we each have respect for the other. And that usually we have other, non-socionic, common grounds and interests. I've spent several years working with and for an ESTp, and I've enjoyed most of it. We have the ability to work well together. It's not always the easiest, but it's definitely possible.
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    It just depends on how close the two become. Obviously if a pair doesn't become close, they won't have as strong of conflict relations. ... stupid question

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    I was wondering if this was a trend as well, my enfp friend gets along ok with my istj roomate but they just ignore each other because they have no interest in the others affairs. But all it takes is time, as I got to know with my conflicter. I was intially wary of my sisters boyfriend and not without good reason....Got aquainted with him then BOOM John madden Te anger. Covert nervousness my ass. Now I can't be around him for more than a few minutes without feeling it drip off him. A dynamic of his facial expression: I also happen to have a quasi identical roomate....who also has rage outbursts...over bullshit. I need some dual contact asap.

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    I worked with an ENFj before, and I couldn't work with him. Nor could he I think fathom how to work with me. Although when work was aside we did have some OK-interesting conversations, so I probably could have got on with him as a friend without too much in-depth contact.

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    I got along no problem with my ISTp brother in law, and at times even enjoy his company.
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    Default Least conflicting conflict pair of types?

    Is there any specific Conflict pair that seems less conflicting than the others?


    The reason I'm asking is because I have a EII friend and I also have an SLE friend. They are not friends but they do know each other and are around each other a bit at parties and what not. Sometimes the SLE friend makes an ass of himself (as he is want to do). The EII friend is such a sweetheart that I have never seen her seem upset or irritated with him or anything of the sort. Then I was thinking about what a forgiving kind person she is and it got me to wondering if a conflict relation with an EII would be easier than a conflict relation with some other more "difficult" types.

    For clarity, I am well aware that my EII friend is her own person and that not all EII are the same and as kind as her, etc

    I'm also not discounting the fact that it is still a relation of conflict. I don't think my EII friend is going to go out and start befriending all the SLE's she comes across. I am merely wondering if anyone has any theories or experiences of certain conflict pairs getting along better than others?

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