
Originally Posted by
Diana
I don't know. I'm not sure how to answer that question. I've seen myself in most of these at some point or another, but it changes. I'm primarily secure, sometimes with a dismissive streak. Sometimes I have felt clingy, other times fearful-avoidant. A lot I think depends on your relationships at the time, and how you feel about them, how you interact with each other.
I think perhaps if a person was with an anxious-preoccupied person (clingy) they might become more dismissive if previously secure or fearful-avoidant, and more secure if previously anxious themselves.
Two secure people would probably increase each other's security. And a secure person might become more anxious if paired with a dismissive person. A dismissive person might become more dismissive yet with an anxious person, and the anxious person more anxious.
I wouldn't imagine it'd happen in a short time period, but over time having ideas reinforced one way or another might lead to some change in opinion of oneself and how one felt about relationships in general. After all, if your attachment style is formed by relationships, it could continue to adjust through relationships. Including of course your relationship with yourself, your own self-esteem, meaning you could over time become more secure by being more secure with yourself.