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  • Ne and tries to make eye contact

    1 5.88%
  • Ne and does not always make eye contact

    5 29.41%
  • Ni and tries to make eye contact

    4 23.53%
  • Ni and does not always make eye contact

    3 17.65%
  • Se and tries to make eye contact

    2 11.76%
  • Se and does not always make eye contact

    0 0%
  • Si and tries to make eye contact

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    Does socionics typing matter in how the person carries oneself in conversation? Specially this poll is about Si/Ni/Se/Ne type and making eye contact.

    What is your personal experience and observations?
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    I often feel like I have to force myself in order to make eye contact with people. Most of the time I'm not making eye contact when talking to someone.
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    I feel a bit creepy if I make too much eye contact with someone. Or the other way around ... when someone is looking at me really intensely, it makes me uncomfortable. I generally look away while I'm talking, or glance casually at the person to take in the person's overall vibe or whatever ... rather than zooming in on their eyes.
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    When I'm actually speaking, the eyes are all over the place. When someone else is speaking, I'm a little extreme with the eye contact...and the squinting and scrunching of the forehead to comprehend what's being said. I'll catch myself sometimes and realize it's probobly scary

    I would say yes, it correlates with your type.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jessica129 View Post
    When I'm actually speaking, the eyes are all over the place. When someone else is speaking, I'm a little extreme with the eye contact...and the squinting and scrunching of the forehead to comprehend what's being said. I'll catch myself sometimes and realize it's probobly scary

    I would say yes, it correlates with your type.
    i think that i scrunch/squint when other people are talking too.

    I'm not sure where my eyes are when speaking.

    I do notice that not everyone does eye contact for conversations. One thing I've noticed is that if I do talk with someone that does eye contact easier, then other people can sometimes kind of watch our interaction.

    But like some of those people who watch, they'll get kind of uncomfortable if you interact directly with them, but they can kind of warm up through seeing the way you interact with others.

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    let me throw myself in

    I have a desire to establish eye contact with the person I am talking to, but I do this unconsciously. If I am doing something, I don't think about it as much and concentrate on my own thoughts.
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    I don't like to make eye contact. People have actually criticized me for it. I don't care, though; I think it's just a meaningless social convention.

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    I want to make eye contact, and can wish I had done it more afterwards. I've been trying to be more mindful of it.

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    I play this by ear. I usually maintain eye contact; not doing so is usually a sign that I'm bored or generally uninterested in the person. Personally I think that eye contact is important for me because I can tell more easily whether a person is being straightforward with me or not; sometimes eye movement can be an indication that someone is lying. However, sometimes people feel threatened or uncomfortable when you try to maintain eye contact with them, which is important to be aware of; being nervous doesn't mean someone is lying, and it's important to tell the difference if you don't want to become universally paranoid. Also, if I'm thinking while talking or trying to explain something, my eyes will float around, especially when I gesture.
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    I actually analyzed this a while ago. I tend to make direct eye contact with a person talking if there is a large or small group of people. If it is just me conversing with another person I tend to look just below their eyes.
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    Eye contact can feel invasive.

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    If someone didn't make eye contact with me, i'd get really offended and uneasy. I'm not sure if I can understand how people don't maintain eye contact when they're being spoken to...like...um...someone is talking at you and you're looking at the floor? Seems strange.

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    Constant eye contact is as unnatural as never attempting eye contact. It depends on how well you enjoy the person really.

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    I don't maintain constant eye contact. I am similar to tereg - if I'm listening, I'm usually looking straight at the person, but when I'm talking I look away more often. If I just looked straight at the person constantly, that would be too intense.
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