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    the daughter sounds like you.

    this is a very similar conversation that my sister and i have had, many times. we are more respectful with each other in it though. we're both a bit more open to each other's viewpoint even when we dont agree. but, the essence of this conversation is so close to what we've said to each other.

    i believe you've said your mom was istj in the past.

    my sis is probably delta, enfp or infj, with isfp next and i'm pretty darn sure i'm beta at this point. and you've likened me to your mom before as well.

    that's as specific as i can get.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dbmmama View Post
    i believe you've said your mom was istj in the past.
    I'm not sure of her type anymore. I think Se-valuing, but probably not Se ego.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Jem View Post
    I'm not sure of her type anymore. I think Se-valuing, but probably not Se ego.
    ok, so, you're trying to figure it out... that's the most i can give you though. hope you get more responses then.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dbmmama View Post
    the daughter sounds like you.

    this is a very similar conversation that my sister and i have had, many times. we are more respectful with each other in it though. we're both a bit more open to each other's viewpoint even when we dont agree. but, the essence of this conversation is so close to what we've said to each other.

    i believe you've said your mom was istj in the past.

    my sis is probably delta, enfp or infj, with isfp next and i'm pretty darn sure i'm beta at this point. and you've likened me to your mom before as well.

    that's as specific as i can get.
    Does your sister speak similarly to the mother or the daughter?

    I immediately thought EIE when I finished reading for the mother.
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    Quote Originally Posted by The Greeter View Post
    Does your sister speak similarly to the mother or the daughter?

    I immediately thought EIE when I finished reading for the mother.
    daughter=my sister
    mother=me

    some of the "rude" comments like "You just have to speak with authority, and they believe pretty much everything you tell them." and "You're incredibly naive. If you want to live your life just being blown to and fro by the wind - living in some happy fairy-land - you're on the right track. You're going to die an old lady having achieved nothing." and "Well, you need to change the way you learn. Let other stupid people make the mistakes, so you don't have to."

    are all things i THINK but would NOT say to my sister that harshly. i know and love and respect her too much as an individual who does not like that kind of harshness thrown at her to speak that way to her.

    with all that being said, the mother's type is definitely mine. sis and i have shared some of these exact sentiments back and forth. we actually cherish these conversations because we love each other deeply enough to respect the other's way of seeing things whether we agree or not.

    i learned to let go of my expectations of others that way long ago and to realize that just because I HAVE a purpose to fulfill that is along the lines of what the mother is saying, not everyone else has the same purpose and i better respect that in order for others to respect MINE.

    so, if some EIEs do not realize that and accomodate accordingly in their purpose of what they're doing and being, i can see why so many others would see them as manipulative bitches. helllllooo!! my own mom is either EIE or SLE, most likely EIE now and i observed her be that way. i learned how to be a healthier version. and you bet she respects and admires me now.

    well, jem, i hope that helps you. i have personally always thought you were IEE. you and my sis are a lot alike.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dbmmama View Post
    mother=me
    I wouldn't have thought that, you don't really appear that way. But I really suck at things like judging someone's character, so I'm not surprised.


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    well, jem, i hope that helps you. i have personally always thought you were IEE. you and my sis are a lot alike.
    Yeah Jem, you even VI like an IEE.
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    Quote Originally Posted by dbmmama View Post
    everyone is saying EIE for the mom or at least EJ and sounds like Se valuing. would the fact that i find some of her ways of saying things to be very rude and condescending, especially for the relationship with her daughter be any indicator that i do not value Fe in the way the mom does? i do value Se, but if i care more about my relationship with my sister than being rude to her, would or could i be Fi and Se valuing?
    Yeah ... I think that's probably significant ... because she often says things that I can see are true on some level, but just seem really unnecessary and harsh ... and make me want to point out another perspective regardless of whether I agree or not.
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    My dad loves me and values our relationship, but I think he would say that his responsibility as my dad is to give me information I need to help me more than to keep things smooth between us.
    Yeah - same.
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    Yeah Jem, you even VI like an IEE.
    pfft - what do you know about VI? :-p
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    Quote Originally Posted by Winterpark View Post
    I wouldn't have thought that, you don't really appear that way. But I really suck at things like judging someone's character, so I'm not surprised.
    i dont appear that way because i am not mean like that about it..........

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    I was thinking Ej for the mom and Ip for the daughter.
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    It sounds like me and my dad talking. When my dad is in a bad mood. He can be awful, but then he can be a real sweetie too. Anyway, I'm IEE and he's EIE, though that doesn't mean the people in the convo are those two types. I'd say it's a disagreement about the value of Se though so one dislikes Se and one greatly values it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Slacker Mom View Post
    It sounds like me and my dad talking. When my dad is in a bad mood. He can be awful, but then he can be a real sweetie too. Anyway, I'm IEE and he's EIE, though that doesn't mean the people in the convo are those two types. I'd say it's a disagreement about the value of Se though so one dislikes Se and one greatly values it.
    something i was thinking of...

    everyone is saying EIE for the mom or at least EJ and sounds like Se valuing. would the fact that i find some of her ways of saying things to be very rude and condescending, especially for the relationship with her daughter be any indicator that i do not value Fe in the way the mom does? i do value Se, but if i care more about my relationship with my sister than being rude to her, would or could i be Fi and Se valuing?

    i was just at the grocery store and saw two women who i could tell would have been the mom in this conversation, definite EIEs. that is not me. i am much more of a tomboy, jock type. we were out playing football at the park earlier and i usually am wearing my sports/workout wear.

    my own mom sounds more like the mom here in this conversation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by dbmmama View Post
    something i was thinking of...

    everyone is saying EIE for the mom or at least EJ and sounds like Se valuing. would the fact that i find some of her ways of saying things to be very rude and condescending, especially for the relationship with her daughter be any indicator that i do not value Fe in the way the mom does? i do value Se, but if i care more about my relationship with my sister than being rude to her, would or could i be Fi and Se valuing?

    i was just at the grocery store and saw two women who i could tell would have been the mom in this conversation, definite EIEs. that is not me. i am much more of a tomboy, jock type. we were out playing football at the park earlier and i usually am wearing my sports/workout wear.

    my own mom sounds more like the mom here in this conversation.
    It could mean you value Fi AND Se too.
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    I think in that kind of conversation (if I were in the daughter's place) my end would be full of . It would not go well.
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    Daughter is a 9, mother is a cp6

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    The mom just sounds neurotic. I think someone from any quadra could adopt that sort of "survival of the fittest" mentality. Perhaps the focus is on Se, but that doesn't mean Se is valued. The focus on accomplishment could be related to Se or rationality, but it doesn't have to be.

    This is just someone who feels she's been bullied and fears that if she is not tough like she's described, she'll be taken advantage of. She doesn't think of people very highly, herself being no exception. That's why she's decided to measure worth by accomplishment. Her daughter frustrates her because she upsets her world view.

    It's amazing that her daughter is so kind and wise, having been raised by such an unhealthy person.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Joy View Post
    It's amazing that her daughter is so kind and wise, having been raised by such an unhealthy person.
    I'm always amazed at how kids are their own person. not to say that parents don't influence, certainly they do but it always boggles my mind how much they're also just really themselves.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Joy View Post
    The mom just sounds neurotic.
    That's it. Toward some people you just have to adopt that kind of attitude. But if that is your general attitude toward people it means that your faith in humanity is on very low level.

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