What type was it with? And why was it so flyyy?
What type was it with? And why was it so flyyy?
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Okay. Probably the most ROMANTIC (not necessarily the BEST) relationship I ever had was with another INFp. Back when I was like 16. It was just one of those tragic I-love-you-so-much-but-we-can-never-be-together-forever relationships. Partly because his parents were nazis. But that fact added to the romance. You know, the whole Romeo/Juliet thing. Otherwise, it's my ESE husband (still going on). Yes it's a supervisory thing but he's a wonderful guy to have a life with and no things aren't perfect but I love him and the sex is great. what can I say.
IEI-Fe 4w3
Well, I can definetly answer which were the worst ones, ha. Probobly LIE. The whole thing was just a disaster. Huge, huge disaster...a year and a half of a disaster. I actually found myself in a good relationship with a LSI at one point which I didn't think would ever be possible but it was very comfortable. Not romantic, but comfortable. We were too much alike though so that didn't really work...felt a bit like dating your brother but we're still friends. I guess that one was the most stable out of all my relationships. I dated a SEE and they're very good partners if all you want out of it is the physical aspect. Blah, I'm on a dating hiatus for a few more months.
those are great.
I'll add a couple
longest crush (YEARS): ESI
most innocent and sweetest: SEI
strongest feelings: IEI
liked the least: SEE
easiest to start and leave (because he basically did everything before I even had the chance to fall for him seriously and then it was over due to proximity): SLE
IEI-Fe 4w3
IEI. And we're still together. Two Beta NFs in a relationship together is like.. crazy romance/emotion/intensity. It's almost too much for one to handle -- but we both love it! It's made me the happiest, healthiest I've ever been probably in my entire life and I'm in love.
End of story!
<3
IEI.
in chronological order:
ESI: excellent, couldn't have asked for more... but it was a "first love" when I was a teenager (14 to 16 years old) and thus doomed to failure, apparently
EFxx: Had fun and really connected, but I couldn't trust him to be faithful, so I got rid of him
LSE: holy power struggles batman! constant arguing. it sucked ass. but he's my son's father, so I definitely got something good out of it! lol
LSI: he was the "anti-LSE", a rebound thing that I am rather ashamed of for many reasons
LII: we connected on a level than I hadn't before, an intellectual level among other things. He understood me better than anyone ever had (except maybe the first ESI? I suppose there wasn't as much to understand at the time though), but he did not share my life with me. He didn't DO anything, and he said that my enterprising nature was the most unattractive thing about me (with my occasional hypochondria was a close second). I tortured myself to develop stronger Si to make the relationship work, but it did nothing more than make me miserable. So, in spite of a strong mutual attraction and absolute trust and intellectual stimulation, we were all wrong for eachother. Plus he didn't want kids.
ESI: <3 The Fe ignoring bothers me sometimes, and the pessimism can be difficult to handle when I see it as counterproductive, but overall it kicks ass. I need to do some more work on my part some more, and be more open about what I need from him. And I want his babies.
Last edited by Joy; 11-02-2008 at 10:02 PM.
So, to answer the question...
My relationship with the first ESI (Fi subtype) seemed absolutely perfect at the time, but I suppose I wasn't ready to settle down. I didn't know what else was out there, and even more so, I needed to learn more about myself and about life. I don't know how things would have worked out if we had stayed together, but I do know that I would have missed a lot of very difficult times through which I learned a lot of invaluable lessons. We never really experienced an adult relationships (since we both lived with our parents), so it's difficult to judge what it would have been like if it had started when we were adults. Judging by what he was like then and what he's like now, I'm not sure he would have pushed me as much as the second ESI does (which is something that I need). I know he would have been a good dad for the same reasons I know the second ESI will be, but he doesn't have the kind of intolerance for disorder, self-discipline, and "get er done" attitude that the second ESI has (which I also definitley need).
My relationship with the second ESI (Se subtype) doesn't have that "first love" charm to it, nor the tumultuous and crazy in-your-face hormones and novelties of a teenage relationship, but he is the most dependable person I've ever known. He's the type of person I always wanted to be with, and we're compatible in a lot of ways that aren't directly related to socionics. He's a bit "harsher" than the first ESI. More strict. I need it though. He's also a lot more dependable about keeping on top of day to day stuff, something that I fall apart without. He's very self-possessed, knowing what he wants (and doesn't want) and why about the kind of stuff I tend to be indecisive about. He's also a lot of fun. We laugh a lot. And he's good at dealing with me when I'm feeling overwhelmed. He's more insistant that I talk about something that's bothering me than the first ESI was (something I need), but then again, I probably didn't require as much prompting when I was a teenager.
Both ESI's are/were extremely loyal, committed, and honest. Both would have been/will be excellent parents. The only thing that he first relationship has over the second is that, being teenagers experiencing our "first love", we spent most of our free time just being together. Making out, playing video games, watching TV, going places together, just holding each other, etc. I think this is more of a reflection of life stage than of the individuals involved though.
The only good I can say about the relationships with the other types was that I learned from them (and the EFxx and I did have a lot of fun too I suppose, laughed a lot).
Last edited by Joy; 11-02-2008 at 10:24 AM.
...the human race will disappear. Other races will appear and disappear in turn. The sky will become icy and void, pierced by the feeble light of half-dead stars. Which will also disappear. Everything will disappear. And what human beings do is just as free of sense as the free motion of elementary particles. Good, evil, morality, feelings? Pure 'Victorian fictions'.
INTp
...the human race will disappear. Other races will appear and disappear in turn. The sky will become icy and void, pierced by the feeble light of half-dead stars. Which will also disappear. Everything will disappear. And what human beings do is just as free of sense as the free motion of elementary particles. Good, evil, morality, feelings? Pure 'Victorian fictions'.
INTp
“Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”
Originally Posted by Gilly
an IEE. if circumstances were different i think we'd still be hooked up.
6w5 sx
model Φ: -+0
sloan - rcuei
My best relationship is with my husband <3 <3 <3 10 years of bliss!
I had a lovely relationship with an ISFp for a while but I got tired of him, and dumped him for an ENTj (big shift!) I dated the ENTj for a long time, but we started fighting a lot and it just wasn't working out. I met my husband on the rebound from the ENTj.
I've dated other guys but those three were the most serious. Any other relationships didn't last more than a few months and I don't know if intertype relationships are very visible early on.
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Why iei? I'm not sure. I'm too tired to explain. It's just he was cutsey, and allowed me to be in charge and was probably one of the very few people in life who never once, not at all, criticized me. Okay. I exaggerate. He did, just the once. Nobody's perfect.
My ex was an SEE, to the best of my knowledge.
He was a sweet enough guy, but he was very prone to mood swings, very easily agitated by misunderstandings, and, although very deep and emotional, I always felt as if there was a level of emotional disconnect with him as well....does that make any sense?
I think the thing that bothered me most about him was the way in which he could be so emotional and overly dramatic without actually having a deeper meaning behind it- his reactions seemed to only be there to serve his own purposes.
I have my focus on what appears to be an SLE right now, but things are very complicated. We've both been hurt recently, and there is a lot of caution surrounding exchange of feelings. I'm hoping it may grow, but this lingering growth of a relationship is refreshing in many ways. I am used to rushing in, being hit with a rush of emotions that is passionate and reciprocated and then wanes. There is almost an unspoken element to this current relationship, which right now we dare not to speak of, but I feel it is there, on some level, somehow. This feels like it has the potential for more than that, but right now I'm trying not to focus too heavily on future possibilities, I don't want to rush in.
I still daydream about the whole thing a lot though
I'm not really sure what to make of him yet, there's a lot under the surface.
From what I know so far, I'd say as far as my relationships go it's SLE>SEE, but I was with the SEE for 7.5 years, and the SLE thing I wouldn't even define as "boyfriend" yet. I'm in a very experimental stage with him, looking forward to exploring the possibilities further.
Hello, my name is Bee. Pleased to meet you .
None of my relationships have met my standards of happiness yet.
"Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."
- Voltaire
My best romantic relationship was with the dead hooker I found in the woods when I was 14. Her ass was tight and she smelled like beef jerky.
There is an ILI sweetheart running around. I had strong feelings at the time; and still do.
While not exactly romantic, I have a close relationship with a SEI girl too.
I love both to death, but there are many things that bother me sometimes. I simply can't handle the victim attitude of the ILI and the irrationality and mood instability of the SEI.
I've come to the conclusion that I would only be happy with an SLI. I don't get along well with the Te subtype though. They are simply too sharp and proud for my tastes. The Si subtype is far more, I don't know, "human".
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...the human race will disappear. Other races will appear and disappear in turn. The sky will become icy and void, pierced by the feeble light of half-dead stars. Which will also disappear. Everything will disappear. And what human beings do is just as free of sense as the free motion of elementary particles. Good, evil, morality, feelings? Pure 'Victorian fictions'.
INTp
Dammit this was a really interesting subject matter and it's been derailed
Hello, my name is Bee. Pleased to meet you .
sick avatar dood.
and good point lols.
uhhhh....best romantic relationship....um...well i guess it was super ego, ENTp...but it turned into a pretty bad one after a year or so. there was on other one that was possibly duality but....uh...that....doesn't.....count as much? >.> /doesn't wanna talk about it
ill get back to you though, might have a good one in the oven. we'll see. seemingly healthier.
SEE Unknown Subtype
6w7 sx/so
[21:29] hitta: idealism is just the gap between the thought of death
[21:29] hitta: and not dying
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Yeah, go for the SLI! Especially if you're not enjoying the other relationships as much. Interesting...I guess the subtype thing really is accurate, since you prefer the Si subtype and are Ne yourself. I do like Si subtypes but they can seem almost too soft and warm and fuzzy to me (but for friends I enjoy them). I actually prefer the sharpness about the Te types, as I admire that and though it could look too proud I guess, to me it makes me feel like they're a strong person who can just take care of their business and I can relax. ANd the proudness can be cute on the right person.
Hi! I'm an ENFP. :-)
I was thinking about this the other day too.. I am an Fi sub, and I think the Te sub and I get along better, although initially they intimidate me quite a bit with their seriousness. After getting to know my Te friend better, her moods don't throw me as much, and she warms up quite a bit. The Si subs I've known prefer to stay within their comfort zone and don't like suggestions to move outside it. I think my energy level is too much for them in a romantic relationship. But there could have been other factors involved in that...
My best relationship so far has been with an LII. He's the most caring, considerate, intelligent guy I've ever known, and on some level I'll always adore him. Unfortunately for my idealistic self, I always felt like there was a fundamental disconnect, despite the fact that we had so much in common and so much to talk about. Can't get around that d*mn Ti We're still friends, though, and I'm glad for that.
IEE