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Yes, I can be rather long-winded.
Understatement of the year.
INFj
9w1 sp/sx
Now as far as ENFj's go, I don't particularly have a problem understanding them with regards to written or spoken language. They are rather forthright and succinct in what they say which leaves little room for misinterpretation.
I suppose the misunderstanding is on a more... human level. I understand what it is that they do, maybe even why they do it. But I don't feel like I can connect with them in those regards. There's a human disconnect that seems to happen that I can't quite explain. So, I feel like I'm talking a different "language", that I can palpably sense when I'm not being understood (maybe with my motivations as an example) or that I'm not quite understanding them and their motivations.
INFj
9w1 sp/sx
I think it depends on the INTp.. I think the Ni ones are harder for me to understand. I actually have trouble paying attention for a long period of time, and tend to skim posts from many people of many types. But in general, i think what hinders understanding for me is feeling that the climate of the conversation is not welcoming.
i could have claimed ESL, but it's a little late for that. fwiw, in communication with others, i actually make an effort to use simple analogies to represent concepts. the idea is that, overall, the gist of the idea, no matter how complicated, will come across. if nothing else, what is important about expressing an idea is that the general relationships which are at work underneath the surface are brought to light. this way, it seems that whatever is universally able to be experienced can be grasped by each person and used as a tool for understanding something different. perhaps this style of communication and understanding is Ni, i don't know. i think the use of analogies confuses some people's thinking, whereas it clarifies my own. nonetheless, it may be better left inside.
whenever the dog and i see each other we both stop where we are. we regard each other with a mixture of sadness and suspicion and then we feign indifference.
Jerry, The Zoo Story by Edward Albee