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    Default ESTp trying to understand INFps (IEI-SLE)

    If an SLE was basically not making an attempt to understand you, would you like that more than if they were trying to connect in a meaningful way? If they came with more direct, "let's fuck" approach, would you approve of that more than if they attempted to get deep and personal with you psychologically? Or do you like this once in a while? You know what I mean, the guy that stands out because he attempts to understand you rather than just make passes at you. Or does this scenario simply bore you?

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    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

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    Not an IEI, but no, I don't think they would unless they were really unhealthy to begin with.
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    I think if the relationship were already established then the direct approach is great (with preferably as few words as possible). But if things aren't quite there yet, I'm not sure. There are plenty of ways to show you understand someone without verbalizing it. I can't explain it really. what I'm saying is, there has to be a bond there but it can be non-verbal. I dislike a lot of talking. (yes, I know I married an ESE and the too much talking is occasionally a problem although I do love him!)
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    this is lol

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ezra View Post
    If an SLE was basically not making an attempt to understand you, would you like that more than if they were trying to connect in a meaningful way? If they came with more direct, "let's fuck" approach, would you approve of that more than if they attempted to get deep and personal with you psychologically? Or do you like this once in a while? You know what I mean, the guy that stands out because he attempts to understand you rather than just make passes at you. Or does this scenario simply bore you?
    INFps are attracted to people who like to argue (Se, duh). I've had two INFp girls ask me out after getting turned on by my arguing with coworkers about why God is fake and why killing babies is murder.

    From my experience, they are the ones who try to initiate the "deep connection". All you need to do is flex that Se bon@r.

    EDIT: This is a joke post, just to be clear. While the anecdote is technically accurate, I don't actually share the "attitude" toward it that I appear to express here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by discojoe View Post
    INFps are attracted to people who like to argue (Se, duh). I've had two INFp girls ask me out after getting turned on by my arguing with coworkers about why God is fake and why killing babies is murder.

    From my experience, they are the ones who try to initiate the "deep connection". All you need to do is flex that Se bon@r.
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    Quote Originally Posted by discojoe View Post
    INFps are attracted to people who like to argue (Se, duh).
    This is a gross oversimplification. I don't "like to argue"; arguments are emotionally draining. However, I certainly appreciate when someone will stand their ground without resorting to being accusatory, offensive, defensive or constantly telling me I'm wrong, illogical, too intense, what-have-you.

    What's really attractive is a person who won't run away at the first sign of difficult issues and emotional tumult. Willingness to understand and work through things because they VALUE me and not because everything's always gotta be hunky-dory pleasant (and of course, fake).

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    I've had two INFp girls ask me out after getting turned on by my arguing with coworkers about why God is fake and why killing babies is murder.
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    Quote Originally Posted by aka-kitsune View Post
    What's really attractive is a person who won't run away at the first sign of difficult issues and emotional tumult. Willingness to understand and work through things because they VALUE me and not because everything's always gotta be hunky-dory pleasant (and of course, fake).
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    Quote Originally Posted by aka-kitsune View Post
    This is a gross oversimplification. I don't "like to argue"; arguments are emotionally draining. However, I certainly appreciate when someone will stand their ground without resorting to being accusatory, offensive, defensive or constantly telling me I'm wrong, illogical, too intense, what-have-you.
    YOU. .. (FUCKING) .. I'M ONLY TRYING TO HELP ... YOU'RE WRONG .. IRRATIONAL .. TOO... INTENSE .. YOU ARE NOTHING .. YOU ARE SCUM ... YOU'RE LIKE A WHORE ON THE STREET BUT WITH A MOUTH ...

    Now, what were you saying?

    What's really attractive is a person who won't run away at the first sign of difficult issues and emotional tumult. Willingness to understand and work through things because they VALUE me and not because everything's always gotta be hunky-dory pleasant (and of course, fake).

    *snort*
    *runs away* You're too much. You make no sense. I don't even know who you are.

    I can't help myself. How could I help you?

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