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    Consider this ability: to decide not to be sad about something, and then, almost as if miraculously, get over it really quickly. Is this a Delta ST thing?

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    wow. i'm definitely not delta ST then.
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    maybe. i can pretty much get over anything. even you songofasappho?
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    I've noticed this too...

    It's kind of amazing to me how Delta STs (ISTps in particular) seem to be able to compartmentalize their feelings, and then just move on... Their attitude seems to be: "well, that sucked but there's nothing I can do about it now, so... Time to do something else." (And then they do.) To me, it's admirable... I mean, I wish I could do it--I don't "get over it" for months and waste a lot of time.

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    Could you elaborate on what you mean by this? Because if you get over something so quickly, then it sounds like you were never really bothered in the first place.

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    Quote Originally Posted by JuJu View Post
    I've noticed this too...
    Maybe you didn't notice LV's sarcasm. (Just maybe thou, cause it might not have been there at all, I ain't sure.)
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    It's kind of amazing to me how Delta STs (ISTps in particular) seem to be able to compartmentalize their feelings, and then just move on... Their attitude seems to be: "well, that sucked but there's nothing I can do about it now, so... Time to do something else."
    That's how I'd explain it. That's how it is for me, at least. Things bother me but I'm able to put it aside and move on with life especially if nothing productive will come out of worrying about said situation.

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    Quote Originally Posted by songofsappho View Post
    Consider this ability: to decide not to be sad about something, and then, almost as if miraculously, get over it really quickly. Is this a Delta ST thing?
    It's an ability I don't possess.
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    Quote Originally Posted by songofsappho View Post
    Consider this ability: to decide not to be sad about something, and then, almost as if miraculously, get over it really quickly. Is this a Delta ST thing?
    Sounds about right...

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    Quote Originally Posted by songofsappho View Post
    Consider this ability: to decide not to be sad about something, and then, almost as if miraculously, get over it really quickly. Is this a Delta ST thing?
    I can do this relatively well. And it really is kind of a, "well, that is that and I can't change it, so there's no point in stressing about it." Not to say that I don't feel acute emotional pain, but I can deal with it quite quickly, sometimes within seconds.

    As a student, I find this ability invaluable. I know people who are emotional wrecks because they can't let go of the times they fucked up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by force my hand View Post
    As a student, I find this ability invaluable. I know people who are emotional wrecks because they can't let go of the times they fucked up.
    yeah, i feel i'm quite good at not beating myself up over things like this (not making any claims to delta ST because i think it's unlikely, only that i relate with what you're talking about.) but yeah, isn't it sad to see the reverse?
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    Quote Originally Posted by implied View Post
    yeah, i feel i'm quite good at not beating myself up over things like this (not making any claims to delta ST because i think it's unlikely, only that i relate with what you're talking about.) but yeah, isn't it sad to see the reverse?
    Certainly painful when it's your more-intelligent-than-yourself friends who would do just that much better if they learned how to take an insignificant hit and move on.
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    Quote Originally Posted by force my hand View Post
    Certainly painful when it's your more-intelligent-than-yourself friends who would do just that much better if they learned how to take an insignificant hit and move on.
    ah! yeah, i used to know a guy about like this. he still beats himself up over 2 C's he made through the course of his whole college career. otherwise, i think he's quite intelligent and competent, too, and it's weird how he lets that get him down.
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    Just keep moving forward.
    You do what you need to do to keep going.


    There's a lot of stuff about this in ESTj profiles. "Vomiting" negative relationships, and just avoiding them. I think ESTjs may deal with most things in a rather visceral way, to be honest - at least this is what I'm learning.

    Also, there is a description about how ESTjs are "courageous in love", and cannot love someone who does not love them. I relate to that as well - I feel like if it is just me, then it's some sort of a sham, and see no reason to further waste my time. The problem of course is the accuracy of when I can realize whether or not it is just me, or, what the other person feels about me.


    Also, delta STs are caregivers, and there's an inborn sense of "I don't need help", even though they do in their own way.


    Furthermore, letting emotions or relationship hangups influence you too much will affect productive capabilities, so it must be dealt with. Delta Sts don't feel "less pain" or anything like that, they just "deal with it". There seems to be some strength in the thought of "ok, well, what do I do now?". Whatever the situation is, basically just apply that, and you can find ways to deal.


    Getting burned a few times or haphazardly placing feelings or being unaware of feelings growing for someone wisens you up, and you get "careful". It's easy to see how an idealist is the dual.
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