Types that are most loyal in relationships

[Rubicon]

Naw, that means you're not prone to lovey dovey bullshit.

Wow LV, I don't know how the IEEs resist you. :-P

[jewels]

I don't agree about ENFps and ESFps having a wandering eye...

I had a 4-year thing w/ an ESFp and he's actually the only guy who I never worried for a minute about, as far as him cheating. He felt the same way. Complete loyalty. And when we broke up, we both took over 6 months alone before dating others.

I've never lined up guys, because I'm way to into the first guy to notice others, and if I'm pissed off or not happy w/ the first guy, I end it.

Also, I know of two ESTjs who cheat on their girlfriends all the time. One in his mid 20s and the other in his mid 30s.

So I really think that morality and loyalty are separate from type.

[Simon Ssmall]

I don't agree about ENFps and ESFps having a wandering eye...

I had a 4-year thing w/ an ESFp and he's actually the only guy who I never worried for a minute about, as far as him cheating. He felt the same way. Complete loyalty. And when we broke up, we both took over 6 months alone before dating others.

I've never lined up guys, because I'm way to into the first guy to notice others, and if I'm pissed off or not happy w/ the first guy, I end it.

Also, I know of two ESTjs who cheat on their girlfriends all the time. One in his mid 20s and the other in his mid 30s.

So I really think that morality and loyalty are separate from type.

I have been in a 5 year relationship, still what i wrote before is still true. During that time there was complete loyalty, that doesn't change the fact I found a new girlfriend like 2 months after we broke up or that i was sizing her up. Actually that 5 year relationship taught me not to linger with relationships that go bad/aren't for me and just move along. Maybe I just didn't find the right one so i keep looking whats there.

[Slacker]

I'm sure many ENFps have no trouble remaining loyal but I don't think there's anything inherent in the type that causes that.

Same goes for ESFps. I don't think either type could possibly be called "most loyal." Especially when compared to INFjs and ISFjs.

[redbaron]

Same goes for ESFps. I don't think either type could possibly be called "most loyal." Especially when compared to INFjs and ISFjs.

I agree. Cause we're not talking about individuals, but types overall. I still think INFjs and ISFjs take the cake on this one.

[jessica129]

I've found that being single is quite possibly better than being in a relationship. I've had more fun alone than I ever had after a year of dating my last bf. I was so afraid of being alone but it's awesome. Go anywhere at anytime, do anything, talk to anyone, no stress, etc. It's shocking when you come out of a relationship and realize how much you were settling just because you didn't want to be alone. Ew. I'm never doing that again. Unless someone super special comes along, i'm remaining this way. Usually you only hear people say that when they're bitter but nah...try it people.

[redbaron]

I've found that being single is quite possibly better than being in a relationship. I've had more fun alone than I ever had after a year of dating my last bf. I was so afraid of being alone but it's awesome. Go anywhere at anytime, do anything, talk to anyone, no stress, etc. It's shocking when you come out of a relationship and realize how much you were settling just because you didn't want to be alone. Ew. I'm never doing that again. Unless someone super special comes along, i'm remaining this way. Usually you only hear people say that when they're bitter but nah...try it people.

Good for you! That's the healthiest way to be, imo.

[diljs]

I think a lot of ENFps have trouble remaining faithful. I'm fine since I've been with my husband, but before that I had a nasty habit of lining up my next boyfriend before I'd broken up with the previous one, and then dumping the old one for the new one. So I was literally monogamous but I was certainly not loyal or faithful. And, I point to Jude Law, whom I strongly feel is ENFp, as a good example of the "playboy" type of ENFp. I've read a couple of type descriptions that discuss that tendency too.

I'm sure many ENFps have no trouble remaining loyal but I don't think there's anything inherent in the type that causes that. And I have had many, many ESFp friends in my life and a great number of them have had serious problems remaining loyal in relationships as well. I just don't think creative Fi gives any assistance in that area at all. We're very good at forming relationships, and then we're very good at forming new relationships.

This describes the IEEs I know pretty well. I don't understand how they can be attracted to multiple people at once. It's just confusing.

[diljs]

I'm opinionated, but I usually put others' opinions before my own when it's something trivial.

This is the challenge for me as an ILE, bring those opinions out of you SEIs. I know they're there and I just wish you'd express them more.

[redbaron]

This describes the IEEs I know pretty well. I don't understand how they can be attracted to multiple people at once. It's just confusing.

I'm confused how you don't understand that. First, "attracted to" doesn't mean anything, there's no disloyalty in simply being attracted to someone else when you're in a committed relationship. The disloyalty comes when acting on that attraction.

[DirectorAbbie]

I'm confused how you don't understand that. First, "attracted to" doesn't mean anything, there's no disloyalty in simply being attracted to someone else when you're in a committed relationship. The disloyalty comes when acting on that attraction.

Great, 'cause I felt guilty about being attracted to an INFj who has an ESFp girlfriend.

[redbaron]

Great, 'cause I felt guilty about being attracted to an INFj who has an ESFp girlfriend.

imo, it really just depends on how you process that attraction and whether it goes away or lingers or whatever. I'm married, not buried.

[cracka]

I've found that being single is quite possibly better than being in a relationship. I've had more fun alone than I ever had after a year of dating my last bf. I was so afraid of being alone but it's awesome. Go anywhere at anytime, do anything, talk to anyone, no stress, etc. It's shocking when you come out of a relationship and realize how much you were settling just because you didn't want to be alone. Ew. I'm never doing that again. Unless someone super special comes along, i'm remaining this way. Usually you only hear people say that when they're bitter but nah...try it people.

I fully agree with this... I went from relationship to relationship from about 17-23. At 23 I got out of a 3 year relationship and here I am 5 years later and still pretty happy to be single. Of course, I'm human, so those times that I may think about a relationship it may get me down for a few minutes here and there... but overall, I'm ok with where I'm at.
The on bad part of this though... I think I'm at a point where I now look for something wrong in people that I'd want to be in a relationship with and tell myself that I shouldn't date that person when I find that. I've found that I can go out with women these days, with no problems... but turning that dating into a relationship is where my brain stops me and says... dude, being single rules... don't do it...lol. Luckily I listen to my brain more than my other body parts more than I used to...haha.
As jessica said though, if the right person comes along and wows me... sure why not.