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    So, based on my last thread, there seems to be some general disagreement on which beta type fits best for me. I'm still open to suggestions, which is why I made this poll.
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    all four of them make some amount of sense.

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    INFj
    maybe a saint is just a dead prick with a good publicist
    maybe tommorow's statues are insecure without their foes
    go ask the frog what the scorpion knows

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    Quote Originally Posted by Allie View Post
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    Quote Originally Posted by Allie
    INFj
    This was my gut instinct, but I didn't want to say anything too soon.
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    So I read a few of the general functional position descriptions on the wiki, and a few that would apply to ISTj I related to. Such as...

    Quote Originally Posted by Se creative
    The individual takes direct action to accomplish his goals and desires in the face of external obstacles, and also the interests of his close friends, family, or associates. This may involve prodding others to take necessary action, deliberately applying pressure in specific situations, or abruptly taking on an organizational role. The individual does not generally seek out confrontation, but he is also not afraid of it
    I have always felt a strong control over my own will and an ability to readily take control of a situation without any help. I mentioned the exercise regime from before; that was my own doing, and frankly, the structured environment seemed to be my optimal performance mode.

    Quote Originally Posted by Ti base
    He freely makes logical assertions (often exaggerated) about new information and experience.
    This is obviously a general statement taken in isolation, and can mean one of two things: an IEI overindulging in their agenda to compensate, or an LSI having such confidence in his base function that he feels he can make proclamations without necessarily having to back them up, since he believes himself correct. I believe I mentioned this type of attitude in my other thread.

    Quote Originally Posted by Fe dual seeking
    The individual seems largely unaware of the emotions, agitation, tension, or excitement he creates in others by the things he says and does
    I cannot count the number of times my family has told me this. It's like, I love an Fe atmosphere, but maybe if the function was weak (and unconscious) I wouldn't have the same control over it that I would desire, and coupled with an Se ego, may make me come off as abrasive and rude at times without even meaning to. Like sometimes when I make jokes around the deltas in my family, it's like they have no clue how to respond (they're NF's). I think it's the Se of it that throws them off more than anything. Wouldn't an Fe ego type be able to mold the humor to his audience, whereas with me, I just want the Fe response?

    Quote Originally Posted by Ni mobilizing
    The individual periodically needs an outside evaluation of how a situation is likely to develop in order to keep from worrying excessively.
    Well, I guess this is a personal example, but fairly recently I sort of had this attitude manifest with a relationship. I was strongly attached to the person, and every time I felt a lack of certainty in the relationship, I would go off on meaningless tangents, absurd causality relationships about what would happen. It had virtually no order and seemed to be a compensation, maybe for not having a naturally preferred state? (TiSe)

    Also, after rereading dj's pm to me, I think the part about Se was a little exaggerated. Also, if I was worried about saving face, that would suggest weak and unconscious Fe rather than ego, right? The thing is, confrontation has never bothered me. Whether he felt I made a few remarks and backed out is generally irrelevant, because I enjoy that atmosphere and will push it to the very end. I would expect INxp's, while valuing Se, to be a little more offset having it thrown in their face in a negative way by an Se ego type. dj's (a supposed Se ego type) past comments to me that could be construed as Se never offset me; it was more about the Fe image than anything else.

    a few segments of my convo with niff...

    NiffweedXVII (3:56:03 PM): but i do sort of have an easier time seeing you as a Ti type for things like that
    strrrng (3:56:31 PM): yea, and even comparing my attitude towards things to yourself...with Se dual seeking or w/e
    NiffweedXVII (3:57:51 PM): you seem sort of
    NiffweedXVII (3:57:54 PM): more disciplined i guess
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    Quote Originally Posted by niffweed17 View Post
    all four of them make some amount of sense.
    Yes, but IEI makes most sense.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Expat
    To me, you seem like a Beta version of Carla. By that I mean that I find it easy to see her as an Alpha, less easy to spot the precise type. In your case, the most obvious thing is being Beta.

    I saw no big reason to question your typing as INFp, although, as it had been already noticed by more than one person, you seemed more into Ti and Se than might be expected, so ISTj made sense. Yet, as discojoe already pointed out, in that case you seemed to go for Fe too blatantly.

    A possible way of more or less accounting for all of this would be ESTp; but then the question rises as to why an ESTp would think he was INFp. *shrugs*
    Makes sense. And I never really identified with Se base; it's just too outwardly active for me. Plus, my typing of 4w5 always seemed to make sense, which doesn't go well with ISTj, lol.

    Quote Originally Posted by Cyclops
    Well, after having a discussion with him recently, i'm pretty sure he's Beta, comes across as introvert with emotive reasoning, weak T, so that leaves INFp for him.
    Well, of course you say that lol.
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    fuck this lol
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    Despite all this great theorizing lol, I just spoke with my Se-ESTp friend and I really felt the duality. That's all.
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    Quote Originally Posted by strrrng View Post
    Despite all this great theorizing lol, I just spoke with my Se-ESTp friend and I really felt the duality. That's all.
    lol...

    In any case, IEI is still the best choice IMO.
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
    lol...

    In any case, IEI is still the best choice IMO.
    hmm...any prominent reasons?
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    You look like a victim.
    maybe a saint is just a dead prick with a good publicist
    maybe tommorow's statues are insecure without their foes
    go ask the frog what the scorpion knows

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    Quote Originally Posted by strrrng View Post
    hmm...any prominent reasons?
    Well I think Beta is pretty obvious, IP temperament certainly fits best, you seem more intuitive than sensory, and I have to agree with discojoe that your emotional reactions to arguments seem, if not always blatantly obvious, at least "there."

    And, anyone who gets hard on a babysitter putting them in time out is obviously a Victim...DUH
    But, for a certainty, back then,
    We loved so many, yet hated so much,
    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
    Whilst our laughter echoed,
    Under cerulean skies...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
    Well I think Beta is pretty obvious, IP temperament certainly fits best, you seem more intuitive than sensory, and I have to agree with discojoe that your emotional reactions to arguments seem, if not always blatantly obvious, at least "there."

    And, anyone who gets hard on a babysitter putting them in time out is obviously a Victim...DUH
    lol, I see where you're coming from. One thing to keep in mind is that preconceptions can and do guide behavior, and I am most likely guilty of exaggerating certain things a bit. Anyway...

    make of this what you will

    strrrng (10:29:46 PM): "The Ego block also describes the most natural and common states of mind and behavior styles " >>somehow this just makes me think of my exercise regime, the structured aspect of it
    strrrng (10:30:04 PM): how effortless that was
    NiffweedXVII (10:30:52 PM): yeah i
    NiffweedXVII (10:30:58 PM): definitely could see sort of where your
    NiffweedXVII (10:31:04 PM): natural mode of being lies in Ti + Se
    strrrng (10:31:20 PM): yea
    strrrng (10:31:21 PM): like
    strrrng (10:31:23 PM): the um
    strrrng (10:31:45 PM): natural state of INxp's, which I think I've come to grasp well, seems sort of like something where I'd feel out of control
    strrrng (10:32:15 PM): like u just seem sort of comfortable and indifferent about your natural state
    strrrng (10:32:18 PM): whereas um
    strrrng (10:32:32 PM): I'll take more notice of it if I'm in a state like that
    NiffweedXVII (10:32:55 PM): and what is your response to being in a state like that?
    strrrng (10:33:02 PM): it's like um
    strrrng (10:34:01 PM): I can rationalize it but I always want some internal feeling of control...I may even be self-critical (i.e. I "should" be exercising)...and sort of look for some Ti guiding principle to have as support
    NiffweedXVII (10:34:30 PM): right
    strrrng (10:35:06 PM): whereas even an IEI with a developed Ti function still I think would feel more at ease in that state...or less self-conscious
    NiffweedXVII (10:36:20 PM): right

    I also noticed more contrasts between myself and my mom, specifically, how I am much more confident in my own logical/systematic understanding of things that she is. Obviously, super-id functions can be developed to a decent degree, but I really doubt an IEI would be as naturally critical and arrogant about Ti things with a former ethical type. And the shit I say to her in arguments makes sense (oddly, my ENFp brother always seems to get it, partially b/c he's an outsider, and maybe also because he has learned an appreciation for my style), and I take it very seriously, which would make sense for a base function, whereas she sort of picks and chooses what to accept. I could never see myself doing this (obviously Ti dual seeking is different than Ti HA, but still); I always notice logical flaws in my own understanding and sort of depend on them being right for a sense of well-being.

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    Well, after having a discussion with him recently, i'm pretty sure he's Beta, comes across as introvert with emotive reasoning, weak T, so that leaves INFp for him.

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    I remember this one time with this girl I liked (and who liked me), we would talk in school, etc. But I was also kind of paranoid about how she felt about this other guy who supposedly liked her as well. Sometimes on aim if I sent a message and she didn't respond in what I thought was an appropriate time frame, I would get sort of paranoid about the status of our relationship and start developing all these absurd hypotheses for why she wasn't answering. This is similar to the example I gave earlier about a more current relationship.

    Would a type who is strong in Ni, Fe, Ne and Fi act like this? Wouldn't they be more confident in their assessment of the status of the relationship and the other person's motives to not get so offset by such trivial occurrences?

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    Quote Originally Posted by strrrng View Post
    I remember this one time with this girl I liked (and who liked me),
    That's already a sign of not-so-weak Fi (that is you state, as if with casual confidence that it is a fact that she liked you.)

    By contrast, that is much more difficult for me: I tend to qualify it with "I think she liked me".

    Quote Originally Posted by strrrng View Post
    .

    Would a type who is strong in Ni, Fe, Ne and Fi act like this? Wouldn't they be more confident in their assessment of the status of the relationship and the other person's motives to not get so offset by such trivial occurrences?
    Well, you were confident enough to know that she liked you. So maybe : you were assessing it well; she was ambiguous about the other guy, and with good reason you wondered what was going on.
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    gah you're like the shittiest ENTj ever!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Expat
    That's already a sign of not-so-weak Fi (that is you state, as if with casual confidence that it is a fact that she liked you.)

    By contrast, that is much more difficult for me: I tend to qualify it with "I think she liked me".
    Not exactly. I mean, this is in retrospect, so it's obvious she liked me (ESTps aren't exactly subtle about expressing such things lol). I think my assessment of a relationship in a more incipient stage of development, or when I only had certain information to go on, would be more indicative of strong/weak Fi, rather than a recollection of something which cannot be doubted in any rational way.

    Quote Originally Posted by Expat
    Well, you were confident enough to know that she liked you. So maybe : you were assessing it well; she was ambiguous about the other guy, and with good reason you wondered what was going on.
    That's the thing, though - I wasn't confident about whether she liked me or not at the time. If I observed her even talking to the other guy, I would get all offset and not know what was going on. It was very absolute, and I felt sort of vulnerable at assessing our relationship status without complete clarity and directness from her.

    Her ambiguity was probably more of an Se power play (weak Fe as well...trying to garner more attention) than anything else, which is kind of annoying lol. Stupid attention whore.
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    Quote Originally Posted by strrrng View Post
    Sometimes on aim if I sent a message and she didn't respond in what I thought was an appropriate time frame, I would get sort of paranoid about the status of our relationship and start developing all these absurd hypotheses for why she wasn't answering.
    AHAHAHAH I do this same exact shit man. I used to get paranoid as fuck with my last serious girlfriend would IM me and I would try to talk to her and she wouldn't respond for a minute...I would always feel like "wtf am I not good enough to hold your attention so you have to fold laundry and answer your e-mail and shit like IMing your bf is just some task you do while you're sitting around with no homework?"

    *sigh*
    But, for a certainty, back then,
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    We hurt others and were hurt ourselves...

    Yet even then, we ran like the wind,
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    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
    AHAHAHAH I do this same exact shit man. I used to get paranoid as fuck with my last serious girlfriend would IM me and I would try to talk to her and she wouldn't respond for a minute...I would always feel like "wtf am I not good enough to hold your attention so you have to fold laundry and answer your e-mail and shit like IMing your bf is just some task you do while you're sitting around with no homework?"

    *sigh*
    Yeah, probably also some identity triad shit involved as well (idealism, worthlessness).
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    According to a few, I'm too confident to be a 4.

    Couldn't a 4 just put up a facade?

    Also, I'm apparently too definite/logical with my ideas and too combative/proactive to be an INFp or a 4.


    Somebody show my the light...

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    Quote Originally Posted by strrrng View Post
    According to a few, I'm too confident to be a 4.

    Couldn't a 4 just put up a facade?

    Also, I'm apparently too definite/logical with my ideas and too combative/proactive to be an INFp or a 4.


    Somebody show my the light...
    Fi is my thought. you don't preserve "mood and atmosphere," you state your beliefs/values very vehemently.

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    Quote Originally Posted by strrrng View Post
    According to a few, I'm too confident to be a 4.

    Couldn't a 4 just put up a facade?

    Also, I'm apparently too definite/logical with my ideas and too combative/proactive to be an INFp or a 4.


    Somebody show my the light...
    4s always put up facades.

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    Quote Originally Posted by wiki
    Extroverted sensing includes the ability to know how much power, force, or influence is latent or required.
    Like when I feel a complete awareness of my physical presence when engaging in sports and notice how a specific type of movement results, and inherently feel the way in which I am moving, seeing the internal and external leverage and manipulating it effectively...

    Quote Originally Posted by esper's blog
    Take martial arts--at what angle is the arc of the fist coming towards your face? How do I mobilize the force of my body to deflect and/or immobilize the threat?
    Well, I'll be GOT-DAMNED. This is exactly what I was referring to - noticing the subtle details behind a given movement. This is effortless for me; once I learn a movement, it becomes second nature. When I step back and think about throwing a given combination, it seems complex in principle, but when I do it, it feels pure and improvisational; I just know what to do. Oh, and in terms of getting caught up in the moment and reacting fluidly in sparring, that's a given. I love that shit: you feel your opponent's punch connect with your face, take note of his position, leverage yourself, strike, connect; it's heaven-like, lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Se dual seeking
    The individual is generally lacking in strong, immediate desires that would be able to drive his day-to-day actions and provide the motivation to overcome the petty obstacles in life. He seems to live in a state of permanent doubt and indecision, broken only by brief periods where external factors leave no choice but to take action.
    *cough*

    yeah fuckin right. lacking in willpower? indecision? the fuck...if this is Se dual seeking, there's no way I'm an IEI. I implement my will whenever and wherever I feel like it, lol, with or without help.

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    Quote Originally Posted by strrrng View Post
    I remember this one time with this girl I liked (and who liked me), we would talk in school, etc. But I was also kind of paranoid about how she felt about this other guy who supposedly liked her as well. Sometimes on aim if I sent a message and she didn't respond in what I thought was an appropriate time frame, I would get sort of paranoid about the status of our relationship and start developing all these absurd hypotheses for why she wasn't answering. This is similar to the example I gave earlier about a more current relationship.

    Would a type who is strong in Ni, Fe, Ne and Fi act like this? Wouldn't they be more confident in their assessment of the status of the relationship and the other person's motives to not get so offset by such trivial occurrences?

    Insight plz
    You could have asked her to stop talking to the other guy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall
    Victim mentality imo. I can relate to similar things like, like: "why didn't he text me today?! omg, why is he acting differently?" you know, feeling paranoid, never quite knowing, always wondering and doubting.
    Possibly.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Victim mentality imo. I can relate to similar things like, like: "why didn't he text me today?! omg, why is he acting differently?" you know, feeling paranoid, never quite knowing, always wondering and doubting.
    I don't know. I've been in Strrng's position and I read the situation correctly even if I tried to pretend I wasn't. Still to this day I sometimes hate it if someone doesn't answer as I feel they should, but I try to be more relaxed about it. Still it's upsetting at times as I can feel ignored or slighted. Guess I am simply senstitive in that way. But I hate it if there are 'different' rules for behaviour between what I see as acceptable (and what I live after) and the exptected behaviour of others towards me (I expect the same towards me as I try to show towards them).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Steve
    Yeah so be careful not to get caught up in the stereotype, just because the stereotype just happens to line up with a personal ideal you have. It's actually kind of funny that the particular ideal (not being a pussy or w/e) you associate with your "mobilizing" function. The whole idea of a mobilizing function is such an easy thing to idealize, because we're prone to think "I need my long lost dual for that - I need to prove myself in it, but when I can do it myself, it makes me feel competent and worthy"
    Right, and it IS an internal ideal, which goes quite well with 4. My training regime has always come from my "internal vision"

    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall
    (mind you, at the time I was highly stressed, and used my pure drive and determination as an unhealthy means of keeping control of my inner self).
    Ok, and I think this is what I was doing for a while.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Steve
    I could see the 2w3, 3w2, 3w4, and 4w3 being involved with this somehow.
    Yeah, but for reasons probably tied to self-esteem, whereas with a 6, it would probably be more about association with something good for security.

    I briefly talked to niffweed about this, and I'm not sure how/what it's related to. But with my group of friends, I tended to have an arrogant attitude. I think beta aristocracy played a part, i.e. 'this is us and that is them' type of thing, but i also think it could be enneagram related...not sure. Mostly with my closest friend who boxed with me, it was sort of like we knew we were better than others in that department, so there was an unspoken disdain for the "pussies" etc. And my group was, oddly enough, 2 betas, 2 deltas and a gamma. So, interactions with others tended to have a certain feel. I could have possibly been projecting internal ideals to build my self image. I didn't really care about having a group of friends for security or validation (probably more so/6 related), but rather, it was fun, plus we were better than them And that's how I want my groups of friends to be - aristocratic, definite and unconcerned with others, generally speaking. Beta elitism ftw!!
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    Quote Originally Posted by diana
    But if you're comparing yourself to others, then you're not unconcerned with them. Or did you mean that some other way?
    Right, I was basically conveying an indifferent attitude that my group would take towards "outsiders." Technically, you could say I was concerned with them, because I wouldn't have focused on comparing them to us if I wasn't, but at the same time, I was unconcerned, cause I knew we were better
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    Quote Originally Posted by strrrng View Post
    I didn't really care about having a group of friends for security or validation (probably more so/6 related), but rather, it was fun, plus we were better than them And that's how I want my groups of friends to be - aristocratic, definite and unconcerned with others, generally speaking. Beta elitism ftw!!
    Quote Originally Posted by Diana View Post
    But if you're comparing yourself to others, then you're not unconcerned with them. Or did you mean that some other way?
    I got from this that he is comparing to his own internal idea (he thinks he is different/better than them for various reasons), and unconcerned with other's perceptions of him/his group of friends.

    You do make a good point here, that if he is unconcerned with others then what is he comparing his internal idea to? I think that points to identity issues of 4 and holding onto an idea of a self, feeling seperated from "others" and different and somehow special.

    Makes no sense cause it is a fixation, skewed perception of reality, but still how the 4 sees the world.


    Edit: strrrng's post explains what he really meant. I wrote this a few hours ago, and didn't post until now.. didn't see it at first....
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    Quote Originally Posted by Christy
    I got from this that he is comparing to his own internal idea (he thinks he is different/better than them for various reasons), and unconcerned with other's perceptions of him/his group of friends.
    Correct. I have these internal ideals about specific traits, which I would project onto my own group, and try to mirror the absence of in other people. And if I saw that trait in someone, I would want to interact with them, because doing so would fuel my own internal self-image by receiving input of that trait in reality. It is derived from, in my opinion, feeling inherently defective, and thus compensating with unnecessary ideals and self-aggrandizing.

    You do make a good point here, that if he is unconcerned with others then what is he comparing his internal idea to? I think that points to identity issues of 4 and holding onto an idea of a self, feeling seperated from "others" and different and somehow special.
    Right, the point is I do care - about maintaining my own special identity. Thus I project my insecurities outward to facilitate this process.

    Makes no sense cause it is a fixation, skewed perception of reality, but still how the 4 sees the world.
    Yeah, other people probably wouldn't care enough to waste so much time on internal self-talk and comparisons. I think it points to identity triad and an underlying feeling of shame/worthlessness.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Christy B View Post
    I got from this that he is comparing to his own internal idea (he thinks he is different/better than them for various reasons), and unconcerned with other's perceptions of him/his group of friends.
    HE'S A BLOODY FOUR.

    You do make a good point here, that if he is unconcerned with others then what is he comparing his internal idea to? I think that points to identity issues of 4 and holding onto an idea of a self, feeling seperated from "others" and different and somehow special.
    HE *IS* CONCERNED WITH OTHERS. OTHERWISE HE WOULDN'T BE TALKING ABOUT THIS.

    Makes no sense cause it is a fixation, skewed perception of reality, but still how the 4 sees the world.


    Edit: strrrng's post explains what he really meant. I wrote this a few hours ago, and didn't post until now.. didn't see it at first....
    I DIDN'T READ HIS POST EITHER. LET'S JUST MAKE SNAP JUDGEMENTS BABY. YOU AND ME...

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