Quote Originally Posted by IcEPiCk
Have any of you ENFPs been with an ISFJ? an ENTP?
Just recently I got out of a relationship with an ISFJ. It was quite an experience. Please don't take what I say next as me being bitter, because I'm not, in the end I still care for this person - no matter how misguided they may be. But my experience with this (definite) ISFJ was not favourable at all.

She was controlling, manipulative & insecure - all in a very very subtle way. Her emotions, polar opposite to mine, were hidden and obfuscated. I highly suspect her feelings weren't what she proclaimed (to me it felt she was not as fond of me as she claimed) but she was very persistant in not letting me get away, keeping me tied to her in some way, she did this with very subtle manipulation - said all the right words and yet delivered very little. She talked shit about people she considered to be her best friends, it was kind of like "he's [negative, negative, negative]." And then she later she would claim how much she loved this person. I would be naive to believe she didn't do this about me, hell, one person she shunned (because he was in contact with someone she loathed) told me, quite categorically that she talked shit about me. But I am naive, and chose not to believe this. She was a master at making me feel guilty, trapping me into doing things her way. I'd never met someone before that could actually make me feel guilty for liking them.

I could quite seriously go on for a very long time about how draining emotionally and spiritually this was for me. I learnt a lot from it though, and is most definitely an experience I will not repeat - ever.