Originally Posted by
mike_INTJ
small talk only exercises the lips. extroverted people have to talk. they have to do something, they actually feel uncomfortable if there is silence (it's a negation tactic, remain silent, and the weaker of the two breaks down). it can establish relationship, but for what? more small talk? who want's that?
I'm sorry Mike, but that just seems very cold, and arrogant. The weaker of the two breaks down? Eeesh, what are you a robot? "I must show my dominance. I must not show any feeling or compassion for anyone else. That is weakness." I don't feel uncomfortable personally in silences, but if I know that someone else does I'll flash a big grin at them if I have nothing to say. (which I usually don't have anything to say) That usually makes them relax and feel a little more comfortable, and if they want they'll say something, or just smile back. I really like old people because they usually appreciate that the most and you can tell that they're sincere when they ask questions or say something. I guess I just don't see the point of being cold if you don't have to be. Neither one of you gains anything from that.