Please type my 88yr old mil

[Joy]

don't see how she could complain.

Insecurity.

[hellothere]

the whole "duty" thing was strong in her from a little girl. you do as you're told. period. there isn't even a thought in her head that you would do otherwise. and when someone does, she is bewildered, very much. all of her childhood stories are about duty and doing as you're told of some sort.

when i told her that i knew as a kid MY OWN THOUGHTS AND DESIRES on things and rebelled about being told what to do, she thought (and still thinks) i have a mental disorder of some kind. she thinks this of her son as well. she took him to different psychiatrists when he was a kid to FIX him and when the psychiatrist told her that HER CONTROLLING NATURE was actually the problem, she fired him and moved on. so, my husband "hid" in books and music is get away from her.

fwiw, I don't really identify with this, and I suspect other EIIs probably wouldn't either (especially the second paragraph). This doesn't mean she can't be an EII though, just that those behaviours should probably be attributed to something else.

[Joy]

Personally I think EII is a lot less likely than LSE, based on my understanding of the theory and my experiences with people of both types.

[dbmmama]

are you leaning toward any type? i'm not sure why i said IEI. i actually have thought more EIE, you remind me of an EIE friend i've had for years. she's become progressively more Se strengthened over time and i get somewhat of a similar flavor from you but what do i know? lol

sounds like your handle your mil pretty perfectly .... don't see how she could complain.

that's what most people say about me "handling" her. but yes, insecurity.

i'm sure you know what you know. i'll keep your opinion in mind... for me, i've actually mellowed my Se over time, and with my hubby around. he calms me. but without him, i've become a bit more "pushy" and i don't really like it. and as far as i know, it might not even be Se i'm referring to here...

[Blaze]

er no offense?

but like i say what do i know....lol....your type is your bidness.

[dbmmama]

er no offense?

but like i say what do i know....lol....your type is your bidness.

well, ok. but if it was truly just my business i'd be trying to figure this out in private by myself. i'm good with others' opinions. that's why i came here. i appreciate anything anyone here has to say.

[Shazaam]

Sounds a lot like my ESFj mom, which I hate personally but does a wonderful job of protecting other people. It's really her best quality and one that I admire the most about her. But... she's too much of an annoying bitch in other areas.

[munenori2]

It finally just clicked in my head what a 'mil' was. That's pretty bad.

[dbmmama]

It finally just clicked in my head what a 'mil' was. That's pretty bad.

i'm sorry, someone else said that too. i'll be more clear and not assume people know what i'm talking about...