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    Lightbulb Your top 10 rates in a partner.

    Ok, brought to you in no specific order- and now it's your turn! Let's see what each type's response is. Here's me.

    1. Adventure
    2. Positive attitude
    3. Inspiring (motivational)
    4. Romantic
    5. Committed
    6. Non-judgemental
    7. Ethical
    8. Intelligent
    9. Compassionate
    10. Funny/witty

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    Sorry, bee.

    I don't really agree in relationship prerequisites.

    However for the sakes of contribution and to refrain this from being a thread deflating post, I present my few dislikes in a partner.

    In no particular order.

    Conformism
    Bitter
    Pretentious
    Weak
    Cold

    There's a few anyway. I hope this doesn't put a downer on the thread but it may offer insight to INFp.

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    I think it's great to identify what you want (and not just in a partner, but in all aspects of life). The clearer you are, the better. I'll make a list in a bit.
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    1. Loyal/Honest
    2. Introverted (socially)
    3. Growth seeking (in terms of wellness)
    4. Fun
    5. Intelligent
    6. Wise
    7. Secure
    8. Stable/steady/balanced
    9. Not sure how to sum this up in a word, but basically "takes care of the day to day shit that I'm bad at taking care of"
    10. Attractive (to me)

    2 through 9 are in random order
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    Uhhh, this may take some thought.

    1. Inspiring/Intelligent
    2. Mutual Attraction
    3. Independent
    4. Adventurous/Spontaneous/Playful
    5. Similar values (Loyalty, Sense of Family, etc)
    6. Goals/Ambition
    7. Romantic
    8. Sense of Organization (Totally hot to me, I don't know why...)
    9. Witty/Clever
    10. Mutual Interests

    Seems about right.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mn0good View Post
    2. Mutual Attraction
    lol good point
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Saturn View Post
    Sorry, bee.

    I don't really agree in relationship prerequisites.

    However for the sakes of contribution and to refrain this from being a thread deflating post, I present my few dislikes in a partner.

    In no particular order.

    Conformism
    Bitter
    Pretentious
    Weak
    Cold

    There's a few anyway. I hope this doesn't put a downer on the thread but it may offer insight to INFp.
    I agree. I know objectively that it's a good idea to make a list or whatever (for anything in life) but I detest doing it. I prefer to remain open to the possibilities (that is, if I were single but also applying this to other areas of life and yes that often will mean never getting anywhere because you're not sure where you're going and the act of "remaining open" is restricting you to never do anything). I agree with this list of dislikes also.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Mr Saturn View Post
    Sorry, bee.
    I don't really agree in relationship prerequisites.
    Yeah. As long as she's not a psycho, boring or a tramp i'm fine.
    "Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."

    - Voltaire

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    Quote Originally Posted by LokiVanguard View Post
    Yeah. As long as she's not a psycho, boring or a tramp i'm fine.
    boring is the worst!
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    boring is the worst!
    I agree.
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

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    You've done yourself a huge favor developmentally by mustering the balls to do something really fucking scary... in about the most vulnerable situation possible.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Diana View Post
    What if she's ugly, doesn't bathe and lies to you?
    then she's psycho. Did you miss that part of my post?
    "Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."

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    Quote Originally Posted by LokiVanguard View Post
    then she's psycho. Did you miss that part of my post?
    hahahaha, I was just gonna say the exact same thing....
    “Whether we fall by ambition, blood, or lust, like diamonds we are cut with our own dust.”

    Quote Originally Posted by Gilly
    You've done yourself a huge favor developmentally by mustering the balls to do something really fucking scary... in about the most vulnerable situation possible.

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    likes me back???
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    Hmm, here goes:

    1. Assertive
    2. Outgoing/Engaging
    3. Down-to-earth
    4. Funny
    5. Creative
    6. Open-minded
    7. Kind-hearted
    8. Devoted
    9. Active
    10. Mutual attraction/interests/values

    I can think of a few other things which could have made the list, but they're less character-related.
    Moonlight will fall
    Winter will end
    Harvest will come
    Your heart will mend

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    Hmmmnnn:

    1. Warm
    2. Kind
    3. Deep
    4. Fun
    5. Creative
    6. Intelligent
    7. Attractive
    8. Compassionate
    9. Loyal
    10. Assertive

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    not to be a total INTj but what is a rate. You mean characteristics that we can rate others by?it will change my answers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ms. Kensington View Post
    not to be a total INTj but what is a rate. You mean characteristics that we can rate others by?it will change my answers.
    i think she conflated her sentence and may have meant to write "rate the traits..."
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    Kind of off the top of my head:


    1. Socionics compatibility.
    2. Must value and practice the same or similar things as I do. In particular: Intellectual enlightenment, pre 1960s standards of conduct (including fidelity), religion, etc.
    3. Being good at what I suck at. I suck at Fe and S.

    4. Using her complementary skills to help me being her husband, rather than playing an ego game. Like f.i. using them to improve my business.
    5. Reasonable intelligence level, I don't want stupidities like an interrogation as to why I look repeatedly into the cupboard while I'm planning dinner.
    6. Giving me space - I don't want to be smothered or forced to live someone else's life.

    7. Wifey - keeping everything nice, clean and cozy.
    8. Able and willing to love, honor and obey.
    9. Reasonably healthy mentally and physically.

    10. Reasonable level of mutual attraction.
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    lol.

    it should be like

    1. beautiful
    2. size DD breasts, not DD 1/2
    3. Only wears largest condom size
    4. nobel peace prize winner
    5. Invented a word in the Merriam Webster, but more awesome than "bootylicious"
    6. bound her feet so that they are the smallest in the world
    7. rockstar or actress (A-level only)
    8. cooks
    9. allergic to drama
    10. has a remote control

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ms. Kensington View Post
    lol.

    it should be like

    1. beautiful
    2. size DD breasts, not DD 1/2
    3. Only wears largest condom size
    4. nobel peace prize winner
    5. Invented a word in the Merriam Webster, but more awesome than "bootylicious"
    6. bound her feet so that they are the smallest in the world
    7. rockstar or actress (A-level only)
    8. cooks
    9. allergic to drama
    10. has a remote control
    Take off 2 and 6 and you got me.
    "Those who make you believe absurdities can make you commit atrocities..."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Diana View Post
    non-flirtatious with others
    That's essentially what I meant by "introverted (socially)".

    At any rate I don't see myself getting involved with anyone any time soon. Perhaps ever.
    I think you will. You're probably just not ready yet.
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    In no particular order, these are just how they came to mind. Though I could go on for days on all the things I want in someone, these are probably the more important to me at this point.

    1. Likes me for everything that I am, and everything that I'm not.
    2. Happy and ok with themselves and the life they've lived.
    3. Someone who really just wants to be around me all the time.
    4. Mutual attraction is a must, I have to really want this person at all times.
    5. Understanding.
    6. Sane and mostly drama free.
    7. Sense of humor has to be there, if we can't laugh together, we won't be together.
    8. Intelligent, not someone who's gonna make me feel stupid, but someone with common sense and enough intelligence for us to have a deep discussion about whatever every once in a while.
    9. Has to like sex, at least to some extent...
    10. Integrity is always important to me. I have to feel trust in a relationship or it's over, no matter how well other factors of the relationship are going.
    I imagine that some of these traits have changed with time. For instance, when I was young I had an entirely different view on what's attractive than I do now. If I'd made a list like this back in high school or college, I'm sure it'd be much different.

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    I didn't write reliable, and I should have. That's a big deal to me, actually. (I suppose I encompassed it with "Stable/steady/balanced" though.)
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    Quote Originally Posted by cracka View Post
    [*]Someone who really just wants to be around me all the time.
    [
    I like your list, cracka. This one made me laugh because I think that's how my husband feels also. Unfortunately, there is no one I want to be around all the time! LOL He may feel a bit sad about that, although we have lots of fun together but I think it feels like it's always on my terms since I need so much more alone time than he does.
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    I like your list, cracka. This one made me laugh because I think that's how my husband feels also. Unfortunately, there is no one I want to be around all the time! LOL He may feel a bit sad about that, although we have lots of fun together but I think it feels like it's always on my terms since I need so much more alone time than he does.
    I put the want on there... even though I wouldn't push that on anyone, too much at least...lol. I know that people need "me time" for themselves... but it's more of a point of when we're separated for any amount of time I'd get that "I miss you so much" thing to make me feel all warm and fuzzy. I think I just have to feel the "I want to be with You" vibe, from whomever I'm with.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cracka View Post
    I put the want on there... even though I wouldn't push that on anyone, too much at least...lol. I know that people need "me time" for themselves... but it's more of a point of when we're separated for any amount of time I'd get that "I miss you so much" thing to make me feel all warm and fuzzy. I think I just have to feel the "I want to be with You" vibe, from whomever I'm with.
    yeah I get it
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    Quote Originally Posted by redbaron View Post
    yeah I get it
    lol, out of everyone here, I figured You would.

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