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    Default Help! What's my type?

    I can't express everything well in this post because I barely had any sleep the past few days and my thinking is incoherent.. But anyway, I've been wondering the past few days whether I've typed myself right. Certain Things came up that made me question it.
    I'm sure that I'm either EII or IEE but I need your help to decide which one it is.

    So I'll tell you what made me rethink things.
    First of all I have an intj friend and if I'm really an infj we should have look alike relations which are pretty comfortable but when I thought of it I realized that's not really the case. I have an infj friend and they (the intj and infj) get along very nicely while I don't get along with her well at all (with the intj). It feels like she's stifling me and I feel like I can't act freely when I'm around her because she always has some condescending comment to give me. Basically I hate her and she's not the least bit threatened by me. Ever since I knew her things were like this but we always seemed to be "good friends" at least in the most superficial way.. Though she always made me feel like a stupid imbecile in this "friendship".
    Also if you think about it, if I'm the infj Ne subtype, I'm supposed to be even closer to being an intj….

    Second thing that makes me unsure is that if I compare myself to my EII friend and she's a stereotypical one and we have some real differences. She's much more delicate than I am, much more afraid of any sort of confrontation (I dislike them but if I have to I'll try to deal with them) and much more introverted… We don't achieve complete consensus in our opinions and we used to have a lot of arguments because each of us has emphasis on slightly different areas. Nevertheless we get along well and have long conversations together that can be nice because we're likeminded but also wear off after a while. (That just sounded like I copied the description of mirror relations so maybe I'm brainwashed or something...)

    I can give you much more information if you want but if I continue this will become way too long and nobody will want to read this. Please help me!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cheesy View Post
    (That just sounded like I copied the description of mirror relations so maybe I'm brainwashed or something...)
    haha I was actually thinking that, but its good that you're aware of the possibility

    you've given a lot of reasons against INFj but it would be cool if you explained why you initially believed you were one?

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    Quote Originally Posted by hellothere View Post

    you've given a lot of reasons against INFj but it would be cool if you explained why you initially believed you were one?
    Yeah, that's a very good point.
    I think that due to my life circumstances it would be ridiculous for me to think that I was an extrovert. My mom is an ISTJ (we have a horrible relationship) and I think that shaped my conception of myself and suppressed my personality quite a lot.

    I always thought of myself as an introvert because my house was like this jail where I couldn't have any fun and for the past few years I was quite miserable because I always felt like I couldn't express myself fully with people and be me. I think that is because I was so used to not being myself all the time. I think that a lot of my natural sociability was suppressed because of my upbringing because today after a lot of healing I surprise myself with my behavior. I think I just may be an example of how upbringing can change things... Honestly, I'm sick of wondering about this because it shouldn't matter and I wish I could just leave all of these things behind me and be whoever it is that I am. But I guess I can't do that right now. I'm really confused and truth is that I can give you reasons both for ENFP and for INFJ... Maybe lately I've just changed or bloomed or something and maybe that's why I'm wondering..

    This post just made me depressed..I need to take a nap

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    You can't be in doubt about EII or IEE. It doesn't make sense. It is VERY easy to determine which of those two types you are (if you really are one of them and not another type). You only have to look at the four dichotomies. You simply must be able to determine at least 3 out of 4 dichotomies.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Phaedrus View Post
    You can't be in doubt about EII or IEE. It doesn't make sense. It is VERY easy to determine which of those two types you are (if you really are one of them and not another type). You only have to look at the four dichotomies. You simply must be able to determine at least 3 out of 4 dichotomies.
    By the 4 dichotomies do you mean Extraversion/Introversion and so on?
    If so then I can say that my room is a mess (P), I like to interact with people (E) and so on.. That still doesn't determine much because as I said I can give examples to every perspective.

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    your relation with your intj friend sounds like supervision, which would make you IEE over EII.

    also temperaments can help. there's a huge difference between IJ temperament and EP temperament, so phaedrus is actually correct in this instance. take a look at the temperaments. EP is all impulsive and inconsistent with their energy and IJ is all slow and sleady wins the race.

    which one are you?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Cheesy View Post
    By the 4 dichotomies do you mean Extraversion/Introversion and so on?
    If so then I can say that my room is a mess (P), I like to interact with people (E) and so on.. That still doesn't determine much because as I said I can give examples to every perspective.
    So you identify with Extraversion (E), Intuition (N), Ethics (F), and Irrationality (p)? In that case you cannot be an EII.

    Also, when you said that you've "always thought of myself as an introvert because my house was like this jail where I couldn't have any fun and for the past few years I was quite miserable because I always felt like I couldn't express myself fully with people and be me" you are expressing a typical extraverted attitude. I would say that you certainly come across as an extravert when you say things like that. The key parts that suggest extraversion are put in bold.

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