machintruc's Pushiness Test

[Satan]

Rules

- Add 1 for each relevant statement
- Add 0.5 for each semi-relevant statement
- Add 0 for each irrelevant statement

Numbers suck. Let's go for words.

Questions

01. Most people say you're some kind of "badass"

Only emotionally stunted kids who realise that you have more "power" than them. Or young chidren, who like to tease that I'm "bad", or "good" depending on my mood.

02. You think being formalistic or politically correct is stupid

Who the fuck doesn't other than idealistic moralistic holier-than-thou cock suckers who like to pretend that they're "good" and that they're somehow "better" than other people because they can overcontrol themselves to the point of restrictiong "fun" or "enjoyment" and who like to ensure that children don't have fun because they didn't get to have fun as a child. Hard done by mother fuckers. Shoot 'em all. Make the world a better place.

03. You are conflict-seeking, and enjoy conflict

Sometimes. I don't like pointless conflict. But sometimes it can be good to keep things out in the open rather than pretend that things don't exist.

04. You hate liars

Well kind of. I often figure it's best to just not pay them attention. You can't really argue with liars. It's best just to not get involved with them.

05. You like physical fights

Not particularly. I used to fight a bit when I was young. And people have said I like to fight, but I don't like the whole fighting-for-no-reason thing.

06. You intimidate others frequently, even for minor reasons

Sometimes when I really want to resolve things I've been accused of intimidating people. I can't help it if people are weak and easily intimidated.

If they haven't done anything wrong they should have nothing to fear.

07. Your voice is very loud, and people often tells you to soften your voice

Sometimes. Although sometimes it's quiet too. I don't really like it when people tell me to soften my voice it just makes me want to punch them. Although if people pay attention to me - and are receptive then I tend to use a softer voice. Whereas if they try to ignore me, I'm more likely to raise my voice. Or just deprioritise them.

08. You are brutally honest with others

Well some people have said that they appreciate that I can be brutally honest with them. Although I usually try to measure against what I think other people can handle will be okay with etc.. Sometimes I stay quiet rather than say the honest thing, because I don't consider that being honest is going to help at all, and I figure it could reduce peoples receptiveness when I am honest. I'm not a fan of attacking people constantly in the name of being honest.

09. You tend to think like "me first"

Kind of. I also think of "someone else first". I don't like being in the middle. I like to be first or last. And I like other people to be first or last.

I don't like to pretend that I'm not being "me first", and "trick" like some people do. That's really fucking rude. I hate it when people pretend to be nice, or pretend to be looking out for others, when they're obviously selfish and looking to take advantage of others.

10. You think that being more demanding than others is legitimate

Yeah.

11. You don't like ass-lickers

I don't think ass lickers even like themselves.

12. You're more inclined to criticise others than complimenting them

i compliment people when they do something of significance. I don't like to compliment someone that they're looking good today, when they look the same as they always do. That's pathetic.

13. You like to criticise groups of people

I can't help it when people all act the same. In the same stupid way. Group mentality can turn people into morons. And no-one wants to accept responsibility or break out of it.

14. You're able to break laws or rules more easily than most people

I don't even remember this question from before. I used to be told that I didn't follow some kind of rules. I don't know, I don't like it when people want to have these ideas of rules that aren't important. Sensible rules yeah,. but if a rule is stupid, then it's just a power trip. And I hate power trippers.

15. You are emotionally unstable

I'm a lot more emotionally stable than I was when I was younger. With age comes wisdom.

16. You either complain of others lack of boldness, or encourage them being avoidant in order to take advantage of them

Sometimes it can be really annoying when people aren't bold, because it can bring others down. And mean that things don't progress well.

17. You're an insult artist

I don't like to hurt other people.

18. Most of the time, you don't think you're pushy, you just think you're assertive

What's that meant to mean.

19. You like to control people

Some people like to be controlled. It helps them feel safe.

20. You often feel the urge to conflict with your friends

It can help build people up. Some people are more comfortable conflicting with friends than outsiders. If you can make them more comfortable with conflict they'll handle the real world better.

21. You either don't give a fuck about others' interests, or you do give a fuck because it's one of your own interests

It's an individuals choice whether their interests are the concern of others or not.

22. You have an high desire for vengeance

Only when I'm reactive. I like to stay in control more.

23. You hate dependant people, unless they're dependant to you

Dependent people can weigh you down.

24. You have some pride about being unpopular

There's a different word other than pride. I'm tring to place it. It's like that kind of "high" feeling you get where other people become insignificant and you can't be receptive of how popluar you are or not because there's something greater. And it's not like you want to be unpopular. It's more like you're not concerned with how popular you are, beacuse there are things of greater importance. And you have to keep your priorities in mind.

25. You want some people to be punished in some way, but it's actually because you hate them

I'm sick of all of this talk about hate. Are you trying to star a war?

26. You tend to compete with other "badasses" in order to be the worst badass.

Oh let's all be small children together. YOU STOLE ME TOY, I'M GOING TO KICK YOUR ASS. DON'T CRY, IT MAKES ME WANT TO HURT YOU.

27. You get angry more easily than others

Kind of, kind of not. I get more angry when I get angry, and sometimes I'm kind of irritable. But I'm reasonably consistent/moderate.

28. You think that hurting your partner (i.e. husband/wife) is normal

Everyone gets hurt sometimes. When people are close to you, they can get hurt easier because they're more sensitive.

29. You feel socially inadequate because you're unable of being agreeable to others in the long-term

Agree/disagree/agree/disagree. Well some people need constant agreement until they're blanked out. Give it to them, let them have a meaningless relationship with you. Who cares.

30. You tend to think like "my way or the fuckin' highway"

Sometimes people need that kind of attitude to commit.

31. You tend to feel like you were a fucked up asocial

What's an asocial.

32. You like to play the cop

I'm good. You're bad.

33. You tend to act like not fearing anything, i.e. being reckless

I don't get it.

34. You tend to offend others as a way to get their attention

Provoke. I can't help it if other people get offended easily.

35. You take some pleasure on humiliating others

Only when I'm feeling weak.

36. You tend to think that accomodation is weakness and/or failure

Let's all ACCOMODATE. Let's all just pretend that we're all the same. That there is no individual differences. Let's just take the lowest common denominator. What a wonderful way to live. Why don't people just kill themselves now, there's plenty of dead people for them to associate with.

Results

Basically, the higher the score, the pushier you are.

I'm not sure about that. There are levels to these things. Like I can be kind of pushy, but I'm pretty good at holding back. I don't swing the way some people do. I don't like to hurt others etc. Some people push so much that a lot of people get hurt in the cross fire. And they just blank it out. I don't want to be like that. I like to be aware. I like to live with my eyes open.

[machintruc]

I'm not sure about that. There are levels to these things. Like I can be kind of pushy, but I'm pretty good at holding back. I don't swing the way some people do. I don't like to hurt others etc. Some people push so much that a lot of people get hurt in the cross fire. And they just blank it out. I don't want to be like that. I like to be aware. I like to live with my eyes open.

Yeah, and you're pushy.

[Satan]

Yeah, and you're pushy.

Not as pushy as Jessica.

[Lotus]

Nineteen.

[Simon Ssmall]

4

[iAnnAu]

1.0 04. You hate liars
0.5 06. You intimidate others frequently, even for minor reasons
1.0 08. You are brutally honest with others
1.0 11. You don't like ass-lickers
0.5 12. You're more inclined to criticise others than complimenting them
0.5 18. Most of the time, you don't think you're pushy, you just think you're assertive
0.5 23. You hate dependant people, unless they're dependant to you
0.5 24. You have some pride about being unpopular
0.5 29. You feel socially inadequate because you're unable of being agreeable to others in the long-term
1.0 33. You tend to act like not fearing anything, i.e. being reckless

So, 7. But how are 4, 8, 11 and 33 about being pushy anyway?
6 happens without me "doing" anything.
12 is because I have a hard time complimenting people, but I am often regarded as a very fair giver of constructive criticism.
18 is only 1/2 because I've learned to be assertive, but most of the time I'm rather passive.
23 is 1/2 because I only agree with the first part of the sentence.

I don't think I'm pushy at all. But I also disagree that pushiness is necessarily "bad" - my LSE SO is quite pushy, and not only does he get shit done, he's unfailingly civil. And OTOH, I've known people who were passive-aggressive to the point of ruining their relationships.

[machintruc]

I took my own test a second time, and I scored 20.

[redbaron]

speaking of pushy, here's a conversation between IEI and SLE on the subject.

SLE: I'm really glad you arranged this!
IEI: Well I almost called to cancel cause I know you're busy. I didn't want to be pushy or anything.
SLE: Actually I LIKE it when you're pushy.
IEI: You do?? Well I like it when YOU'RE pushy.
SLE: haha
IEI: I guess we can just stand around pushing each other back and forth!