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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    Perhaps the duality actually calms down this needy feeling that the INFp experiences?
    That's been my experience. SLE's don't take those touchy/highly-sensitive aspects of our personality as seriously as other people (Fi-PoLR) so it has the effect of emphasizing the more robust aspects of our personality and de-emphasizing the more tender stuff. On the other hand, they can be pretty intense lovers as well, so it might bring out your more romantic qualities.

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    Nope. IME, the ESTp's focus and intensity within relationships is similar to mine.

    They tend to back off from dramatics though, so if the INFp is really unhealthy or just completely out of control (emotionally), an outburst will be met with stone silence until the INFp calms down a little bit.

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    I've watched several fights between and ESTP (girl) and INFP (guy) couple, and they both seem equally passionate and emotional. They seem to need and want a lot of eachother's attention, so the INFP isn't asking for anything more than the ESTP is. It seems the ESTP also needs a lot of validation and someone to say "wow, good job!" and the INFP does that really well. And the INFP needs the same thing. They both seem to praise eachother a lot "you're amazing. fucking amazing" etc. So I don't think the INFP would scare off the ESTP at all, espectially because the ESTP really needs the INFP to be there to hear their venting/ranting about stuff, etc. And the ESTP enjoys helping the INFP w/ conflict situations, etc. It just seems very comfortable and compatible to me, and the INFP certainly doesn't seem any more "emotional" than the ESTP, because to me, ESTPs appear really passionate/emotional etc, even though under that they are super logical/strategic, etc.

    Just my two cents.
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