Anndelise, your daughter sounds remarkably like my ESFp sister. She has many of the same tendencies. In fact, she's nearly impossible to live with. She shared an apartment with my INTj brother (if I had been into socionics then, I might have raised some concerns, instead I was just vaguely unsettled by the idea) and it ended up destroying their relationship completely. Well, not completely, my brother is too nice a guy for that, but any interactions between them have a certain point beyond which they will go no further anymore. Additionally, every person she has roomed with has ended up a disaster resulting in one party or another leaving before the lease is up.

Her latest fiasco was her getting a dog. She wanted a pure-breed so she paid a ridiculous amount for it, then come to find that the seller kept the dogs in a horrible environment so that she ended up spending $1000 or so on vet bills shortly after (which was exacerbated because she's a hypochondriac herself and then she actually expected my parents to pay for all this for some odd reason). Finally, her potty-training efforts have been lax to say the least and she has this odd notion that everyone should clean up after her dog without complaint. Naturally since she hadn't consulted with her roommates about the decision, burdened them with the care of her dog, and threatened their security deposit with carpet damage, they decided to 'vote' her out of the apartment.