Mirror Relations: Stories and Experiences

[Jarno]

Ugh. I hate when people ask questions like that. What do you want, a description? Mirrors are a lot of things.

Yes I would like to know why you think hot disputes like I have described aren't part of a mirror relationship.

[Jarno]

You pick out "hot disputes" from a number of other characteristics you described in your post and ask me why this isn't found in mirror relations. Please, obviously I am not disagreeing with one specific trait, but rather, the entire impression of the relation you described.

The hot disputes, which have all the elements which I have described are the frustrating part of the mirror relationship which (in my case) seem to overwhelm the good parts of the relationship.

It might be because a mirror relationship in my case consist of an ILI and LIE who are both known to not back up when discussing a subject. Discussing is something they both like, and therefor it often ends up to a so called hot dispute.

Just wondering how it is in other mirror relationships.

[meatburger]

I dont think mirrors are the worst quadra relationship. I think identicals would be worse (i see relationships as long term and i dont think identicals would ever work long term). I also think Mirror relationships would be better than a whole lot of other out of quadra relationships thats for sure.

Interestingly, an INTp and ENTj relationship of my friend just disintegrated recently out of the blue. They were together for about 5 years. Everyone thought they were a wonderful couple (i mostly did too), and they didn't ever seem to fight. Then one day she said shes moving, he didn't want to and poof all over.

I actually understand the arguments that Jarno is talking about. I find INFj's do want to argue with me every now and then. Its very annoying and draining to me and it does push me away. I also perceive some level of competition from them. My INFj friend tells me things like "I really think this move will be good for you, you really need to do something with your life". While this is true, comming from him its laughable because he really needs to take his own advice. Its also just socially unacceptable the way he just blurts it out.

I also think all mirror relationships are different, and some are better than others. When mirror relationships are good, they can be soo warm and nice and fun and awesome. I dont think im gonna persue one if i can help it though.

[Jarno]

I find INFj's do want to argue with me every now and then. Its very annoying and draining to me and it does push me away. I also perceive some level of competition from them.

Exactly. I recognize this.

[FDG]

Well, the thing is, when two thinking resolute mirrors start to argue, the verbal spar will unlikely end soon. So, while I think it's easy to get along with your mirror, I also think that it's easy to destroy the relationship with one big bout of misunderstanding. Probably two feeling mirror types are better at getting over (or avoiding) disputes.

[Hot Scalding Gayser]

Mirrors have vastly different lifestyle ideals, but very similar raw values. So they're good for phone conversations, or maybe to join for a political cause together, but don't make very good bedfellows.

[Jarno]

Well, the thing is, when two thinking resolute mirrors start to argue, the verbal spar will unlikely end soon. So, while I think it's easy to get along with your mirror, I also think that it's easy to destroy the relationship with one big bout of misunderstanding. Probably two feeling mirror types are better at getting over (or avoiding) disputes.

Yes I was thinking the same thing.

[redbaron]

I dunno, I know a few mirror marriages. Let me think here...

INTj-ENTp (married 15 years)
ISTj-ESTp (married 20+ years)
ENFj-INFp (married 11 years)

Each marriage has its own issues, but they all seem very solid overall.

My EIE aunt and I are mirrors and I absolutely love her. We get each other a lot better than the alphas in the family do, but she absolutely will not back down when it comes to any argument. So I always do. I think that might get tiring in a romantic relationship. I might eventually feel kind of squashed by her.