I was friends with an ESFp for seven years (we know each other for 12 years).


I liked her a lot when she was quiet and really kind. I needed someone who was more confident than me, but when I stopped to behave like a doormat our friendship fell apart really quickly.


I'm not an ILI who is ok with a secondary position under the wing of the SEE.
When a think that I'm being treated unfairly or with blatant disrespect I show resistance but because ESI are ok with winning from a moral perspective, the SEE need their opponent to back down completely (and to apologise for not accepting SEE's authority!).


They don't stop until they've won and would act in ways that I would never permit myself. As soon as all conflicts are over SEE usually try to reconcile by being charming, giving much attention or making everything into a cruel joke


Also the ESFp I know love to brag. They love attention and while I don't see anything wrong with that I'm tired of it.
From an Fi-leading perspective they only think about themselves and how they can get more attention and influence. They make others accomplishments seem small, are prone to jealousy and drama when they feel that their own moral-standards (which I find childish and underdeveloped) are not met. They allow themselves everything and never admit ethical mistakes. They are only fair when it suits them.


Obviously not all ESFp are like that and my own leading function makes me biased.


But I find Fi-creative scary; It bends "the rules" (my own standards) and draws quick conclusions about things I would think over in detail.
Like considering multiple perspectives; my own feelings, others intentions,... , and if I have the right to judge.

SEE don't do that but they are more forgiving and have more people who like them because of that (and their optimistic and lively nature).


I would still make friends with ESFps though. They're fun to be around and most of the time their intentions are good. They express themselves differently and I think that helps me to not claim the moral high ground everytime.