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    This is what an LSI girl told me. She can't pick whether she wants to go to the cinema, she can't pick which movie to watch, she can't pick what kind of meat she wants for dinner. Did I mistype her? I thought LSIs were supposed to be very clear about such things.

    I typed her and I was pretty sure, but sometimes she says things that make me think - "ah, I know very well what she means... We are so similar. Maybe she's beta NF. But she looks so IJ..." I know I'm supposed to be similar with my dual, but how similar is too similar? I usually stand for well over a minute trying to pick cheese. My dual is supposed to go there, look at cheese, decide that they all look the same and just take one without further thought.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kristiina View Post
    This is what an LSI girl told me. She can't pick whether she wants to go to the cinema, she can't pick which movie to watch, she can't pick what kind of meat she wants for dinner. Did I mistype her? I thought LSIs were supposed to be very clear about such things.

    I typed her and I was pretty sure, but sometimes she says things that make me think - "ah, I know very well what she means... We are so similar. Maybe she's beta NF. But she looks so IJ..." I know I'm supposed to be similar with my dual, but how similar is too similar? I usually stand for well over a minute trying to pick cheese. My dual is supposed to go there, look at cheese, decide that they all look the same and just take one without further thought.

    LSIs aren't always certain as to what they want, especially where their inner feelings are concerned, that's where people like you are supposed to help out . They're much better at answering objective questions, like is home loan A better than home loan B.

    Assuming your friend is an LSI, she's probably weighed up whether movie A will be more entertaining than movie B and found that there'll be no difference or she doesn't have enough information to make an informed decision - so needs to go with her gut (which if she is an LSI - won't like doing as there's no objectivity to it).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Peter View Post
    LSIs aren't always certain as to what they want[...]
    I'm surprised. I thought they were the be all and end all of decision-makers. I thought they were the decision.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kristiina View Post
    This is what an LSI girl told me. She can't pick whether she wants to go to the cinema, she can't pick which movie to watch, she can't pick what kind of meat she wants for dinner. Did I mistype her?
    Yes, probably.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kristiina View Post
    This is what an LSI girl told me. She can't pick whether she wants to go to the cinema, she can't pick which movie to watch, she can't pick what kind of meat she wants for dinner. Did I mistype her? I thought LSIs were supposed to be very clear about such things.

    I typed her and I was pretty sure, but sometimes she says things that make me think - "ah, I know very well what she means... We are so similar. Maybe she's beta NF. But she looks so IJ..." I know I'm supposed to be similar with my dual, but how similar is too similar? I usually stand for well over a minute trying to pick cheese. My dual is supposed to go there, look at cheese, decide that they all look the same and just take one without further thought.
    I think there's certainly times we're all indecisive. I think is the source of that conflict for me. I can be very specific about what I want sometimes, other times, I just know what I don't want. It can certainly be confusing and frustrating for other types who don't see what the fuss is all about. It's frustrating for me too! I just don't know what I'm in the mood for; what will provide the most fulfilling experience at the time.

    I also stand awhile choosing what cheese to buy if I'm presented with new cheese choices, or am looking for something different for a recipe or something. If I just want my "usual", then it's XXX cheddar and Israeli feta at Wegmans.

    This is a pretty narrow example. Any other traits that made you decide she was LSI...?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kristiina View Post
    This is what an LSI girl told me. She can't pick whether she wants to go to the cinema, she can't pick which movie to watch, she can't pick what kind of meat she wants for dinner. Did I mistype her? I thought LSIs were supposed to be very clear about such things.
    If that's a typical behavior, I'd guess she's EIE or IEI.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kristiina View Post
    This is what an LSI girl told me. She can't pick whether she wants to go to the cinema, she can't pick which movie to watch, she can't pick what kind of meat she wants for dinner. Did I mistype her? I thought LSIs were supposed to be very clear about such things.

    I typed her and I was pretty sure, but sometimes she says things that make me think - "ah, I know very well what she means... We are so similar. Maybe she's beta NF. But she looks so IJ..." I know I'm supposed to be similar with my dual, but how similar is too similar? I usually stand for well over a minute trying to pick cheese. My dual is supposed to go there, look at cheese, decide that they all look the same and just take one without further thought.
    What Rick said, plus she might not realize how she really is. I don't think I'm very decisive, but when I'm with Ne/Ni types I realize that in comparison I am.
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    Quote Originally Posted by PotatoSpirit View Post
    What Rick said, plus she might not realize how she really is. I don't think I'm very decisive, but when I'm with Ne/Ni types I realize that in comparison I am.
    I'm hoping that's true.

    Typical situation.

    Me: been looking at my empty glass for 10 min but haven't done anything about it.
    Her: Maybe we should bet new drinks? or what should we do...? (unsure)
    Me: yeah maybe.. (very unsure)
    Her: You don't want a new one yet? (in a firm voice)
    Me: I do! (firm voice)
    Her: ah ok, lets have new drinks.
    Me:

    PS! Rick= Peter?
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    one thing ive noticed with my LSI friend is that if making a decision in advance, he generally knows exactly what he wants to do or perhaps what he should do, and does it without flexibility, as a matter of course. he even "schedules" times to phone friends just to talk, which seems bizarre to me given that i think of phoning a friend as dependent on current mood or a need/desire to talk for some unforeseen reason (unless of course there is prior warning of a need to talk in which case phoning a friend may be planned). but the flipside is that given possibilities to consider spur of the moment, he doesn't sense the importance of those possibilities and will opt to, lets say, stay home and do nothing (then later lament his "wasting time" or whatever) instead of making a quick decision to engage in some unplanned activity.
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    @emeye - She has no trouble getting attention. Guys really do notice her whereever she is. The problem is that she assumes it's typical for guys to invite girls to dance, etc, so as a default she declines without further thought. One guy who made a pass at her looked incredibly ENFj!

    @reyn til runa - when I haven't planned anything, I'd rather stay at home and do nothing than go out and have fun with friends. I don't like unexpected plans at all. And I actually also plan when I call people. Like when I want to make plans for saturday, I'll call on wednesday or thursday even if I knew about the plan two weeks in advance.
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