They’re like junk food. They know they should abstain from it and probably eat healthy most of the time but can’t help caving every now and then. Most people don’t like to be defined by their “mistakes”/vices”
Fair point but the thing is, at the time it doesn't feel like a mistake or vice at all- but just something so natural. What the woman said about bad boys protecting you also feels true. No offense but maybe straight guys don't fully understand this but women/gay guys hate somebody cruelly taking advantage of our natural vulnerabilities. Nobody likes that, but we especially don't. A guy that can be viscious to our natural predators/enemies in the outside world but nice to us is like- damn.

Of course in reality a guy that is a dick to others is often also a dick to their significant other as well. ((Fe trumping Fi? lol)) That's where things go south and go south hard and then everybody is all 'you stupid str8 girl why were you so typical and did this! If you just weren't attracted to him in the first place this fucked up grimdark drama wouldn't even be happening now, you should be ashamed of your natural instincts. Why couldn't you have just married Nice Guy greg who was so sweet to you and bagged your groceries at Walgreens!'

Because well Greg didn't prove himself as a good enough tank. In a dog eat dog world you fight fire with fire not by being nice. That can be an effective strategy too at times don't get me wrong, but it's obviously limited. I don't know- everybody sucks sometimes. SJWism against white straight guys is stupid because it's not like females/gays/blacks/whatever aren't the bad guys sometimes too. It's not really about right or wrong though but about power.