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    Pounding music, lively, enthusiastic atmosphere and lots of pushing and shoving. I'd attribute it to Fe.

    This is inspired by a situation yesterday. I was at a club with my IEE friend and two of his friends, one of which I think is Fe ego, another of which I think values Fe. They both enjoyed it, but my IEE friend hated it. Is it because he is Fi valuing, and simply doesn't enjoy that atmosphere? Or is it him as a person? Anyway, I want to know if Fi valuers can enjoy them.
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    In the case of an IEE, I think the reason for disliking such an atmosphere would be more related to Si than to Fi.

    I think the particular atmosphere you described has at least as much to do with Se as with Fe.
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    I don't get your post. Can fi-valuers, but not in the ego block, like clubs, and then it's about an IEE. IEE have fi in the ego block. This doesn't make sense.

    In my younger years, I loved clubs, until they got loud enough to give me a headache. If they weren't so loud and didn't have so many flashing lights, I would have loved them much more. So yes, what expat said, my problem would be Si related.
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    Do Fi-valuers like clubs? Why not?
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    Someone who values Fi could like clubs. However, I am an Fi-valuer who does not. I have an IEE friend who tolerates clubs, but usually the less-packed, lower key ones where he can interact with a whole bunch of friends, as well as meet new people. All the LSEs I know wouldn't be comfortable in that environment. Well, at least it wouldn't be their first choice at all. That's the extent of my knowledge. The only person outside of delta would be an SEE, and he enjoys himself pretty much in those situations.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Slacker Mom View Post
    I don't get your post. Can fi-valuers, but not in the ego block, like clubs, and then it's about an IEE. IEE have fi in the ego block. This doesn't make sense.
    I think he's asking about any Fi-valuing type, not just (but still including) those with Fi in Ego

    and my answer is... of course they can like clubs, but perhaps there is a tendency for Se and Fe valuing types to enjoy them more
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    The way I see it, the most naturally Delta environment is the home. Clubs are pretty much the exact opposite. I get very weird mixed reactions to stuff like clubs - there is a ton of Se, but also a ton of Fe.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Expat View Post
    In the case of an IEE, I think the reason for disliking such an atmosphere would be more related to Si than to Fi.

    I think the particular atmosphere you described has at least as much to do with Se as with Fe.

    That makes sense. I'm an INTj, so I value Fe but have an Se POLR. I don't like clubs because of all the noise and crowds.
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    Stereotyped hyperboles of natural Quadra habitats it would probably be:
    A) Alpha: Restaurants
    B) Beta: Parties and Clubs
    C) Gamma: Offices and Work
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ezra View Post
    Pounding music, lively, enthusiastic atmosphere and lots of pushing and shoving. I'd attribute it to Fe.

    This is inspired by a situation yesterday. I was at a club with my IEE friend and two of his friends, one of which I think is Fe ego, another of which I think values Fe. They both enjoyed it, but my IEE friend hated it. Is it because he is Fi valuing, and simply doesn't enjoy that atmosphere? Or is it him as a person? Anyway, I want to know if Fi valuers can enjoy them.
    My first thought was : HAVE YOU FORGOTTEN ABOUT SEEs? !! The ultimate club-goers lol!

    ETA: I do agree that what you first described in your post and generally your question itself is Beta-oriented...

    I tend to adore that type of rowdiness, and I don't mind the drunkenness, it's hilariously fun. I mean, there's a time for deep intellectual talk, getting to know someone, etc. and there's a time for all-out craziness without worry about deeper bonding and whatnot. Actually, sometimes I feel even more bonded to people if I go out partying with them b/c so many random things happen and you just feel like you've shared something together. I think that's definitely an valuing thing to say, though.

    I like my experiences intense, not relaxing. I even think sleeping's a waste of time. I do think that PoLR people would avoid clubs a lot. It's the playground for Ego types, so I don't expect to see LIIs/EIIs cavorting around there anytime soon. I once made an LII go to a rave. Needless to say, he was not very um, comfortable.

    Lights, bodies packed together, collective ... awesome
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    Quote Originally Posted by ScarlettLux View Post
    I tend to adore that type of rowdiness, and I don't mind the drunkenness, it's hilariously fun. I mean, there's a time for deep intellectual talk, getting to know someone, etc. and there's a time for all-out craziness without worry about deeper bonding and whatnot. Actually, sometimes I feel even more bonded to people if I go out partying with them b/c so many random things happen and you just feel like you've shared something together. I think that's definitely an valuing thing to say, though.

    I like my experiences intense, not relaxing. I even think sleeping's a waste of time. I do think that PoLR people would avoid clubs a lot. It's the playground for Ego types, so I don't expect to see LIIs/EIIs cavorting around there anytime soon. I once made an LII go to a rave. Needless to say, he was not very um, comfortable.

    Lights, bodies packed together, collective ... awesome
    I despise this.

    ETA: Everything you've said here is contrary to what I think about clubs, experiences and life in general.

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    When I was 17-18, clubs were a new thing for me (obviously).
    But by 19 I learned that I was pretty picky about the kind of atmosphere I wanted to dance in. I don't like the pounding music, particularly those that have virtually the same beat over and over and over again. I don't like not being able to talk with someone. I don't like the meat-market feeling of some clubs…particularly college oriented ones. I don't like the crowdedness nor the stifling heat from all those bodies.

    What I do like, however, are live bands in a small to medium bar with a dance floor surrounded by sitting/eating areas. I like having space to play pool/darts if that's what I want to do. And being able to carry on a conversation (just don't stand next to the band's speakers, heh) without straining my voice. I like that in some of them (the ones I like) there are a variety of people, age differences, lifestyle differences, etc, and everyone is accepting everyone else..at least for a few hours. I mean, depending on the band playing, you can have bikers and yuppies sitting/dancing next/with each other. If you're alone or without a "date", you can pretty much ask anyone to join you without them thinking you are trying to pick them up. It seems understood that you're just there to have fun. Sure, some people are there hoping to pick someone up for the night. But you're not asked "then why the fuck are you here???" if you inform them that you're not interested in that. There's usually less people (though some bands bring in "crushes"..standing room only). And more options. (I don't like sitting around on my butt drinking from a glass/bottle when I'd rather be moving around DOING something.) And if you want to go out for a breath of fresh air, you can…without worrying about not being able to get back in (no lines, stamps for admittance, etc).

    When I lived in california, I willingly traveled 30 minutes to go to one particular bar, it was a bar that was out in the middle of nowhere. But they had such a huge variety of bands (Thursday nights was heavy metal bands, Wednesday nights was Country night, Weekends were Rock-n Roll…anywhere from 50's, 60's, up to 90's, etc). And a variety of patrons. It was the only bar I'd go to for dancing.

    In utah I had to travel to a little whole in the wall, but it was the only hole in the wall in three counties that was actually fun to be in and met my requirements.

    Same thing with here. Out of the numerous clubs/bars around here, there's only one that I'm willing to go to, even with having to travel 30+ minutes to get to. And I even HATE driving at night!



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    I hate clubbing.

    What I do like, however, are live bands in a small to medium bar with a dance floor surrounded by sitting/eating areas. I like having space to play pool/darts if that's what I want to do. And being able to carry on a conversation (just don't stand next to the band's speakers, heh) without straining my voice. I like that in some of them (the ones I like) there are a variety of people, age differences, lifestyle differences, etc, and everyone is accepting everyone else..at least for a few hours. I mean, depending on the band playing, you can have bikers and yuppies sitting/dancing next/with each other. If you're alone or without a "date", you can pretty much ask anyone to join you without them thinking you are trying to pick them up. It seems understood that you're just there to have fun. Sure, some people are there hoping to pick someone up for the night. But you're not asked "then why the fuck are you here???" if you inform them that you're not interested in that. There's usually less people (though some bands bring in "crushes"..standing room only). And more options. (I don't like sitting around on my butt drinking from a glass/bottle when I'd rather be moving around DOING something.) And if you want to go out for a breath of fresh air, you can…without worrying about not being able to get back in (no lines, stamps for admittance, etc).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Expat View Post
    In the case of an IEE, I think the reason for disliking such an atmosphere would be more related to Si than to Fi.
    Well, he did say "I just hate the whole aesthetics of it; the way people just go 'ooh, look at me, I waste my money on going out and getting drunk every Friday night. I can chat people up and because I am so alcohol-intoxicated I have confidence now...'" as well as "I was hoping for something a bit more cultured, with interesting people to interact with".

    Quote Originally Posted by Slacker Mom View Post
    I don't get your post. Can fi-valuers, but not in the ego block, like clubs, and then it's about an IEE. IEE have fi in the ego block. This doesn't make sense.
    Right, in short, Fi ego and valuers. Do they like clubs? That is what I want to know. Sorry, it was horrifically confusing.

    Quote Originally Posted by munenori2 View Post
    I have an IEE friend who tolerates clubs, but usually the less-packed, lower key ones where he can interact with a whole bunch of friends, as well as meet new people.
    This is essentially what my IEE friend was looking for was a bunch of interesting people to meet and talk to.

    Quote Originally Posted by Expat View Post
    FTR & FWIW, I'm not particularly disturbed by such club atmospheres -- I just see them as sort of pointless if the pounding music actually prevents people from talking to each other. When I've been to clubs it was really more like a "concession" to whomever I was with. I much prefer pub-like places where you can talk, or the kind of "mixed" atmospheres where you can withdraw to a quieter corner. If the music is not so loud as to drown everything else, though, it's okay.
    The whole point of clubs is what a lot of people don't get. It's not to talk to people, or even meet new people. You go to one to drink (and get drunk), flirt (including pulling someone and getting their number) and dance, with perhaps the occasional "heyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!! I haven't seen you for time!!!!!" chance meeting with an old friend, or with some drunk from your course at uni. If you don't enjoy this atmosphere, does this indicate that you cannot be Fi valuing or ego? This is the question I'm essentially posing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ezra View Post
    The whole point of clubs is what a lot of people don't get. It's not to talk to people, or even meet new people. You go to one to drink (and get drunk), flirt (including pulling someone and getting their number) and dance, with perhaps the occasional "heyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!! I haven't seen you for time!!!!!" chance meeting with an old friend, or with some drunk from your course at uni. If you don't enjoy this atmosphere, does this indicate that you cannot be Fi valuing or ego? This is the question I'm essentially posing.
    The answer is: you can be Fi valuing and like this atmosphere. End.
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    Quote Originally Posted by FDG View Post
    The answer is: you can be Fi valuing and like this atmosphere. End.
    Yes thats right. I throw a spanner in the works here because i quite like club atmosphere. I dont mind the lights and music and hordes of people. Very interesting environment. I wouldn't go all the time however. To be honest for me at the moment it goes Light club > pub > home. Clubs get my senses pumping and im less likely to get bored.
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    Quote Originally Posted by meatburger View Post
    Yes thats right. I throw a spanner in the works here because i quite like club atmosphere. I dont mind the lights and music and hordes of people. Very interesting environment. I wouldn't go all the time however. To be honest for me at the moment it goes Light club > pub > home. Clubs get my senses pumping and im less likely to get bored.
    For me, it depends on many things - how I am feeling at the moment, how tired I am, what I have to do the next day (let's face it you can't club properly and be okay the next day!). Yes they are energizing to the senses, that is the best thing about them. The worst are sweaty half-naked males (although I suppose I contribute to their population sometimes, lol).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ezra View Post
    The whole point of clubs is what a lot of people don't get. It's not to talk to people, or even meet new people. You go to one to drink (and get drunk), flirt (including pulling someone and getting their number) and dance, with perhaps the occasional "heyyyyyyyyy!!!!!!! I haven't seen you for time!!!!!" chance meeting with an old friend, or with some drunk from your course at uni. If you don't enjoy this atmosphere, does this indicate that you cannot be Fi valuing or ego? This is the question I'm essentially posing.
    I do get that point of clubs, but again it's not my cup of tea. And if you have strong enough Se and/or Fe, I think you may enjoy it, regardless of your Fi, as in SEEs. In my own case, it's probably the Fe (not having much time for sequential flirting in a crowded environment) and not so much the Se.
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