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    Aggressor: ...Doesn't trust that the other person feels the same unless they have to work for it.
    It was my understanding that in Gamma, the Aggressor has an emotionally stable and healthy trust/belief in their own feelings, as well as in those of their partner. This is due to their strong Fi. It is the ILI and LIE, with their weak Se and Fi, who require continuous reassurance of the authenticity of their partner's feelings.

    By challenging the SEE or ESI to repeatedly prove and demonstrate the strength of their feelings, the ILI or LIE ensures their partner is still worthy of receiving their devotion and vulnerability (both physical and emotional). The SEE and the ESI are more than willing to do this, as it falls within their sphere of strength in the relationship--asserting (Se) their feelings (Fi). This Se/Fi demonstration is akin to an ILI or LIE deriving value and esteem from pointing out the most efficient way for their SEE or ESI to accomplish a task.

    That Gamma dynamic precisely illuminates the problem I had with the title of "Victim". It is essential to the ILI and LIE not to feel as though they are "giving away" (against their will), their precious physical trust and vulnerable feelings to an unworthy recipient. For comparison's sake, this distinction could be best explained by the difference between benevolently allowing one's Aggressor partner to physically/sexually dominate or benefit within the intimate partnership, versus being raped (truly victimized) by a random stranger. Thus the distinction between Victim and Devotee.

    The ILI and LIE harbour an innate fear of being emotionally "fooled". Thus they continually devise creative schemes and obstacles using Ni & Te, in an attempt to trick the SEE or ESI into unknowingly revealing their true feelings and intentions. It sounds deceptive but it is merely a protective mechanism, given the ILI and LIE's deficiencies of emotional savviness, to level the intimate playing field.
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