- Can project either a submissive or arrogant view of themselves
- The openly submissive version never questions the partners
control but expects the partner to "show the way" in all aspects"
I've found this to be extremely true. EIEs can be arrogant assholes "I'm not weak, I'm dominant" (lol) and then you have EIEs are way too ready to be controlled.
You have LIEs who think they're god's hilarious gift to women, can't be held down or domesticated (i'll admit it's not a horrible look for LIEs *grumble) and then you have LIEs that are more "broken in" (happens after a heart break, shit break up etc.) I've seen this variation referenced in literature that i would cite if i actually remembered it.
I've never seen an IEI that didn't like being treated aggressively, the less you give a shit about how they react, the more positively they respond (sorry if i sound crude, just being honest). I'll admit that just because i haven't seen "assertive/doninant" iei's doesnt mean they don't exist. and i have no idea how ILIs are, but i can imagine any variation on the aggressive vs submissive pole/dichotomy. My past interaction isn't telling in that way, since back then i was really insecure. *Shrugs.
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Dual type (as per tcaudilllg)
Enneagram 2w1sw(1w9) helps others to live up to their own standards of what a good person is and is very behind the scenes in the process.
Tritype 1-2-6 stacking sp/sx
I'm constantly looking to align the real with the ideal.I've been more oriented toward being overly idealistic by expecting the real to match the ideal. My thinking side is dominent. The result is that sometimes I can be overly impersonal or self-centered in my approach, not being understanding of others in the process and simply thinking "you should do this" or "everyone should follor this rule"..."regardless of how they feel or where they're coming from"which just isn't a good attitude to have. It is a way, though, to give oneself an artificial sense of self-justification. LSE
Best description of functions:
[QUOTE=SisOfNight;1091901]I have encountered both aspects in the same person. Well, that one person told me about their "broken in" phase. Though generally, I could see the LIE-Ni being more Victim and "soft" because of stronger Ni. LIE-Te would be much more in denial about their Victim-ness. (Similar to that would be EIE-Fe.)
LIE-C and LIE-D are more dominant,
LIE-H and N are less so.
Yeah EIE-E is very dominant as a matter of pride and EIE ni is inherently submissive in my experience.
I feel like the romance styles theory causes more confusion and stereotypes than producing any actual understanding or explanation.
I still like to use them, but they almost exist as a separate type system.
Agressor types sound very male bro type.
Victims sound like "shit testers".
Infantiles basically sound exactly as they're named.
Caregivers sound like a mommy or daddy type.
I think one person could be all of these in a relationship depending on the situation and mood.
There is some truth to this theory though I think it just needs to be modified by someone.
Ni types can seem victimish because they are in their head more than out of it but still value a Se "aggressor" to shake them out of their dreamy stupor.
Ne types can seem childish because of their precocious imaginative nature and value a Si "caregiver" to keep their feet on the ground.
With mind distracted, never thinking, "Death is coming,"
To slave away on the pointless business of mundane life,
And then to come out empty--it is a tragic error.ENFJ | EIE-Fe | WELP | 3w4 sx/so