My SEI treats me royally, this is not a joke, I mean it. She is not even bothered to do that in public. I never wanted to have slaves, but this is not the same thing, I like it, I don't feel embarrassed, because she does everything by her own will. I feel like a very young prince who is not aware of his power and people come and fulfil his wishes.
So, I said
royally, don't forget that. It ranges from feeding to courteous behaviour with me in public. Who the hell does that to someone else these days?...
I think it's not just her, it's type related, I know SEI males who are real gentlemen when they're with people they like and respect, could look confused otherwise.
I think Dual relationship Between Alpha Irrationals (but extending to more types) raise their self-esteem very high. First of all they treat each other with attention. I said above about ILE, about SEI: I think ILEs, because they can be "inconsistently" serious and joking, make SEIs realize that peoples' demands are just their hubris, their trifles, and they should not be taken so seriously as before. People exploit SEIs because SEIs are too respectful and take other peoples' wishes as overly important (some types can't understand how sensitive are SEIs inside and how affected are by things). They are not fucking important at all, lol, but one needs insight or example to realize that everybody is just a fucking grown-up prick and his/her "serious/important" matters are just bullshit, only the toys are different. Taking me, I don't give a shit about what someone wants me to do if I don't find it important myself, be it the president of the USA - though I admit that Obama is cool and I'd make an exception for him
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SEIs are caring for ILEs in practical matters because:
1. They are concerned. For both. The are doing it for themselves as well. "Is there enough this and that?" or "Some water is leaking in the bathroom!" They rarely can think of something else when there's a shortcoming or a problem around, can't focus if they have to learn for school in these conditions, for example. They need comfort and things to be fine.
2. They can't resist needs or temptations of any kind. ILE share their happiness
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3. ILE is not so concerned, on short-term. "Caesar can wait, but heaven can't".
4. This equality. No one orders the other what to do, except the other asked for it ("Please, every time you see me posting on the forum, force me to do some more work. Don't listen to me when I delay it").
5. They are very imaginative and always have a speculation of what process happens at a certain time. You have a pain? There's no problem, they can "explain" what happens inside you, what's happening to your tissues, blood pressure & stuff
. What's that weird noise? You may not even hear it, but they will find out and show you what was the issue.
SLIs are the same, ime.
6. hmm I forgot, I'll edit.