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    Do you think your sexual behaviour, attitude towards sex is somehow type-related? And what about fantasies? Is it like a guy who dreams about sex with his teacher is infantile and a guy who dreams a about an innocent school-girl is aggresive? And what about being a gay? Are some types more inclined to be gays that the other? From my own experience I can tell that I know some INFjs who are gays or bi. But they are too few to tell anything. I'd risk saying that T people are less inclined to that (don't know why and I am still not sure

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pauluch View Post
    Do you think your sexual behaviour, attitude towards sex is somehow type-related? And what about fantasies? Is it like a guy who dreams about sex with his teacher is infantile and a guy who dreams a about an innocent school-girl is aggresive? And what about being a gay? Are some types more inclined to be gays that the other? From my own experience I can tell that I know some INFjs who are gays or bi. But they are too few to tell anything. I'd risk saying that T people are less inclined to that (don't know why and I am still not sure
    There's the whole myth in MBTT about Feelers being women and if men, mainly gay, or at least feminine, and Thinkers being men and if women, mainly lesbians. This is bullshit, and no doubt some people will carry the same belief through into socionics.

    As for sexual behaviour, absolutely. The romantic styles are based on behaviour towards one's mate. Fantasies, however, I don't believe are incorporated into said styles. I think Aggressors can be fans of femdom, and Infantiles can think about boning some chick so hard she screams.

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    While I think type is correlated with sexual attitudes, Ezra is right to point out that the connection is not so stringent. Not to mention the stereotypical connotations which are associated all up in there.
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    im glad u mentioned this- for some reason i like being the victim during sex and all of my fantasies are with being the victim too. it remings me of the sex and the city episode where carrie asks, "could it be that what we don't like IRL, we love in sex?" i think there may be some truth to this in that thinking sex = lack of inhibition that during sex you let go of who you usually are. idk tho, who knows. like what would a caregiver be like during sex? maybe it's not necessarily type-related.
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    I think I'm victim in real life, sex and fantacies. Don't get the wrong idea here - I do have a lot of willpower and I do get a bit bossy every once in a while, and is also one part of being passionate, and valuing means I don't like slow "relaxing" atmosphere. But I am a victim because I expect the guy to be able to take the lead. I never have any fantacies about cute and gentle Casanova kind of guys. My taste is more to the side of Transporter (played by Jason Statham) or Riddick (played by Vin Diesel).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Starfall View Post
    This.

    Though I like a mixture of everything, I actually prefer to be more of the aggressor during sex. I'm very intense and I like to be the one in control a lot of the time. It's kind of hard to find a guy who can keep up with me all the time.

    "In real life" situations (like at work, etc), I'm quite submissive and not as intense. I'm quiet and prefer others to be in charge rather than taking charge, etc. I definitely don't have that irl alpha female personality.
    I think DS function related.

    Like I get pleasure from giving pleasure. Si-DS.

    IEI's I think can be Se-DS in this manner.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ezra View Post
    There's the whole myth in MBTT about Feelers being women and if men, mainly gay, or at least feminine, and Thinkers being men and if women, mainly lesbians. This is bullshit, and no doubt some people will carry the same belief through into socionics.
    never heard of that myth...

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    Okay, maybe not strictly in MBTT, but a woman Thinker would in society probably be seen as butch, and a male Feeler would be seen as a gay.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Pauluch View Post
    Do you think your sexual behaviour, attitude towards sex is somehow type-related? And what about fantasies? Is it like a guy who dreams about sex with his teacher is infantile and a guy who dreams a about an innocent school-girl is aggresive? And what about being a gay? Are some types more inclined to be gays that the other? From my own experience I can tell that I know some INFjs who are gays or bi. But they are too few to tell anything. I'd risk saying that T people are less inclined to that (don't know why and I am still not sure
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    Quote Originally Posted by Ver View Post
    Do you think your sexual behaviour, attitude towards sex is somehow type-related? And what about fantasies? Is it like a guy who dreams about sex with his teacher is infantile and a guy who dreams a about an innocent school-girl is aggresive? And what about being a gay? Are some types more inclined to be gays that the other? From my own experience I can tell that I know some INFjs who are gays or bi. But they are too few to tell anything. I'd risk saying that T people are less inclined to that (don't know why and I am still not sure
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    teacher-student --- Infantile (but kinda aggressive, not a moron)
    gay dreams -- Delta (doesn't mean yew actually gay)
    bisexual -- Gamma Aggressors
    you just lie there and wanna be tied up with wax and blood -- Victim or Infantile (depends on the age of the other person)
    necrophilia --- Beta NF sp/sx
    orgy -- Beta Fe sx/so (only if you know where the whole group is going and yew all moan the same)
    rape -- Aggressor (Beta if you don't actually wanna)
    feather fetish -- Caregiver Alpha SF
    cum shot -- Decisive
    castration - Negativist
    premature ejaculation --. Delta NF
    orgadsm control - IJ
    voyeurism -- Infantile
    anal -- Te lead
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    haha, crazy creativity!

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    Add 'violent' to my type please.

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    in my case strangely enough it's most repelling with Caregivers, not Infantiles. Prolly bcause they already feel set in their ways and think sex should be "done" as they conventionally do it or smth. Infantiles can be more flexible and creative ime.

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    apart from the basic Se/Ni and Ne/Si dynamic (aggressive, raw, perverted sex vs. softer, sweeter, slower-building with a streak of tenderness etc.), I'm convinced any preference in terms of fetishes, fantasies, and sexual orientation is absolutely NTR.

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    Yes my attitude and behavior sexually is probably type related, my fantasies as well would appear to fall in line with being type related.
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    I do 3 positions (missionary, cowgirl and doggy) and try to last long. I have generic fantasies about ripping clothes off and having my way with girls and in my day-to-day life I'm a wussy who keeps his hands to himself too much. I like assertive bitchy females out of necessity but I sometimes look at meek little Ni-IEI girls and wonder what could've been. I'm chauvinistic and I like it when a girl respects me and I'm not above fucking someone up in my fantasies. Socionics is a fluke.
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    Quote Originally Posted by suedehead View Post
    I do 3 positions (missionary, cowgirl and doggy) and try to last long. I have generic fantasies about ripping clothes off and having my way with girls and in my day-to-day life I'm a wussy who keeps his hands to himself too much. I like assertive bitchy females out of necessity but I sometimes look at meek little Ni-IEI girls and wonder what could've been. I'm chauvinistic and I like it when a girl respects me and I'm not above fucking someone up in my fantasies. Socionics is a fluke.
    exactly. You are not Aggressor ego....not sexually and not psychologically.
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    I've had fantasies of coming onto two of my highschool teachers too. I like really grown women.

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    I'm of the opinion that current socionics does not do a decent job regarding human behavior;

    I do think it does touch on it, but can't explain how some phenomenon occur-

    Like, a person may be more apt to behave in a manner, but there seems to be no material dealing with any pathology, mental illness or what do we do with people outside the norm

    Perhaps there could be an addendum utilizing a dysfunctions as opposed to the functions introduced into the functional stack;

    I kind of think a function can have a dimension of interior, and that pathology could arise in both the interior or exterior of a function, and or the oscillation between them

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amber View Post
    exactly. You are not Aggressor ego....not sexually and not psychologically.



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    Quote Originally Posted by suedehead View Post




    I bet that's what you fantasize about, incompetent passive-aggressive little pussy. A Nazi Dominatrix.

    You sure need a bitch like that to fuck your ass till you're pushed out of your shitty whining patterns that only won you some Aylen "victim" online so far. Nothing in real life ...coz you're obviously not good in bed, if you didn't keep that only girl you claim you fucked.
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    Quote Originally Posted by suedehead View Post


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    Quote Originally Posted by suedehead View Post







    Suedehead's Se ego dating profile:
    I believe in female domination. I enjoy objectification, bondage and generally being a slave. I am willing to be at your beck and call all hours of the day to rub your feet, clean and cook for you. I do not ask for anything in return other than to be your slave.

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    Look, you stupid cougar. I don't appreciate you projecting your sick sexual fantasies onto me and I'm surprised that you'd call yourself Se-ego when you choose to go about it so covertly. I've already said that I'm attracted to you and I'd probably make a pass at you if you didn't live in former Yugoslavia.

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    Quote Originally Posted by suedehead View Post
    Look, you dumb cougar. I don't appreciate you projecting your sexual fantasies onto me and I'm surprised that you'd call yourself Se-ego when you choose to go about it so covertly. I've already said that I'm attracted to you.

    I know you're attracted to me, but I don't like absolutely anything about you. Physically or personality-wise. I bet you have an estrogen-filled fat ass, narrow shoulders, and generally no force in your limbs.

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    I have broad shoulders, strong traps, and a lean ectomorphic build. A year ago you told me i was 'fascinating' so cut the bullshit Hilga.

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    Quote Originally Posted by suedehead View Post
    I have broad shoulders, strong traps, and a lean ectomorphic build. A year ago you told me i was 'fascinating' so cut the bullshit Hilga.
    That was Subteigh. I'd never say that to any dude, but I did think that about him.

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    I like it when my bf takes the time to enjoy the sensual and sexual nature of sex . You can really sense his Si when he's quiet and just taking things in every once in a while making remarks of pleasurable sensation
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    not really ...or not necessarily.
    that video he linked vibed Fi ... but still ..in Socionics strippers are kinda SEE and SLE.

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