Why are my worst types most into me?

[Shazaam]

Opposites attract even when they shouldn't, and your dual is gonna seem stale and boring at first. But the dual is gonna surprise and amaze you, and the pure opposite is just gonna repel you...but you usually have to experience it first.

It's really very true how people say we ignore our duals in groups for so long, while we seem to just...click with our conflictors at first. That's how it's been like for me, and part of the reason why socionics seemed to make so much sense.

Many first marriages are with your conflictors, because there's an unmistakable opposite energy that cannot be denied. But it's like a magnet that's poisonous. That's the best analogy I can think of. You're drawn to your conflictor, but not for good reasons.

Now granted, conflicting relationships aren't the uber most-bad thing...though they are not good for you, and you just have to learn that yourself. Conflicting can be energetic if you're not close- but over-time we want to be close with people, so that kind of contradicts itself.

The best relationships are the perfect blend of hetero and homo-ness ...ie duals, read my psychology-gay thread "the true nature on why we like this crap." It's where you can just be your total self, not worrying about the illusion of gender either way (or in any way) It is very powerful indeed.

Just look at how many fucking bugs go fly right up to the fucking lamp even when it's going to fucking kill them. That's kind of like how conflicting relationships are.

[UDP]

Opposites attract even when they shouldn't, and your dual is gonna seem stale and boring at first. But the dual is gonna surprise and amaze you, and the pure opposite is just gonna repel you...but you usually have to experience it first.

Most people just seem to suck at realizing what is good for them and what is not good for them.

[implied]

Most people just seem to suck at realizing what is good for them and what is not good for them.

please tell us what's good for us, UDP.


anyhow, to add to this thread -- yeah, i have noticed opposing quadra people being attracted to me. why, i don't know. and yeah, i've noticed the arguing with me to convince me that we're compatible, too, jewels. BRILLIANT.

[Shazaam]

Most people just seem to suck at realizing what is good for them and what is not good for them.

You said this before. And I do agree....

It comes from I think, religious bringing. We're told that there's a void missing in life, we were born with only the male or female spirit within us- and that we need the 'other half' to complete us.

Nonsense. Best relationships tend to happen when you are confident in yourself already and know how to play the game.

While it is true that you want somebody different- but the thing is, we're all different anyway- so nobody is going to be exactly like you anyway. So look for complimentary things, rather than similarities/differences. It's the grounding block of any legit psychological theory...ever.

A nerdy wallflowerish girl with secret power isn't going to mesh well with a mean, obnoxious person that spits on her face and drives a motorcycle. But...more like somebody that can unleash her potential goals inside her.... not give her a bunch of shit that she isn't meant to deal with. Two sides of the same coin, and all that BS. What Rick wrote about one person enjoying doing sports and the other person watching/organizing the event is great. But it's cool if they compete together too, I think. Again- we like people that are more like us than different. This has been proven lots and lots of times before.

But a bookworm showing up at a ballgame because she's insecure and thinks their cocks can make her whole? ROFLMAO.

[Pearl80]

Man! INTP's and me seem to just click right off the bat! Relations of benefit are really painful. I don't know what's worse your conflict partner or your beneficiary! Pisses me off that they're (INTP's) always so handsome!

[thePirate]

Why is it that I attract only my least compatible types? ENFJs and ISTJs especially? And when I tell them we aren't compatible, they just argue with me. *confused*

As a rule, we chase that which escapes us.

This question has alot of answers. I would suggest taking a look at your friends/where you hangout, etc. Do these seem like places where the type you seek would normally be? Also, self-esteem/confidence is tied in here, if you are not allowing yourself to be yourself, this could also be having an effect.

[meatburger]

Yeah i certianlly see what you mean with that Pirate. Funnily enough the same type of thing is happening to me at uni. I have aqaintances at uni who i sit with in lectures and tutes. I dont know how the hell i got into this situation but i dont really click with any of them. Except now i feel that i have to sit with them/say hi or im being rude.

One interesting thing thats happened is two of these friends have said "God i hate that lecture xxxxx. Like he just annoys the shit out of me". The funny thing is i am almost certian hes an ENFp. I quite like him. How the hell am i supposed to feel when they are talking about hating another Enfp lol. I know its different with a teacher but it still makes me feel weird. I once had an ENFp friends sister hitting on me and shes like "fuck she annoys me so much". In my head im thinking this is really really odd. Anyone ever had that happen?

Its weird with the INFp girl i know as a few of her uni friends dont really seem to like me much so it makes it uncomfortable with them walking up and asking her to hang out with them lol. It doesn't help that this INFp is like the most facinating little thing to look at. I just find her so curious the way she moves and handles herself. Today an ESTj girl i met started talking to me when i was walking with the beta group and i just walked off with her without saying a thing (basically i was just uncomfortable).

I need some compatible relations damn it!