Quote Originally Posted by strrrng
most ESFj's get on my nerves. My fastidious grandmother who is overly-sensitive, my neighbor who has an infinite amount of energy and is always in your face.

I don't know many ESFp's (my brother may be one, and we get along well).
How are you identifying these people's types?

Quote Originally Posted by strrrng
would ESFj's be more likely to try to control people whereas ESFp's would be more interested in having fun with the person?
It depends on what you mean. ESFjs can be controlling in some ways and ESFps can be controlling in others. I'd definitely recommend checking out quadra theory if you haven't already - in my opinion it's one of the most valuable typing tools in Socionics. ESFjs fall into Alpha quadra and ESFps into Gamma - they have quite different values in other words.