That's a pretty broad generalization, but superficially, it would be the other way around. ESFp's dominant function, Extroverted Sensing/Se/ is about exerting influence and control, and when paired with Introverted Feeling/Fi/ , it typically deals with people as a priority over concrete "things." An ESFj's dominant function, Extroverted Feeling/Fe/ , is about influencing people's moods and emotions. When paired with Introverted Sensing/Si/ , the result is a person typically concerned with creating a happy atmosphere and physical comfort. However, your descriptions are pretty vague, so "fun" and "controlling" could mean lots of different things, given the lack of context.

The best way to get started would be to read up on definitions of the functions and start learning about how they work in different positions of Model A.

One key thing that I would urge you to remember when studying Socionics: the best way to think of types is as tendencies. No one thing about a type DEFINITELY means or implies that any other property is inherent to that type. Just a tendency.

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