I was in a fight with my wife last night. It started out ok, but then for whatever reason she started to cry. it was a sensitive subject for her. I find this unusal for her, she really is more like a guy than a girl in her emotional state (outwardly expressed).
And I had absolutely, positively no empathy. I could not get inside her head and feel her feelings, even though I know the situation she was upset about and have been there myself. I was too focused on trying to fix the problem. I don't like it when emotions blur "productivity" aka.. fixing a problem. But with girls.. you gotta know the rules. Sometimes its a different game and logic does NOT apply.
But before all this we are watching a show on TV about real emergency rooms (Trauma)... and there was a baby someone brought in who was not obviously hurt, but had severe internal trauma to his head after a scan. My wife is a nanny, and she insisted that babies are built to bounce. You really have to beat the shit out of a baby in order to cause that much pain. So, when the nurse was holding the baby, who at the time was not crying, just looking around, I felt so sad and nearly cried. I did not empathize with the baby, I was simply ripped apart that anyone could do this to a baby. A little, chubby larva of a baby. So cute.
Ilm not sure why i can cry because someone beats up a baby, but not empathize. In this case the baby was i pain, and it upset me. Seeing my wife cry did not upset me.