do estjs generally lie to save face? i am having an email correspondence with one and i cant refute his points because he continues to just deny my accusations.
what is the best way to stop communicating with one? i choose to keep the distance between us but this estj continues to irritate me and mock me just to generate a reaction from me. the thing that also confuses me is the fact that this person is really nice to me when we are directly talking to each other. he just presents his attacks through texts, emails, and blog entries. sometimes i find myself asking for us to just resolve the conflict by meeting and beating the hell out of each other.
another angle that i am seeing is that this estj is probably interested in me because he really uses approaches just to get my attention to the point of hurting me and belittleing my existence (when his attempts of kindness prove futile). he continually asks for us to meet and discuss the issues and when i dont reply or when i tell if it's unnecessary he begins telling me things that can hurt me (these are mostly issues about competence).
oh yes, we are both guys. im not particularly well aware about alternative relationships so i do not know if it something to do with this person's sexuality or his being an estj.
please enlighten me. thanks.