I need tips on how not to take life too seriously. I think I'm getting too serious for my own good.
I need tips on how not to take life too seriously. I think I'm getting too serious for my own good.
Umm.. Don't try to do that. I think it'll make things worse.
Ha. Seriously, I have no idea.
INTp
sx/sp
I'm not sure whether this will help, due to the simple fact that I don't know you in person (at least, I don't think so :wink, but ...
1) Enjoy life and savour the simple joys (e.g. nature, spending time with family and friends, etc.)
2) Relax, not only physically, but emotionally/spiritually as well
3) Smile
4) Be kind and compassionate
Life is to be lived.
Five/Tanzhe
Wait. Don't smile if you don't want to. That'll give you unwanted stress. You don't want that.
INTp
sx/sp
Initial reaction:
you're going about this the wrong way Eunice
You have to find people who want you to be serious and accept that, rather than trying to make yourself suitable to others.
Keep in mind dualization and awakening the ego.
Question: What exactly are you making this thread about?
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~an extraverted consciousness is unable to believe in invisible forces.
~a certain mysterious power that may prove terribly fascinating to the extraverted man, for it touches his unconscious.
You just need a good, extremely serious ESTj, who will at the same time want to tease and play with you to draw you out of seriousness from time to time.Originally Posted by eunice
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~an extraverted consciousness is unable to believe in invisible forces.
~a certain mysterious power that may prove terribly fascinating to the extraverted man, for it touches his unconscious.
I agree with UDP.
INTp
sx/sp
Yep. Also find some ENFp's to be friends with. I tend to be very serious with my INFj friend actually. Maybe 1 out of 3 times though were in a pretty happy and silly mood. I understand what you mean though i take life too seriously aswell.Originally Posted by Mea
ENFp (Unsure of Subtype)
"And the day came when the risk it took to remain closed in a bud became more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anaïs Nin
What do you mean by "too serious"?Originally Posted by eunice
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
Realize that nothing really matters.....works for me at least. But then you don't get much accomplished...
accomplishment is overratedOriginally Posted by jessica129
Yeah. Just invisage yourself 6 ft underground. The protien protien strands in your head decomposing. Bacteria eating your dormant organs. Perhaps tiny creatures will feast on your cells. You will smell like cheese from the butyric acid. This will very likely happen to you in <100 years.
So take it how you will. Fuck it nothing matters. or I dont have much time to do what i want.
Of course most people end up somewhere in between these extremes
ENFp (Unsure of Subtype)
"And the day came when the risk it took to remain closed in a bud became more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anaïs Nin
As per Eunice's sig:
Did Olivia Ong do the original "Kiss Me" song? That is a sweet song.
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If you're in this forum to learn something, be careful. Lots of misplaced toxicity.
~an extraverted consciousness is unable to believe in invisible forces.
~a certain mysterious power that may prove terribly fascinating to the extraverted man, for it touches his unconscious.
Ffs. Prophecies of happiness from socionics. Believe in the theory and everything will work out on it's own?Originally Posted by Courage
There goes my breakfastOriginally Posted by meatburger
to answer the thread question:
hang out with alpha.
suspend your Fi for Ne.
go see a coen brothers movie.
watch cartoons.
ILE
those who are easily shocked.....should be shocked more often
You eat dead people for breakfast?Originally Posted by jessica129
ENFp (Unsure of Subtype)
"And the day came when the risk it took to remain closed in a bud became more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anaïs Nin
Thanks for the comments and suggestions by everyone so far. I didn't have the opportunity to really sit down and post earlier.
I need extra effort to take things easy and enjoy myself because of my tendency to view life as a serious matter. I love reading and discussing about heavy topics, which is rather evident from the writings I have posted under "What's My Type?". My preference for such topics can lead to an obsession when I'm not discriminating enough, to the extent that *all* my conversations with others encompasses solely on heavy topics. Anyway, I wish that I'm more bubbly, fun-loving, crazy and unfettered like other girls, but it's difficult to get a raise out of me. :wink: I try hard to have relax and have fun, but I always feel that the good feeling I have at that moment is ephemeral, so it made me unmotivated to spend time to really let loose. Even when I attempted to just sit there and do nothing, my mind is always occupied, wondering what I should be doing tomorrow, my future plans, how should I resolve such and such problem or conflict for instance.Originally Posted by Minde
@jessica and bionicgoat: I get what you mean. I'm trying to adopt a "live and let live" attitude. However, I guess I feel uncomfortable when I'm not in control just in case things don't turn up the way I have envisioned them to be.
@meatburger: ENFps are awesome people. My friends have never known how much they have made my day just by listening to me and truly understanding what I am trying to convey.
@UDP: Nope, Olivia Ong wasn't the original singer. I believe it was "Sixpence None the Richer". I agree that it's a very sweet song, an LII friend of mine loves it too. As for the comment about finding an ESTj, I'm waiting for the suitable one to come. I haven't been meeting any ESTj nowadays.
You still sound like an ISFj in need of some positivist emotioncreating there.
Obsequium amicos, veritas odium parit
Originally Posted by eunice
Why?
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Yeah, I was wondering the same thing. We definetly need LESS of that in the world.Originally Posted by Courage
SERIOUS > MERRY
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Are you being serious?Originally Posted by Courage
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Of course.
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Exactly, don't change yourself, it's really unhealthy. I've tried it before...Originally Posted by Courage
Eunice just needs to spend time around someone like me. I'm not being funny - I believe it would actually make her realize a certain amount of seriousness is natural for some people, and should not be changed.
Maybe she is actually spending too much time around alpha's and beta's if she thinks she really ought to become "less serious".
Posts I wrote in the past contain less nuance.
If you're in this forum to learn something, be careful. Lots of misplaced toxicity.
~an extraverted consciousness is unable to believe in invisible forces.
~a certain mysterious power that may prove terribly fascinating to the extraverted man, for it touches his unconscious.
I can usually help the serious people be less serious, if I enjoy their company. So I guess find someone you like from beta or alpha and spend time with them.Originally Posted by eunice
LSI
It depends on how you see the world really. I see a good argument of the world being a serious place, and for having a serious outloook.
Theres a lot of people suffering and being exploited. Were going to die one day. Sounds like serious matters to me. To roll around in material goods and gorge yourself on fine foods and comforts is really spitting these people in the face. The lucky thing is that it is often we who are unhappy not people who live simpler lives.
That being said, you need to enjoy yourself and to be happy. If you take things too seriously your unlikely to be as effective in the world. Its a mixture of being joyful and accepting and paying respect to how lucky we are.
"I knew a man once who said, Death smiles at us all. All a man can do is smile back"
- Maximus
ENFp (Unsure of Subtype)
"And the day came when the risk it took to remain closed in a bud became more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anaïs Nin
agree. there are plenty of people out there who actually appreciate serious people and aren't looking for someone silly. i'd appreciate someone serious, for sure. don't try to change!Originally Posted by Courage
6w5 sx
model Φ: -+0
sloan - rcuei
the grass is always greener.Originally Posted by jessica129
anyhow, i basically agree w/ jessica & courage. again, there is no problem at all with being serious.
6w5 sx
model Φ: -+0
sloan - rcuei
Absolutely.Originally Posted by implied
Your with us in Delta, Eunice!
DELTA PRIDE
Posts I wrote in the past contain less nuance.
If you're in this forum to learn something, be careful. Lots of misplaced toxicity.
~an extraverted consciousness is unable to believe in invisible forces.
~a certain mysterious power that may prove terribly fascinating to the extraverted man, for it touches his unconscious.
Why do you feel you need to be bubbly and crazy? What is it you sense you are missing?Originally Posted by eunice
Oh, to find you in dreams - mixing prior, analog, and never-beens... facts slip and turn and change with little lucidity. except the strong, permeating reality of emotion.
you just like let go man. you know, be free. but avoid stds in the process. When i try to be unrestrained it fails miserably and the girl i am trying to impress is completely unimpressed. So whatever, button it up. I'm not going to try anymore. a good friend of mine told me, "heath you are going to be alone forever." I said, "yeah probably." but then my other friend said, "yeah that's okay though, you are very productive by yourself." it's true. anyway, back to not coming here.
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Sorry heath. I can see peoples futures. You will have no problems in that department. Something tells me you wont read it lolOriginally Posted by heath
Serious people think non serious people are like too happy, overbearing, shallow etc
Non Serious people think serious people are stiff, booring, unoriginal etc
ENFp (Unsure of Subtype)
"And the day came when the risk it took to remain closed in a bud became more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anaïs Nin
I feel stupid... I don't understand how you guys can think serious is good: doesn't change productivity but it makes you feel worse.
If you are worried about the world's problems, or your own, do something about it instead of "paying respect", and if you can do it while being merry, isn't that better for you?
LSI
I guess I need to rephrase: why don't you think merry is better in the first place? What good comes out of being serious?Originally Posted by Thunder
I agree with you guys that forcing oneself is generally not a good idea, so I guess Eunice is screwed, even though I think good company can always cheer people up.
Still I'd like to understand why you like that seriousness about yourselves.
LSI
If you like being merry in the sense of "having fun in a particular moment", you like it because it actually raises your spirits, despite your inner thoughts and feelings. So the "merry fun" can overrule your inner thoughts and feelings, even if for a moment, and you like that.Originally Posted by PotatoSpirit
If you prefer being serious, it's because it doesn't work that way. "Having fun in a particular moment" does not overrule your inner thoughts and feelings, and attempts to do it just strike you as pointless and shallow. It simply does not work.
In some not-very-pleasant periods in my life, people kept trying to drag me to parties or the like, to make me "have fun and feel better". I always declined, because I knew that not only it would not work, but my own gloominess would annoy them and make them think that I "wasn't even trying".
So, do not think in terms of "what good comes out of it". Try to imagine that it is simply different for others, and accept it, and that your own behavior is as odd to them as theirs is to you.
Consider this, though -- when serious people are happy, laughing, etc, it's because they really are.
, LIE, ENTj logical subtype, 8w9 sx/sp
Originally Posted by implied
Yeah. Ive watched an ESTp and ENFj banter and it was quite comedic. They refreshed each other by laughing and pointing out stupid things etc and bagging each other and others, smiles etc.
In contrast, an ESTj and I tend to talk about serious matters. What hes had to endure at medschool, how everyone else is going, current news matters etc.
Im perfectly comfortable with this, i feel refreshed in fact talking to someone like minded. Its not like we never laugh etc its just more like a quiet chuckle etc. The ESTj in fact has a ESTp brother who gets really annoyed when we go into our 1 on 1 serious talk mode. When him and his friend go off on their tangents we cant really keep up as easily. Its like i will actually think what they have said is funny but my enjoyment from their little exchanges only lasts 1/5 of the time it lasts for them.
ENFp (Unsure of Subtype)
"And the day came when the risk it took to remain closed in a bud became more painful than the risk it took to blossom." - Anaïs Nin
Ok, so you are saying that serious people have less ability to enjoy merriness for the sake of it.Originally Posted by Expat
And you are saying they have more ability to enjoy... other weird stuff (c:Originally Posted by meatburger
I think combining the two I understand, and Thunder's post seems to point to the same thing.
LSI
The word "ability" still has the bias of your own point of view all over it.Originally Posted by PotatoSpirit
Why not say "less need" or "less inclination" or "less desire"? With "ability", you are implying it's something desirable. For you, yes. Not necessarily to others.
, LIE, ENTj logical subtype, 8w9 sx/sp
Originally Posted by implied